Making It Plain

  Who had the idea of dinner and a movie first? Why did men first choose to pay for everything? Who flipped the script and why has it become complicated now? Lastly, when did we leave God out of flipping this script ( Philippians 4:13 AMP )? In growing up, one of the jewels of wisdom my mother said was not to accept gifts from men who are interested in dating you. I call them jewels now because I’m no longer a teenager and can completely understand without the distraction of added questions without much feedback… I was a talker . My mother was not. Nevertheless, we were a “humble” family and if it wasn’t a necessity it wasn’t purchased other than for a birthday or Christmas gift. I recall, from the movies of back in the day, when love interests would go to the girl with flowers and candy in hand. It was the romance of it all, and knew that someday the experience would be mine (cue the swooning here).  The day came and my mother's pearls of wisdom faced me before the bauble. ...

What is it about relationships that cause men to stop and think that he knows better than the One who created him? We all come to the point where we have to be independent and deal with matters and problems the best way we know how. Some solutions are better than others but once we have learned the best way we don’t detour from it unless we have learned something better ( Luke 6:40 AMP ). What’s so hard about that? I was recently talking to a middle aged man who looked younger than his years. He has everything going for him but the desire to be out on his own away from his parents. He can’t think of a good excuse other than him being comfortable where he is. There are no challenges, no expectations, he’s not accountable for anything or responsible for no one but himself and whatever he has in his room. I gradually had to tell him what the natural order of things are. In that natural order of things, there are normal expectations. He looked at me odd because I was challenging his comfor...

The title of this entry came when thinking of the failed relationships that claimed heard the Lord’s voice tell him/her that she/ he is the one. It is what we all wish to hear because in our minds we have waited so long and it seems everyone else found their someone while we are still waiting.  How come they got theirs and I’m still waiting for mine. What is taking so long?  There was a woman, Emily who told a younger woman, Ann that if she did not go to her husband and tell him that she is ready to be married, she would have never been married. But Emily failed to tell Ann of all of the hurdles Emily has to jump over and through when she gets home to be her husband's help mete. Yet, Ann pondered what was told to her even when the Word says otherwise for women ( Proverbs 18:22 AMP ). There was a young man, Malachi having a vision and a plan for his life. It included the young lady, Annette whom he has known since he was a child. They were both excited about the future. Having ...