Thursday, July 29, 2010

What's the Difference?

Because faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God (Romans 10:17 KJV), I can't help but to stress over and over the importance women of God have to raise the bar and not settle for anything less than what God has prepared for us.

I woke this morning and had an epiphany. Why would I want to take care of a man? Why should a man date a potential wife to make sure she knows how to cook  and clean? That just sounds more like a job interview for a maid. Does a woman come into a marriage with the preconceived notion that the dynamics of her marriage is based on her physical ability to do household maintenance?

What can a man do? What does he have issues with? He can't do laundry and that's why he needs a wife? If she marries him for that, she deserves what she gets? Can he cook? If he can't, get a cookbook!!! That is still not a reason to get married.

What does he need a wife for? The bible doesn't state that she needs a husband until after the fall of man. So if you are crying about,"when oh when, Lawd!" You need to check that flesh!

There is a confidence and an assurance in righteousness (Isaiah 32:17 KJV). As much as men talk about being attracted to the outward appearance, to us (women), the outward appearance is the affects of the overflow. The Word states that bodily exercise profits little (1 Timothy 4:8 KJV) and speaks of the skill, much more often, one has in walking in love (Ephesians 5:2 KJV), crucifying the affections of the flesh (Galatians 5:24 KJV), and the fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:21-23 KJV). So why then do we dress the barn when all that is stored in it is rotten

A man needs a wife for all of the things he cannot do himself:
1. Sex: One might think he can have sex by himself for relief - the adults know otherwise.
2. Procreation: Women thought they could have babies by themselves in the 80's and then the babies grew looking for answers and why there is a void that shouldn't be there.
3. Companionship: Dogs (man's best friend) are limited. He will eventually desire to get an answer back.
Now when some get to a certain age, procreating is the farthest thing from their minds - biologically speaking. Honestly, by that age, some no longer have the desire to marry. According to Paul, this is good. However for sons of God, we focus on what God has called us to do. Study and keep the bar high.

I just don't believe people marrying and it being inevitable that the couple should struggle, financially, socially, with time management and other aspects of their lives. They say, its the newlyweds getting use to each other. I say its a living condition without preparation (i.e., no plan).

Jesus returned to heaven to prepare a place for His bride (the church) and we are to be following Jesus in our everyday lives; then we should be at the ready for His return. To make that a little more myopic: seeing that man should love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25 KJV), he should also leave for a time before marriage and have a place prepared for her. There is no struggle of the two trying to create a life together. Where is the joy in that? Where is it written that one should lose a measure of Kingdom Living until he can get it together (Romans 14:17 KJV)?

Be delivered. A virtuous woman doesn't struggle but tells  her servants what they should do (Proverbs 31:15 AMP). If we look at the matter as a peculiar people (1 Peter 2:9 KJV), then we will see it different fromt he world's reasoning. "In my Father's house there are many mansions (John 14:2 KJV)." That sounds as if it is already DONE; but then again, isn't that what Jesus said (John 19:30 KJV)?

So Heavenly Minded

The question is when has one exceeded the overflow? There just comes a time where we have to stop and assess our lives and ask ourselves some practical questions. Is it what God called you to do? Are you doing more than what He said to do? Granted, sometimes we just can't help ourselves being made in His image and He being more than enough; however, after His work, the Word states that He saw and said it is good. There was a moment where He canvased all. When do we see what we have done and can call it good? Was it in God? Was it in ourselves whose agenda is subject to change?

God has told us to plan and write it down. He tells us to make it plain. Why would such simple instruction be note worthy? Could it be that we could lose focus, be discouraged by others, be influenced by some other idea, or be predisposed to be a man-pleaser?

I believe I wrote about this before; however, I have received new insight on the matter. It was about that ministry where the pastor taught that single female congregants so well that the single men had to make a decision. They either had to raise the bar of their provision for their perspective mates or seek for a spouse outside of that ministry. The women saw that some men choose the latter. The men stated that the women had too much attitude for them. The women became angry not understanding who would be to blame as they waited to be found. I spoke to one woman who was so angry I began to wonder if I had done something to her. Another believed she came so close to her perspective husband but with no results. She had an emotional breakdown.

