Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Responsibility (part 1)

This is a shout out to all ministers, pastors, preachers, evangelists, prophets, and teachers who believe God is giving you a Word from heaven to attack women in their responsibilities in a marriage (James 3:1-2 AMP). I have heard sermons since I was 13 years old (a year prior to me being introduced to Jesus). There has always been this humongous issue the ministries have had with women and their role as wives, mothers, working outside of the home, older women teaching the younger, being the one that was beguiled while Adam sat idly by not doing anything. Well, dad-nab-it...enough!!!

It's time to stop all of this blame placing and take some responsibility for your own faults and misgivings. Its high time to stop trying to place women in the mix of bad decisions made by men. And its more then enough time to stop saying God told you to say this to a congregation when He had nothing to do with it!!!

I was listening to yet another sermon this morning. I look forward in listening to this man teach, but when he continued to pontificate on women being lovers of their husband, I started to get frustrated as I have in the past. Why? Because I patiently wait for the minister to please balance the message out with the role of the husband. As I wait and wait for there to be some sort of verse, a small statement, maybe it will be in the form of a hymnal, or within the devotional service...it just doesn't happen and I am still in the stage of hope as he/she says amen and dismisses the congregation until the next service later in the week. Maybe there will be a part 2...nope!

Would God give us an imbalanced meal (Revelation 3:16 AMP)? Would God give us dessert without the nutrition that the meal would offer? Would God have His Son do any of these things when He says that He is of decency and order ( 1 Corinthians 14:40 AMP)? So why would a minister being the "mouth piece of God"do such things to God's people?

Needless to write, I didn't wait to hear the entire sermon as I was driving to work. I knew the outcome would not be favorable to women...again. Instead, I got angry and began ranting to God and asking Him why? Why do the clergy think this is okay? The answer I got is the same as the work place. There is a hierarchy. If the ministers started to preach against what men have been doing and the pastor is a man, then get ready for men to leave the church. If it was on the job, get ready to have a hard time at work. But who are they serving? Isn't there more fear in what God can do than man? Yeesh! Children learn this in Sunday School.

Let's actually open the bible and see what the Word really says about the role of man and how it works for society to be whole and normal again. God created animals from the dirt...then He created man...from the dirt. God created woman from man...the only being that was NOT created from the dirt. Pause and think about that calmly (selah).

God is the head of Jesus.
Jesus is the head of the church and man.
Man is the head of the wife.
Wife is the head of the household. This is order. It began in the beginning. Adam spoke it into existence, the moment he saw the woman. So what happened (and don't skip this part. Its why ministers have been preaching craziness)?

Adam was told to care for the garden (Genesis 2:15 TLB). Is that self explanatory? What is the garden? His environment? His dwelling place? His household? Selah. Adam was told to name all that was brought to him. Did Adam do this? There are species being found today that are now being named. We can say that man is doing this, but did Adam? When did he see woman? Did he name her when he saw her or did he just claim her as his first? Alright, we have seen twice where Adam was disobedient even before woman was created and named. Was there a third time?

Yes, when he took the fruit from the forbidden tree and did eat of it. Did the woman have to go search for Adam? No, he was right there with her. Why did he allow for the serpent to talk to the woman? Why did he not correct what she was thinking seeing Adam got the command directly from God? Why did he not keep her from even going near the forbidden tree? Did he not love her? Did he not love himself? How are we still believing that the woman was beguiled when Adam and the woman was one? Why are we not seeing that whatever she did, it was inclusive? Because Adam separated the act, the punishment was separated and so was the relationship he had with her and what he had with God. Do you see the huge responsibility man has? This is colossal! Why not preach this?

Honestly, the question was rhetorical. We know why this isn't preached. If it was, the preacher would have to do some deep self actualization. I am finding, man doesn't really like nor want to get that deep into himself  (sigh).






