I am striving to be more like Him just like we all strive to do and I know we are at all different levels of maturity...still, don't you see some things can cause you to say to yourself, what were you thinking? Or how stupid are you? Or even still use some other colorful phrase that could possibly question if you are a Christian (1 Thessalonians 5:23 AMP)? Honestly, I have.
But what else can you do when you see people do the silliest things and then ask God why... why... WHY?!!! Its not His fault. He told you to let Him be at the helm of your life (Proverbs 3:6 AMP). He told you to put on praise (Isaiah 61:3 AMP), the whole armor of God (Ephesians 6:11 AMP), and His love (1 Thessalonians 5:8 AMP). He told you not to do evil for evil but to pray for those that do wrong to you and bless those that spitefully use you (Matthew 5:44 KJV). He told you not to give the devil a place in your life (Ephesians 4:27 KJV). He told you to think good things and be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to wrath (James 1:19 AMP). Did we listen? How has that fared for you? If asked, are you living holy (James 1:19 AMP)? What would your answer be?
In this spanking brand new year, we have the tendency to wish to start off fresh. We make those resolutions
I haven't stopped writing ways for you to picture yourself in situations. I do this when these sorts of matters come to me and its a means for us to realize how we can make our lives better. Now, visualize a man navigating a large vessel out of a quarry. The helm of the ship is nestled in jagged rocks and he has to figure out how to get out of there. Unless he is a qualified navigator, there is no way he can get out of that mess without damaging the vessel. He can take out his compass, the manual to the ship, and the best crew to help him and will still not be able to get out of such a jam. When I first thought of this, I was going to write it a different way, thinking that there just may be a way for him to do it. But the question came, "How did he get there in the first place?" Wasn't he watching where the ship was going? Wasn't he steering? Did he leave his post? Did he give the steering wheel to someone who was inexperienced? If none of those questions can be answered definitively, then no... he can't get the ship out of that mess. He wasn't qualified to run the vessel in the first place.
Is that a judgement call? Do you have the right to make such a judgement? Can you make such a judgement and if so, when? What about when you are dating and you become so emotionally involved with the person? Can he/she handle being in a relationship or are they in it for the fun of it? Has a plan been mapped out or is that too grown up or serious to discuss? Can you just be friends without being so serious about one another? Can you take the chance that he/she is feeling the same thing that you are? Is this too much for you to answer? Then why make that resolution if you weren't serious about doing everything right in your life?
I am realizing that many of us like the crap we are in. I mean, we have learned for God to do this or that for us because we know that we receive favor (benefits) when we allow for Him to take over that portion of our lives (Romans 3:17 AMP). It is unfortunate when we think we know better about other matters...like relationships. Why do you think that is? Could it be because we know what God expects from us and we aren't willing to be disciplined enough to do it? Does the sex feel that good that the consequences pale in comparison? Really? Look at the navigator in that rocky quarry again. That describes some of our lives. It was seed sown when we thought we knew better then God. Turning to the left or right is going to tear that ship apart (Proverbs 4:27 AMP). How does one get out of such a mess? How does one never get into a mess like that again (Psalm 18:30, Proverbs 16:20, 1 Corinthians 1:9, 2 Corinthians 1:9 AMP) ?
I made a mistake defense, isn't written. When trials are faced with Jesus as the judge and your defense. What scripture were you reciting in your prayers just before you started to blame God or cry, why... why... why?!!! Answer: It is the reason why the navigator was in the quarry. It is the reason why some of our lives are in a mess. If we think we can do it all ourselves without putting any trust in God, then you have what you deserve. If you have asked why such and so person is more blessed than you? You now have your answer.
Back to the dating side of this, are you ready for all that a relationship can bring? If you aren't truly ready, you will get the equivalence of you. Do you like the idea of that? Are you ready to deal with another you or do you expect for this other person to take care of you? If so, how long do you think he/she will be happy with that? Do you care? If not, you have the answer to why you are still single when you wish to be otherwise.
I woke up this morning thinking about how toddlers walk. They are just adorable but they aren't thinking about being cute. They have a task in learning how to walk. It isn't until later do they realize that they are making adults smile in their efforts. Toddlers just love the attention. So they continue to try making it from one side to the other. They use their arms to keep their balance and they are so pleased with themselves when they make those extra steps where they failed at just a few hours prior. Now picture putting a bowl of hot soup in those pudgy little hands and telling the toddler to walk to Mommy or Daddy. How do you think that will end up? This is the equivalence of what we do when we go for a person who has not experienced the fullness of God. FALLING in love is a term best used by toddlers in Christ. We know babies in their efforts of walking are going to fall. Do you understand this analogy? We walk by faith not by sight. Toddlers haven't got this full concept yet. They are just getting the 10 Commandments. They are just realizing that if you accept anyone else's flaws then they will accept yours rather then examining your own life and cleaning it up so God can present His best to you as you have done presenting your best to Him.
Now there are babies in Christ who have no intention of walking. They like being cooed at. They like being picked up and carried. There have been so many that have called these types cute, they don't bother making the effort. I have seen mothers carrying their babies far longer than they should. I have seen mothers nursing children that have a full set of teeth. If there are babies like this in the natural, do you think there could possibly be some that have not matured well in the Spirit? Do you think there are pastors that have babied some of their staff along the way because the pastor doesn't wish to be outshined? Are there Christians that appear to be mature but if a situation arises that you think is elemental to resolve he/she has a tantrum waiting for someone else to resolve it? These are toddlers, including the pastor that keeps others from growing due to his own insecurities. These types act like they are ready to date, but are actually waiting for the right patsy to come and pick them up to carry around and buy for them anything they scream for. Does that sound like peace? Does that sound like the life you were hoping for? That does describe the lives of some of our brothers and sisters in Christ who try to cope in regret (wishing for a do-over but got married without hearing God's okay). When you see these couples, pray for them. They thought they knew better than God. They might have had pre-marital sex and believed that was alright to do seeing they were going to marry anyway. They might have heard the warning God gave him/her but something else spoke louder, like the balance of the other's bank book, or the tears of the other feeling that the relationship is slipping away, or the imagination when making out before marriage. All of these things and more are called distractions and are best served to draw you away from the voice of God.