There isn't a  scripture stating that one is so heavenly minded that you are no earthly good. We look up because it is where we get our help. Our help comes from the Lord (Psalms 121:1-2 KJV). Yet, we are here on earth for a reason by which we cannot lose sight of.

Men, as us women learn more of God and what we need to do to improve ourselves, our obedience is coupled with Wisdom and revelation knowledge. We advance and become mature. Because of the maturation in Him, blessings come more speedily. That which we understand is less likely to be rejected but handled with care. Don't you see, God has raised the bar so that she could be even more of a blessing to her perspective husband. The favor he receives is overwhelming because of it. It is like a treasure you couldn't fathom. She knows this, but when she sees that whom she believed was that prospect, sets his sights elsewhere, she gets discouraged, emotional, and starts saying things (whether in prayer, to herself, or venting to a girlfriend) that depletes her faith, gives the enemy place, and that which she has overcome comes faces to face with her again.

Ladies, why fear? Alright, it has been a long wait and you already know that patience must have her perfect work in its entirety wanting nothing (James 1:4 KJV). Know that when he didn't pursue you and went after another, it is because he refused to meet God's expectations for you. He refused sonship. He refused what he needed to provide for you. It could have been so simple, just understand and remember that the Spirit  wars against flesh and the flesh against the Spirit (Galatians 5:16-18 KJV). If he didn't take heed to what the Spirit was telling him, you dodged a household of turmoil. That would have been a raging inferno coming from a single fiery dart. Instead of losing all that you have gained, give thanks. God is good all of the time.

Now know that which I have referred to the men could also be for the ladies and that which I wrote for the ladies could be for the men.

If he is a king among men, God would not have him with a bar fly. If she is truely a virtuous woman, God would not match her with someone always trying and producing nothing. You see being heavenly minded is not a bad thing. Make assessments of your progress. Be still for a time (Psalms 46:10 KJV) to know that God is pleased with you; and be content in whatever state that you are in (Philippians 4:11 KJV). Trust that God is still in control ordering the steps of a righteous man and guiding you with His eye (Psalm 32:8 NKJ). The righteous path has been made plain (Psalm 27:11 KJV) and that rough side of the mountain has been cast into the sea (Mark 11:23 KJV). With those things completed you know that you have been and are earthly good as well (Romans 8:6 KJV).

Thursday, July 22, 2010

When Does Beauty Fade?

For many of us we take the chance with this verse in the bible because we are so enamored by what we see, we don't realize that love just doesn't work this way - especially for the devoted Christian. If you would recall, God is love and it is impossible to please Him without faith (Hebrews 11:6 KJV). Seeing that faith is the substance we hope for and the evidence not seen, how then can we equate love based on what we see? With this understanding, we can tell that beauty has already faded.

The verse had also been taught that beauty fades because of age. But the verse doesn't say that. The lesson is taught based on again not experience but what has been seen. There are many of the elderly that if we saw a picture of what they looked like in their younger years, you couldn't recognize them. The mother of a high school classmate had family pictures on a mantel in her home. When I visited them, I saw the pictures and tried to examine them closer. The mate's mother saw me looking at the pictures and began explaining who each one was. I could recognize her husband and the family resemblance in other family members, but then there was this photograph of an absolutely gorgeous woman that seemed out of place with the other pictures. She didn't look like any of the other family members. The mother of the classmate paused for me to guess. She looked so pleased. I didn't know who that was. So I asked. She exclaimed with such pitch in her voice as if I should have been able to see - it was her! I suppose the expression on my face and the loss of pleasure she had in her eyes, said it all.

There was a series of films back in the late 60's early 70's where the main character's name was Flint. The actor was either James Coburn or Lee Marvin ( I usually got the two mixed up). Neither of these men are actually attractive and yet the producers gave him the role to play a handsome secret agent. I recall asking my mother what it was that caused the women to swarm around him. She explained that beauty is sometimes found within. Being a confident, strong man can also be very attractive. I suppose I had to be more mature to understand that reasoning was my next thought at the time. I do believe when my mother explained that to me, I was seven.

