Monday, September 29, 2014

Just To Be Close

I think we all have a need to be loved and/or wanted. It seems to be basic and really understandable. Have couples come together with this understanding? Have they fared well? Was God pleased when these two met each other; one hoping to be needed and the other wanting to be loved? Don't those 2 words just euphemise desperation?

 The Lord is My Shepherd, I shall not want...., it is written. My God supplies all of my needs according to His riches in glory...., is is written. ...whatever state you are in, be content...it is written. So how then could God be pleased or the couple do well in the relationship if there is no faith in what God said is already yours in Him?

Now love, that's a different matter altogether. Why would a Christian believe he/she isn't loved? I counseled such a person and I couldn't understand why she would say such a thing. I didn't have anything at the ready for her because I assumed if you claim to be a Christian, of course you have to know you are loved. She said, "I don't believe anyone could love anyone else that much." I was at a loss on how to combat that. You see, it wasn't that she didn't understand what the Word said and it wasn't that she didn't understand why Jesus did what He did, it was she didn't believe anyone would do such a thing just from love (John 3:16 AMP).

How can you be a Christian and not accept His love? The woman I was counseling accepted Jesus as her Lord and Savior but could not believe salvation was made because of His love. Then how could she be a Christian? How could she pray? How could she ask to have someone to love if she didn't know what that sort of love is (1 John 4:8 AMP)? How could she walk in the Spirit so not to fulfill the lust of the flesh?She looked at me with a blank stare after 4 weeks of counseling. I didn't know what else to say and felt like I wasted my time. How can you pour water into a pitcher if the pitcher is cracked (1 Corinthians 13:1-3 AMP)?

We are able to recognize each other because of that love (Matthew 22:36-40 AMP). We have accepted and walk it out each and everyday of our lives. Its that love that causes us to recognize who is the one and why (1 Corinthians 13:4-10 AMP). Its a knowing dwelling on the inside and we have fed that knowing by attending church services, being obedient to His Word, serving others, and prayer.

This morning I had a business meeting. Afterward, instead of returning to my place of employment, I went to breakfast at a restaurant - alone. The hostess asked if I would like a table or a booth. I requested a booth because I knew the single tables are placed in obscurity.  When I was seated the waitress asked if I would like anything else to drink besides water. I asked for tea and lemon. When she returned and placed the cup and saucer on the table, I was ready to order. It didn't take long for me to receive my meal, in the meantime, I had poured the hot water, squeezed the lemon, stirred in 2 teaspoons of sugar (thinking I would have preferred honey) and sipped while texting a co-worker on my phone.When my meal arrived, I placed the cup and saucer to my right, the water on my left. I placed my napkin in my lap while thanking the waitress for the excellent service. I proceeded to enjoy my food. The waitress came to me a few minutes later to see if I would like anymore hot water. I did. When I was full, I left what was on my plate with my eating utensil, the napkin from my lap (after wiping my mouth) and the saucer and cup. By this, the waitress knew I was finished and placed the bill on the table. I thanked her again and left her a tip. Before I did, a man dressed in a taupe argyle sweater vest, light blue long sleeved shirt with salt and peppered hair walked up to me and said, "Excuse me Miss, I am from the South...Georgia to be exact (he bowed). I was sitting over there watching you eat. I have never....it was a delight. I see so many people eat like...well,....it was just an elegant delight." My first reaction was, what? Why are you watching me? But then, I laughed and thanked him...still it felt a little odd. I put it out of my mind and got up to pay my bill. While waiting for the cashier, this same man came up behind me with a small stack of napkins and said in a quiet voice, his name. He extended his hand. I shook it and told him mine. He then said, "if you ever wish to go out again, you don't have to eat alone....." He rifled through the napkins to get the one that has his name and phone number on it and gave it to me. "Call me, " he concluded. I said, thank you and it was nice meeting him then proceeded to pay my bill.

That was it. There were no sirens, no whistles, and that stir of the knowing didn't ignite. I hear people say that when you meet the one, there doesn't necessarily have to be all of what we expect. I beg to differ. The all powerful, all knowing God that has created you for a time such as this, who knew you before you were formed in the womb allows you to be surprised on Christmas and your birthday but when you meet the spouse that you are to spend the rest of your life with, it's supposed to be...bleh? The God that requires a bride without spot or wrinkle for His only begotten Son, but when we get married its just...ordinary? The God that gives you the desires of your heart and delights in your prosperity will make a presentation of your good thing in obscurity? What God do you serve?

The point is, if I can go to church and sense the Holy Spirit even before services begin, if I can go to a bible study group expecting good things and receive them, if I can ask my Heavenly Father for whatever and know that I know it is well with Him, why wouldn't that be true when seeing the man I am to date for the purposes of marriage? With this man at the restaurant, I sensed nothing. He was pleasant to talk to but I won't be calling him. Not for conversation or anything else. If he was interested like that, he would have said who he is in Christ rather then being a Southerner, which apparently was more important for him to convey. The woman I was counseling was interested in finding love but was seeking it with men when her relationship with God is the one that was in jeopardy. No matter how hard she searched, it would all be for nothing because she has no concept of love. Here is what you need to ponder, how many more of them are out there and how many of them would never admit to it. Do you have that inner knowing to tell the difference? Selah.