Responsibility (part 2)

The head needs direction for the body to do anything. God is the head of all. Jesus kept in constant relationship with God to complete the tasks He had to do. He said it is finished (John 19:30 AMP). Now it is up to man to be able to fulfill his part. Where was he going to get that direction? Who was he going to speak to now that Jesus received His reward in heaven as we are all supposed to be doing. He stayed in constant relationship with God. We are to be in constant relationship with Him. So we begin by denying ourselves and fulfilling the destination He has mapped out for us (Luke 9:23 AMP). We learn through the Word...just like Jesus did. His parents came to find Him and He said He was about His Father's business at age 12 (Luke 2:49 KJV). This is the instruction and direction for men. He cannot teach himself. Therefore, he attends church services where the pastor, preacher, minister, teacher, and/or evangelist has done nothing but stay before God to know and understand what he or she must serve to God's children. The clergy has sacrificed their entire life to this one calling in being "the mouth piece of God." They have studied. They have prayed. So the people come to hear what is necessary for them to progress and be successful (1 Corinthians 9:19-23 AMP). What happened?

I heard a woman retort when she heard the same verse about the man being the head of the woman. She said, "yes, but the head can't move without the neck." I understand the opposing attitude in the comment because women have been regarded as the less of everything. Its as much as having to deal with fighting words against the very core of your being. However as Christians, we have to...we must process information different and consider what is the source. Who is our source? This can only be done with study and having relationship with God. There I go getting ahead of myself.

Let's get back to where this is all coming from and spread out the sheet to see how to make this bed and lie in it comfortably. You see after the "fall of man" there was this curse that has not been discussed because it didn't seem like a curse to men. But know because he didn't understand and never asked questions, the curse continued to the point of breaking down the core of the family even until this day. There are times where I wonder when believers see the answer and still say nothing is it because they don't wish to be wrong or they don't wish to face the back lash from all of the speakers who have been living this way and all of the generations in the past with no one saying anything. Its frustrating to think about; but how much longer will it be before allowing this truth to set us all free?

You see, its stuck in the middle there. When God said to the woman that she will have pain during child birth and that her husband will have authority over her and she will desire her husband (Genesis 3:16 AMP). This curse has not been dealt with. Instead it has been incorporated in the marriage vows. It has been esteemed on Women's Day when Esther is viewed as being highly favored and how she stayed away from the king unless he called for her and how she cooked his favorite meal before she asked anything of him. We read about women staying in the back of the church and if she had any questions about what was taught, she was to remain silent until she got home to ask her husband and only him (1 Corinthians 14:34-35 AMP). Anything else would be considered as disrespect...depending on the culture, opposing this direction could be the deciding factor in not sparing this woman's life.These were lessons to the younger women to know how to treat their own husbands. But isn't it odd how this never satisfied their own husbands in forsaking others or cherishing his own wife or supporting her or not leaving the wife of his youth? How did this happen? Its the Word. The Word adds life not confusion, not discord, not error.

Answer: by incorporating the curse in the marriage. God was NOT in the midst of that. What pastor, preacher, minister, evangelist, prophet, or teacher wants to hear that especially when they are already married or has married so many couples with those same vows again and again and again? If the truth came out, what happens to the existing church as we know it (Romans 2:21 AMP)? People would be looking at clergy differently. The questions would come with a different attitude especially thinking that these people are the mouth pieces of God yet decided not to listen to the rudimentary building blocks of a marriage and in so doing ruined the nuclear family because error does what it does... it destroys. If you don't believe what you read, ask them. Ask any one of them if they aren't using the same marital vows that has been used for centuries. Ask them if the husband should have authority over the wife. Ask if the woman should desire her husband? After they answer those questions, ask if they have been using their answers in the wedding vows that they have presided over. Then finally ask, wasn't all of that a part of the curse? They cannot deny it. They have to accept it. It is the only way for change to occur. You are responsible. Now what?!!! What will you do, pastor, preacher, evangelist, prophet, apostle, minister, teacher to make that wrong, right (Ephesians 4:11-16 AMP)?

Sunday, April 17, 2016

If It Wasn't For That Woman...

Earlier this week I was driving to work and listening to some Christian talk radio, as I often do. I love listening to God's Word and receiving revelation knowledge. In this particular show I was listening to, the topic was relationship and in specific, it was the family. I did agree that the break down of the nuclear family means the break down of communities and society as we know it. It was so poignant and profound. The two men who were hosting had a female speaker. They were getting along all so well..and then one of the men asked her a question about the wife and if it were anyone else's responsibility for her happiness but her own. The female speaker hesitated slightly and then said some annoying cliche instead of the Word.
Why? Why? Freaking why?