As a grown divorced mother of five grown children, there would be times alone I wondered what caused me to accept the invitation to date. Usually the men were very attractive. I enjoyed the attention and was ready to get more. Then in the conversation, some of them hoped on the temporary advice they received before going on the date. It use to be that women were drawn to those who could be funny. The comparison to Woody Allen comes to mind. To some degree, I liked to laugh and it was a selling point. But then, laughter wasn't going to pay bills and the realization of being married and homeless wasn't funny. Women don't use that universal description of men as much any more. So then the dates were very quiet - which was also very boring. I had dates that were action packed so there never was any time to get to know each other. Then the ones that were talkers on the phone. You know, the ones where the conversation ended with, "you hang up first, no, you. Okay we will do it together. (pause) Hello? You didn't hang up!" Yeah, I didn't do that. When he said, "hello?" thinking I hadn't hung up, I did and would no longer accept his calls. You see, for me the beauty faded.

Can you see, marriage isn't the eye opener? It is the fact that people grow up and change from how we use to think. If you marry based on looks then there is a fear that you will lose the foundation of the relationship - beauty. That fear gives the enemy place. It is a sin. Sin will look to collect its wage - which is death (Romans 6:23 KJV). Death of the marriage. Death of a relationship. Death of confidence. I see the verse of beauty fading as more of a warning to us all.

Remember the list of things you would like for your spouse to be? I am thoroughly convinced that any list that we might have about someone else is more of a list of the things we need to improve upon ourselves. Posing the list for God based on some other verse you found and using out of context, tells God that you are not using faith, you are insecure, and you just don't trust Him. Nevertheless, He will give you what you wish for and He is already there in that mire waiting for you to realize what you did when you created that list. You will be calling Him again, but this time it won't be as easy to get up from because now you know. Will you still do it?

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Irreconcilable Differences

Knowing that arguing doesn't promote righteousness and it is necessary to have righteousness for Kingdom Living, what would the differences be between a man and a woman to the point of not speaking to one another and worse, the reason for a divorce? This blog entry is placed here for Christian singles to realize that at least the last two generations have messed up with relationships and you must get it right to regain the strength of the family again. I know, it seems a long way around the mulberry bush to get to the point; but just bare with me so you can see where I am going with this.

There is a verse in the scriptures where the first relationship with man and woman have been misinterpreted for years and clarity has to begin somewhere for the seed to grow, harvest to be gathered and productivity to continue (Genesis 3:16 KJV).

Remember in Genesis at the fall of man, the disobedience of Adam led to the curse where God was specific about the punishment. I found it interesting where He said to the woman how she will feel about her husband. It was as if she wasn't supposed to fawn over him. When I first read that, I thought, "what kind of punishment is that? Aren't we supposed to do that anyway?" And then I went back to the beginning and read how God created the earth. After He finished the majority of His creations, He looked at it and saw, "it is good."(Gensis 1:12, 18, 21, 25, 31 KJV) But the thing was He paused for a moment and looked over what He had done thus far. When He did, then He decided that it was not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18 KJV). Selah.

I did the same thing. I was looking at nature programs and actually seeing what God created. It was like I had never seen all of this before and then I got it!!! Have you really looked at the way animals behave? Have you seen that which God has called clean and their behavior? The females are oblivious to the males. The males have to go through such acrobatics just to get her attention and still if there is another that is bigger and has a better environment, then she considers him. If he has a better dance or his colors are more vibrant, if he sings the loudest or smells the strongest then he wins. But his performance better be up to par in order to win her over. Then he continues to do for her making sure that the offspring is cared for, the home is to her liking and for certain species, they are mates for life.

When God looked over this, and said that it is not good for man to be alone, would He have the woman to do the exact opposite of what the female animals do? The curse was punishment for direct disobedience in believing a stranger rather than the what the Creator had done and given so freely. The stranger had done nothing but make suggestions for the sole (pun intended) purpose of the fall.