Friday, September 12, 2014

Heads of State and Corporations

It was an episode of the original Law and Order television series (season 10, episode 10) that had me thinking about what men are doing with the nuclear family and why they should care. In the episode there were these teenagers that were minding their own business when an older teen student of the same school began bullying one of the other children to the point of killing him. When the story unfolds, it is discovered that the father was aware of what his son was doing all along. From the illegal weapons he assisted in getting for his son to allowing his son to go in the basement and practice terrorist moves on an old mannequin. Yet when it came time to confess to murder, the father had many excuses and was definitely not about to take the blame for the actions of his son. It was clear to everyone else including the son, who took a plea deal of guilty. Eventually, the father did as well.

In these last days, we can see the union of 2 people having children without first being married is out of order. Nevertheless, the product of that won't go away or disappear once you have confessed to the Lord and are forgiven (1 John 1:9 AMP). You still have to make the best of it. Know that it will be difficult when matters are out of order, but it can't be disregarded or matters will definitely get worse.

Let's make that as clear as it can possibly be so that there will be no room for misconceptions or misunderstandings as to what God expects of you. It is the reason why so many people out in the world have issues with the bible and the boundaries it places us in when coming into the knowledge of the truth (Hebrews 10:26 AMP). Its because the flesh has taken over and does not wish to conform. The love of God is not in such a person who does not wish to change. Without that love, there cannot be any faith (Hebrews 10:38 AMP). Without faith, it is impossible to please God. If God cannot find any pleasure in it, it has become His enemy.

We know that the Word tells us to flee fornication. Many of us have climbed over this barrier for what ever the reason. Since then, lesson learned and we have been made whole through Christ Jesus. Once restored, we do what we need to continue to be in right standing with Him. If a child is the product of the indiscretion, we must also do what is necessary to make sure the child is brought into this world with provision. This is the responsibility of the 2 people that created the child. Not the extended family or "the village" you might have been hoping for.

Now, there is a saying: Mamma's baby, Daddy's maybe. Fine, to the guys: you might have some
doubt and with good reason. But guess what? You created that doubt when you climbed over that barrier knowing you weren't supposed to in the first place (1 Corinthians 6:18 AMP) . So don't allow for that thought to keep creeping back in. You know you had sex with that woman. So until the time comes for a DNA test, be the responsible one and take care of her and that baby (1 Timothy 5:8 AMP). God sees you maintaining accountability. This is faith at work and He is pleased that you are keeping that restoration rather then turning back to those wicked ways. During this time, when you are determined to do what is right, all of those who you thought were also walking with God will come and tell you things that are contrary to what you have decided to do. Understand those people are serving as your test. Pass it!

For the guy who would rather lick his wounds and have a pity party... you know who you are. You have all of the excuses as to why you shouldn't help this woman in her time of need with this baby. Most of the time, these single women won't act like they are afraid because they have reconciled in their mind that they are by themselves and they have to be strong. Crying is a sign of weakness to them. They have refused to be emotional and won't dare show weakness with you either. However anger is acceptable (Ephesians 4:26 AMP). This is not the time to start any arguments so she can tell you she never wants to see you again. You hope to manipulate the situation and make it her fault that you aren't seeing your child. You would be mistaken. God still sees you and you will be held accountable whether you believe it or not. God is not manipulated with the like of you (Galatians 6:7 AMP).  Another thing, stop entertaining to do unacceptable antics. None of the tossing the baby in the air, making plans to take the baby to the crazy side of the family, teaching the baby nonsense just to get the mother up in arms. She doesn't need the aggravation and neither will you. All of the mischief you do to get out of being a mature man will come back for you with a vengeance. It will be God's anger.

Alright, what sort of job do you have? How are you making money? Babies aren't cheap. You might not wish to hear it but they have to eat. If you are unloading all of the responsibility on her and her family to do...remember about the vengeance thing. He is still coming for you. You cannot expect for your life to be peaceful or find any success while you have a child or children that are not being cared for? How are you asking God for anything when your child is with someone else screaming to be fed, changed, burped, or played with? How much sense does that make when God is a GOOD FATHER!!!

Finally, I noticed that the reality show, Scared Straight changed their title to Beyond Scared Straight. Why did they find this necessary? Because society has changed. There are some teenagers that walk around and can put some of the worse criminals, back in the day, to shame. From using profanity to their parent to abusing them for money, drugs, or just because. What makes a child so angry? In my experience, its not having a father in the home or in the life of the child. Where there is no father, hope is difficult to find. While watching one of the latest episodes of Beyond Scared Straight, I saw there was a common theme. The children were doing all they could to be locked up. The inmates explained what would happen to them if they saw any one of those children in prison. Some shuttered and did whatever they needed to, so not to return. Others were determined to get behind those bars. Why? Because that's where his/her parents are. The child was emulating the parent and needed to be comforted by the one that created them. How does one fight that kind of determination? What will the show be called for the next generation?

What will your legacy be? How are you going to turn this around? Am I only referring to the men? Yes, men are the reason for the state of this world. Men are the reason children grow up the way they do. It is man that God will judge for not being there for his child. You asked for your prayers to be answered but were you available to answer the cries of your child? You have no excuse. Will your children grow up to be healthy viable beacons of light in society or will they find an excuse to not do anything at all? What are you doing - daily?Are your actions progressive or destructive? Women were not created to bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget your a man. What is there left for you to do? Look around. Man has become lazy. Children are raising themselves. They have little to no respect for their mothers because the mothers had no respect for themselves when doing things out of order like laying down with you when you had no intentions of doing what's right. If you plan to turn things around, start with your reflection.