Love) is the greater one housed in each of us. Understanding this, the bible then teaches of how to incorporate who and what He is into our lives. Jesus tells us of the greater commandments (Matthew 22:37-40 AMP). Paul defines Love in terms that can best be applied into our daily lives (1 Corinthians 13:3-9 AMP). James makes reference to specific oppositional actions that tell us the love of God couldn't possibly be in such a person (James 2:8-12 AMP). With those directives and instructions, clearly we could not have the ability to make such a thing that created and has the blue prints of who we are (Jeremiah 1:5 AMP). Its foolish to think otherwise or continue to use the phrase even in the most romantic of situations.
Of those 3 scriptural references, I would like to expound on the last one; being that an action could mean that the Love of God could possibly not be in a person. It brings to mind a popular song from the 80's. Its from the singing group (oddly enough), Foreigner. A part of the lyrics is,
I want to know what Love is.
I want you to show me.
I wanna feel what Love is.
I know you can show me.
Did the writer know what he/she was asking? Did the singer believe what the song really means? Who was he singing to? Is his reference scriptural or emotional? Does he wish for God to show him or is he appealing to a woman for sex? It was the 80's. Most of us would probably believe the latter having sung that song several times myself. For the purposes of dating, the love of God must be detected before asking or accepting an invitation for a date. How can this be done without going out for conversation and to see how one behaves socially? Simple.
If you practice the principles often enough, it becomes your regular routine. You don't have to think about it anymore. Waking up to prepare for the day is normal. To choose not to gossip because it stirs up strife is elementary (Proverbs 17:9 AMP). Not to have pre-marital sex is obvious (1 Corinthians 6:18 AMP). Being considerate of others is like breathing. All of these things show how much love takes precedence. If you were to see a person who does not exemplify these very basic things, would you still ask/accept an invitation for a date with that person? Of course not.
Recognizing Love is what allows the next level to happen. The next level being, the very first date. What next level did you think I was referring to - hm?