These days women have changed the roles and do back flips to keep a man who has no intentions of staying. He doesn't ask her hand in marriage because he gets all without doing anything to get it. He looks for someone to care for him and then when he is tired, he can leave. There are no strings nor laws that is keeping him. When she realizes this, the courts don't agree. There is no laws to keep him - it is a free country and he doesn't have to stay. There are some women that create ties with "palimony" but you have to have the money and a lawyer who has the patience to fight for that unworthy cause. What can she do to keep her man when he has no desire to marry but has strung her along all of this time? She gets pregnant!!!  Now the string is a rope and he feels trapped as if a noose is around his neck. The courts are all involved now and he gets his checks garnished. He wasn't going to do what is right and she reciprocated. Seed sown. After some years, she realizes that he wasn't all that she thought he was, but its too late. She created a bond that needs his participation for the next 18 years. So she can reconciles herself to the journey or creates a means to cause him never to return. She says things to emasculate him - either to his face, on the phone, or directly to the child (Proverbs 14:1 AMP). He no longer desires to be around her not even for the sake of the child. She wins that battle by not ever having to see him again but she also loses because she doesn't see the destruction she caused in her child until it is too late. How can she win and lose? Sounds like confusion and God is not the author of that (1 Corinthians 14:33 KJV)! It is one of the reasons why He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 AMP).

There is a time where the skill of patience is not being used as much as it should. Women must re-educate themselves of the generations past. Yes, it does seem archaic to be sitting at a spool spinning yarn or doing needle point to pass the time, but at least the men knew where to find the women and were confident that she wasn't looking around for someone else. I know men have been doing this for years (wild oat sowing) and consequently - it is their harvest as to what has been happening for decades, but it doesn't mean that we all must remain in the state of disobedience like Adam. Jesus did come. He has overcame the world. Women are not suppose to fawn over the men. It is the other way around. Oh, and FYI ladies, if he doesn't keep fawning over you even years after the wedding bells have chimed, it is because he is fawning over someone else. Remember what Jesus told the husbands to do because of what He had already done (Ephesians 5:25 AMP)? Paul remembered and then repeated it (Colossians 3:19 NIV). Jesus is still caring for the, who are we following?

Wednesday, July 14, 2010


I had written about my son's godmother before. She has since gone home to be with the Lord. She was an elderly woman who loved the Lord and usually stayed to herself. When asked she had wonderful words of Wisdom and was a wealth of information yet she was prudent with whom she shared her information with (Proverbs 8:12 KJV). At the same time that my now ex-husband and I chose this woman to be our son's godmother, we also selected an elderly man who was one of the elders in the church. He had never been married and stated many times that he wasn't interested in marriage. Oh, by the way, my son's godmother was a widow. Without mentioning it, we thought it was a good selection and if there happened to be a spark between the two of them, well so be it.

How odd when she asked who we chose for the godfather that she would look repulsed at the sound of his name. Had he done something to her or said something distasteful? I just caught it at the corner of my eye. She saw me. I didn't ask her and she would  have never divulged what she was feeling at the sound of his name. It wasn't too many weeks after the christening of my son, did his godfather announce that he was now ready to be married. I had forgotten all about her expression from before and was elated that the elder came to his senses. We, my ex and myself, along with the congregation knew who the woman of his desires would be (actually there were no other women compatible to his age in the ministry). We all smiled at her. Her expression was stoic - at the least.

There is this man at my place of employment. He resides in the building and has been single his entire life. He receives a pension now; which is indicative of what his age could be. He usually doesn't talk much but when he does, its to argue some arbitrary point that no one else is interested in. He has told a number of other people in the community that he was once a lawyer but personally aside from the arguing, I just don't see that. He has made it known to one or two elderly women that he is still interested in sex but he doesn't have much to comment about when it comes to marriage. Each day he wore the same shirt and kakhi pants with either flip flops or Birkenstocks. He allowed his jet black hair to become unruly and smoothed it out of his face when needed and his white goatee grew to his chest. He eats his meals alone and burps in public. If has to scratch, he just does it. And if there is that occasional boogar that needs to be removed at any given point, well it just has to be taken care of at that moment right there. Before revealing all of these disgusting habits, he decided to speak to me about faith. Him being Jewish, I found his views interesting though many were incorrect by the standards of the Word. It wasn't long before he was finding reasons to stay away from me and even creating a public situation where we would have to argue and he would have reason not to speak to me any further. I suppose he had to and I didn't have a problem with it.

