Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Criminal Background - Check!

What would make a person hire a private investigator or have a criminal background check on the one he/she is dating? Does it make sense, even in these days and times? What would this background check prove? What would the photographs that the private investigator obtained prove? What if nothing was found? Is the person now trustworthy? Will he/she ever cheat? Will the dating process for the purposes of marriage continue? Will you be less insecure (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV)?

Because of the way people are, our past experiences, and/or the lessons from those who have had
worse experiences, we have become jaded with the care free wonderfulness a relationship can bring. Two people in agreement with ethics, values, morals, a Christian lifestyle Monday through Sunday (24/7), how to raise children, where to live, who will be at home and who will be making the income, house work, yard work, the budget, vacations, etc. Why wouldn't it be wonderful? It was destined by God - right?

I have to be honest. I used to be relieved when finding that anyone can get a criminal background check on anyone else. Having listened to so many women talk about their boyfriends and husbands in the strangest way, to have such the tool should have been some sort of relief for them as well. Nevertheless, the same question asked earlier remains unanswered. Just because the papers say there is no criminal activity, does it prove their moral code is in tact or that the criminal hasn't been caught yet? How would you know?

A pastor advised the singles in his congregation to not only get a criminal check of the person he/she is dating but also a credit check. His reasoning was, why work so hard to get your life together only to get married to someone who didn't do the work? Again, what will the history prove? Someone who never makes large purchases and pays everything in cash will not have a high credit rating. This would be "bad" credit to mortgage lenders. What would you do then?

Putting this in perspective of real Christian dating, God hears the prayers of the righteous (James 5:16 KJV). We have faith and trust Him. He will lead us in the paths of righteousness for His names' sake (Psalm 23:3 KJV). Because of these things, He will not couple someone whose heart and mind is stayed on Him with someone who is pretending (Isaiah 26:3 KJV). We already know that which is hidden will be brought to light (1 Corinthians 4:5 KJV). If you could do it all yourself, then you are already perfect and should be translated on home. For the rest of us still striving for perfection, still keeping ourselves humble, still hearing from the Comforter, and still waiting for patience to have her perfect work, God is in control. We should receive peace from that instead of being anxious allowing all sorts of thoughts to take over, giving place to an enemy that has been waiting for the opportunity.

If you have been practicing the things that Jesus told us to do (Matthew 6:33 KJV), when meeting "the one", your flesh isn't stirred. Why? Because it has been diligently crucified with its lusts and affections (Galatians 5:24 KJV). The words spoken to each other will be reminiscent of the things you have prayed about. Your interests are similar. Your ideals match each other's. Your long termed future outlook is refreshing to the other's perspective. It is essentially an outward manifestation of God's delight in you.

I implore you to trust in Him before meeting "the one". You won't want to find out why you needed this crucial element later in life.