She was doing so well before that. She had them eating out of the palm of her hand. It was pleasant and peaceful. Then she says, "I know the old adage is a happy wife, a happy life but it not how we live. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness." Before I turned the radio off and had my own rant with the Lord, I waited to see what the two male hosts had to say. They also paused briefly before giving a sigh of relief and asking for her to repeat herself (2 Timothy 4:1-5 AMP). By that time, I was seething and wondering why no one called in (because it wasn't a call in show), why no one clicked them off the air (because there was no "dead air"), or why God didn't correct them right then and there with a fourth party (because I wouldn't have had this entry to write).
Aaaaaarrrrrrggggggghhhhhhh!!!!!

Let's begin where it first all began...its not like we haven't been here before. Adam and Eve, yeah the real beginning of families and relationships. Where the real ruin of relationships got its roots and continues on even this day. Its when Adam...Adam...Adam disobeyed God (Genesis 3:17-19 AMP). I just don't get why no one preaches about that. Its not like anyone on the pulpit represents Adam. we all are representing Christ. So call a duck a duck!!! Adam was created first. He was the head of Eve. He had rule over EVERYTHING!!!  (Genesis 1:26-31 AMP)How come this is not incorporated in understanding relationships. With Jesus, man resumes his position and with benefits. Seriously, get this!!!

If Adam guarded the garden and protected it like he was supposed to, the serpent would have never spoken to Eve. If Adam named everything that God brought to him, Eve would have had her name before the "fall of man"(Genesis 2:19-20 AMP). Adam's first offense allowed the serpent in. Adam's second offense allowed for the woman to be beguiled by the serpent.

Image result for sigh of reliefNow, let's understand relationship. God said, if you meditate on the Word day and night, then you will have good success (Joshua 1:8 AMP). Why would you have to meditate on the Word day and night. Isn't that being too excessive? No one really studies that much  - does anyone? It's ridiculous, right? But in order for you to get good grades in school, you studied. In order to finish college to get a good job, you studied. In order to do well to get a promotion, you studied. What's the issue here? In order to have good success, you need God. How else are you going to get that? You are NOTHING without Him (John 15:5 AMP). Jesus studied for more than 18 years. Didn't He have good success?

So now, let's connect the dots. God gave everything to Adam to have dominion. He gave him a woman to be his help. She was created for man (get over yourself ladies and stop trying to get around that one). She cannot help him unless he has told her of his vision...the one God gave him. You know, He told Adam to protect the garden. He told Adam to name all of the animals in the garden. He told Adam to till the garden. We know he did not do that. But what about you, gentlemen? Do you know what you are called to do so the woman that God has created just for you knows how she can bring all of her skills and talents in to make the vision a reality (Proverbs 29:18 AMP)? No? Then why are you pursuing her?

Getting back to the dots...if she is unhappy in the relationship, would you not care? If she has become flesh of your flesh and bone of your bone, would you not ask what the matter is? If she is one with you, why would you not have a concern of her well being? This is what made me so angry about the radio show. You cannot flip back and forth in and out of the Spirit. You either are walking in it or your aren't (James 1:5-8 AMP). How can any ministry teach other wise? We cannot please God without faith (Hebrews 11:6 AMP). There is no other way to have faith but in the Spirit. So why? Why? WHY?

If you, gentlemen stubbed your toe, would you not take a moment to see if it is bleeding? Wouldn't you stop walking until the throbbing stopped? When you get out the shower, do you not take the time to dry yourself off? Would you not protect your skin with some sort of moisturizer? Do you use aftershave after you shave? When you nick yourself with the razor, don't you use a band aid or those little pieces of tissue to blot the blood? Why do you do that? Because you care for yourself - right? Shall I pause and allow you to think of that calmly (selah)?

Together, as man and woman, you are 1 (Genesis 2:24 AMP). Just one. God sees it that way. The laws of the land see it that way and you should be offended if anyone sees it any other way but that way. Correct? Soooooo, if she is unhappy, who is responsible for her happiness? Is it all on her? Dude...really? If you truly believe that, you need to be single. Seriously.

Saturday, April 9, 2016

Heart Surgery

Its been awhile since my last entry. For a moment, I believed I exhausted all of the major topics for the Christian single life. Then I heard a program on the radio about living the lie of  the Christian life style for whatever the purpose and I thought of you...the readers of this blog. Not that it describes you, only information so you will know what to keep watch for. Which of us are perpetrating to get what we can from the other? Do you know? Would you recognize the traits in yourself?