It was about 10 months (or so) later that I saw this man get a haircut and a shave. He was burning music to a CD and trying to learn the lyrics to specific songs. He bought new shirts and pants and began looking like he might have had an education as a lawyer. He still didn't speak to many people but his disposition improved vastly. The obvious conclusion would be that he finally has met someone. Well, let's go with that for a moment.

What if he met someone like the single godparents of my son? What would be so wrong for these men to finally seeing the light of day and realizing what God said is true, "it isn't good for man to be alone?" It is what that kind elderly woman saw that so many younger women don't see and go down the aisle anyway. She didn't see the love of God in him. How selfish is a man to live his entire life as he sees fit and then when he can't do what he use to because of health, age, fitness, or realizing that he will be alone, then those final last few breathes of air should be left for someone to care for him. That isn't loving her as Christ loves the church! That's loving himself all the way to the grave. That repulsion that she did is the expression single women of God she all do when she is convince that he is courting her because he is tired of taking care of himself. These men waited and are elderly but the new generation has this idea early. Where are the men to teach them differently?

Which comes to the momentary difference. The change that the Jewish man could have had. I don't mean to write and be jaded against all men who have decided to wait and be watchful with whom to spend the rest of their life with. Because the change that can come over men who have struggled to be men can come and continually be taught through a means that would confound the wise (1 Corinthians 1:27 KJV). God, by which man was created is a father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:4-6 KJV) and can teach better that any mere mortal could. He is the same today, yesterday, and forever. His ways are higher than ours. Those higher ways would then be better. Of course a change can come over people for the better. We hope for those changes. It is what we have prayed for with many of our family members. It is the only kind of change that is genuine, sincere, and lasting.

When a man suddenly changes (without the assistance of God) after he has annoyed so many people with his lack of hygiene, manners, and arrogance in speech, it is because he knew what he was doing all along and chose to continue with that behavior. He then has an epiphany about himself and then becomes the rational human being that society welcomes. He is perpetrating for his own purposes. A woman that is fooled by his con game will see the light after the vows have been spoken. It is why we see men marrying women who are younger and younger. The younger ones can be fooled easier. The repulsion is a clear indication of not only wisdom making herself known without words but God showing those things that He hates.

Friday, July 9, 2010

Deal Breakers!

In Biblical times a deal was made by exchanging livestock, one's children, or parcels of land. Breaking deals were unheard of because it was a question of integrity and character not just for the one breaking the deal but for the whole family. Breaking a deal was the makings of a full fledged feud...well, that was back then.

Breaking deals have now been done so casually as if expected. Character isn't in question unless large sums of money, land, or any other luxurious possession is attached. With those attachments comes papers to be sued and long court battles until the only ones pleased with the outcome are the attorneys. The plaintiff or the defendant's consolation is the principle of the matter. Last time I checked, principles don't pay bills.

What about relationships? Having the Christian principles in place and knowing that the bending (or eliminating) of the rules has its own consequences (1 John 1:9 AMP), what must happen in order for the deal to be broken? What will it take to call off the wedding, engagement, the dating process? Well, let's name some things. Go through them slowly as if it was information for you to ponder personally. Would you call the whole thing off? Ladies first.

Ladies, this is a generic scenario. A nice loving fellow - he is. Having a good job, seemingly level headed; he has a few skeletons in his closet - but who doesn't? Then he decides to tell you something that is only for you to know. You have already made a non-refundable deposit on the flowers, cake, band, and wedding planner. Is it a deal breaker if he tells any one of these things:
-  He use to sell drugs to help make ends meet; though he's given that life up sometime ago. The last time he sold drugs was 3 months ago. It was to help out a friend.

-  He whispered to you that he has this favorite sexual position where his knees are bent and you will have to... well, it's something like the Hokey Pokey with a little Twister involved. He would like for you to consider doing this at least 2-3 times a week to satisfy him. Does it sound scary, painful, exciting, or intriguing?

-  He makes the announcement that you will have to toss all memorabilia from your childhood and past now that you are making a new life with him. There is no compromise... he has spoken.

-  He loves you but he loves his cyber-sex too.

-  He has a bottle of red wine with his evening meal, everyday.

That's it ladies. Pretty tame? Do you see a problem with any or all of the situations given? Look down the road a bit with each one - like 10 years down the road. Is there a problem with any of those situations now? Immature women would say, "who knows, you can't tell the future from that little bit of information." Women who are use to seeking God's face knowing that the Holy Spirit will lead you in all truth and show (John 16:13 KJV) you things to come has already sought Wisdom early (Proverbs 8:17 KJV) while they could and can see what others can't (Proverbs 1:28 KJV). Its the Greater One on the inside that is here and there and those mature women have the skills as well. With that in mind and seeing down that 10 year road with any one of those aforementioned scenarios, what do you look like? What is the health of the marriage? See any deal breakers or is it more important not to lose your deposit?

Now gentlemen, being the heads of the household is a myopic view of being heads of state. The embarking upon the responsibility of myopic ism is enormous, but would you plan otherwise if the ducks weren't lined so perfect and straight? This is your generic scenario: She is a beautiful woman who loves the Lord and has shown clear indications of reverencing you on a continuum. She does have some weird ones in her family - but who doesn't? It is not about them. It is you and her and the life you will have together. So what rips through all of that to break the deal?

- She keeps her "nubby" in her purse that she rubs on when she is under pressure. She also sleeps with it at night and only sucks her thumb during that time as well.

-  She has you aware, finally of her all consuming hatred for a certain ethnicity. Having some well thought out reasons for the hatred, she refuses to relinquish her views.

-  She has a deep seeded fear of not having enough because of her large family and she being the youngest, so she hoards money and explains it to you with tears in her eyes that she will never, ever, ever be without.

-  She has kept it quiet for all of these months but you have noticed something strange. She tries to get out of the door before you can open it for her. Though she makes a joke of it, you see her finger tapping the door knob 7 times. When you get the chance to open the door for her, she finds a reason to linger long enough to tap the threshold 7 times. Now you see it is any door - the car, kitchen, cabinet, the slot to the DVD player, it just doesn't matter... or does it?

-  She doesn't shave at all. I mean the hair under her arms and on her legs are thicker than yours. You have seen arm pit hair in the summer when she wears sleeveless tops. She says its too time consuming and when its starts to grow back, it itches. She says it has nothing to do with hygiene and you will get use to it in time. Just about to reconcile yourself to the idea, you notice two whiskers making its beginnings on the side of her chin.

There you have it. Ten different scenarios; five each. The guys might think that the women have it easy and the gals don't know what the men have to think about. It is those differences that can makes life irreconcilable... that is, without the Lord.

Women allowing matters to go too far and still making deposits on wedding incidentals while knowing that the toleration level has been reached. When do you say when? Drugs and alcohol is Christianity 101 (Proverbs 31:6 KJV). Headship and domineering are not synonymous to each other. Why do we wait so long before finding out that he could be some sex freak? Remember before accepting that ring, no stone should be left unturned. You don't have to try out the goods to know whether someone is lying or not. If you did try out the goods, you still wouldn't know.

Gentlemen, why would you continue with wedding plans if she has even a modicum of fear? Don't you recall that faith can be the size of a mustard seed (Mark 4:30-32 KJV)? When planted it can grow to house a host of things. If you allow fear to have its way, what kind of damage will it do to a marriage? Remember the characteristics of the devil: steal, kill, and destroy. God operates by faith. Satan operates through fear. What communion does one have with the other (2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV)? About the hairy one... when is enough enough? Are you going to change her? How deep seeded are her views? Would you like that added task with all of the other things that God has called you to do? Does it sound easy to deal with? Is that what your help looks like? She sounds like she needs more of your help rather than the other way around.

Deal Breakers can be a test of a woman /man's character and integrity. If he remains in a deal when he sees that it doesn't look good and he should have done a little more research, then the best thing is recoup your losses and get out as quickly as possible. That is the best thing to do in business. In relationships - before marriage, for a man and a woman it is a test of character when you see something wrong and you know the right thing to do is louder than continuing with the relationship (James 4:17 AMP).

Will she be upset when he breaks off the engagement? Sure she will and some may have a fit. But as you look at her go through what she will go through, think how much worse that will be if you had to live with a woman who would behave in such a way for the rest of your life. Let her make her scene and even allow her to keep the ring. A small penalty for a life time of peace (Psalms 34:14 NIV).

And ladies, if you see what he doesn't, call the wedding off and give him his ring. It will make him quiet to know he doesn't have to be in debt. Even if you contemplated and were plotting for him to call the wedding off so you could keep the ring because its so beautiful and all sparkly.... yeah, you know that God sees your heart and that evil plot you just acted on is conjuring its way back atcha! Its just not worth it. Keep the peace (1 Peter 3:11 NIV)!

Saturday, July 3, 2010

What If....?

Ladies, what if the Holy Spirit, Who shows us things to come (John 16:13 KJV), allowed you to see who your spouse is. He showed you and without a doubt you know it is him because of how you feel on the inside and you like what you see. Now, what is it that you need to do at that instant? Is there any instruction that the Holy Spirit is giving you? Would there be? If He is showing you who he is, would He be telling you anything else? You already know what the Word says about the matter. Should you wait to see if he (the guy) gets the same information and has the same reaction as you? Should you tell your friends hoping they can give you more insight than what the Holy Spirit gave you? Wisdom states to find her early while you can (Proverbs 8:1-17 KJV). Where would she be in all of this? While you selah on that, the men have their own situation.

Gentlemen, what if the Holy Spirit made the presentation of her (Genesis 2:22 MSG)? You can tell it is the Holy Spirit as you always have and He is directing you to see the woman you tried to search for based on the Psalm scripture.You cried and wailed for a wife and now His is showing you who she is. At the same time, He is telling her who you are. Your eyes meet at the exact same time and something within ignites. Its the chemistry that everyone says happens when you see "the one". Really? you say to yourself. You are all tingly happy and scared at the same time. What do you do now? Do you get your suave walk and rap together? What is the next thing that is supposed to happen?

You both are staring at each other some distance away. Others see the two of you and neither one of you has still made a move. Both of you feel the same thing. Having never experienced this before, she waits for him to do somthing. He shakes his head as if to wake from a trance and moves on with his day. What was that, you both say to yourself and to the Holy Spirit. There is no answer.

This scenario actually happened. It is more than likely has happened to a few people. With one minister, he married the woman of his dreams and continues to hear clear sound instruction from God. While the entranzed woman who had the chemistry lock with said minister couldn't believe he married someone else. According to the other congregants, the woman's emotional frame of mind had to be strengthened. To another man, he asked all of his church buddies and actually showed them who the woman was. He received all sorts of information about the woman. All of which were lies. He even hired a private investigator and what turned up was an average credit score. The credit score made his mind up for him. She waited and waited. She asked one associate about it hypothetically. The associate answered, if he hasn't approached her by now, he's just not interested. Not liking the advice, the woman continued to wait knowing that there had to be some thread in it if he sees her and ignores her existence. She had to come to terms years later and then questioned whether she actually heard from God at all.

The conclusion of this entry isn't the twinklie frosted edged ever after that's seen in the movies. Once we grow from baby to child, things change. We just don't react in the same manner as we use to. We have learned lessons. We study more and the testing of a man's heart is more often than not. Creflo Dollar, a well known tele-evangelist and senior pastor of World Changers International Ministries, uses the analogy of a believer hearing the word, "Africa". Based on the one word, he packs, sells what he can't pack, quits his job, buys a ticket, and leaves for Africa. Once there he asks God, "now what?" And God says, "....make a financial donation to the organization before leaving the church building.... which is what I said 2 days ago when I began with Africa." The point Pastor Dollar was making is for the believer not  to be so impulsive.

If God really makes the presentation to a man, there is nothing else he would need to do. The anxiety and fear won't allow you to hear anything else if it is truely God. To make an impulsive move on your own to the direction of such a life altering decision, could be catastrophic. We just aren't prompted by feelings anymore. Babies are. They have the tendency to be moved by what they see rather than the faith walk. We are supposed to test all things to know that they are right. Every voice must be tested and it must match, correspond, and is parallel witht he Word of God (1 John 4:1-3 AMP). Anything else like captivating eyes, does just that - holds captive. The truth sets you free.