The heart of a true believer is easy to see if you are really interested. I was sitting in a restaurant with my son who just finished his boot camp training. In those short 6 weeks, he could tell from his surroundings, who was in the military and who was a civilian. He even got up and spoke to one of them having never met him before. My father being in the military, never told us that it was an automatic training that one could spot at a glance. In the bible, when Jesus was being convicted for absolutely nothing, the people looked around to catch all that were around Jesus for any length of time. They accused Peter because he dressed and spoke like Jesus. Peter cursed so the people would think otherwise. It must have been the worst day in Peter's life (Matthew 26: 69-75 AMP). Point being, in both instances, it was easy to detect a person trained in the military as well as someone who is committed to the faith in Christ.

It is written, a tree is known by the fruit it bears (Luke 6:44 AMP). Its just that simple. Do you or the person you consider a friend, the potential for a business partner, or a spouse has the fruit you would like to partake of? The fruit of the Holy Spirit is clearly listed. It takes time for the process of developing such fruit and sowing seed for this to be a on a continuum. Yes sowing seed is necessary for God to receive the harvest we have heard preached for all of those Sunday sermons. I hope you knew you are a part of that process. If not...grow up already!!!

Its funny when you think of all that we have asked God for ourselves yet if we asked Him what He
sees when He looks at us, many of us would not want to hear the answer. I often think of when God asked Adam after he sinned, where he was. It is the same question that answers itself, when the coming of Christ is over and those left wonder why when he/she considered themselves as born again believers too. Would God recognize who you are? Will He see you in that day? Will the bridegroom come and we are still not prepared (Matthew 25: 1-13 AMP)? Examining yourself consists of all of the tests we go through with God. We learn some thing new, whether in service or daily living, and we are expected to use that new thing and not resort back to that which has been declared old and passed away. Every single time we use the "old thing" we take steps back to the grave. What do I mean? In using the "old thing" is using the flesh (2 Corinthians 5:17 AMP). It has its own reward which absolutely has nothing to do with life. How exasperating for Jesus must it be to look at the state of the church using the same "old thing" and justifying it with stupid cliche's that have been reiterated over the years with no Word to back it. I wonder if He saw these days when He took the stick and started writing in the sand? I get annoyed just thinking about it knowing I still have matters to clean up too.

So you wanna get married and think you have been waiting way too long; even to the point of saying to yourself, "I am at such and such age and being single all of this time makes no sense." Well, it sure doesn't (James 1:4 KJV). Think for a moment what Jesus must be feeling like having waited all of this time for His bride. He up there with God looking at His bride getting ready for His return; only, just when she is almost complete with all of the body parts in the right places so she doesn't look disabled, a test comes. Not a new test, something that has been tried over and over again. Only there was this pastor, minister, evangelist type that thinks if he/she had to get it on his/her own, why should they do any favors for anyone else that wasn't birthed from them. Yeah, and the disabled body goes through all sorts of crap all over again. All it takes is one person to mess everything up. Don't believe me? Remember Adam? How about Joseph? Esther had a huge role. Oh and then there is Jesus. Yup, just one person. Seriously.

But, there are those who are still in those stages of maturation believing that he/she cannot keep one's self disciplined so marriage is your answer and according to the Word - you are not sinning if this is what you need to do. But, and I mean take that "but" seriously, you WILL have trouble (1 Corinthians 7:28 AMP). It is written...trouble! Who goes into something knowing there is going to be a long hard stretch of torture along the way? Is that why the marriage rate is down in the church? Do you really think you are saving yourselves by playing house without a commitment? If you didn't know, God sees you. You cannot be one way in front of the congregation and someone else behind closed doors. Your sin will find you. It is why preacher's kids have their own label (PK's). Paul writes that he hopes those who believe will continue to do so in his absence...and as they do, do so with fear and trembling (Philippians 2:12 KJV). Why would he write that? I think he was allowing for those to rely on God instead of watching to see if this man would do what he taught. It is up to you to be the mature man/woman to walk this life out. You cannot rely on the past nor on anyone else but God.

When you date, he/she must be the mirror image in what you have discovered or desire for yourself. If you decided not to discipline yourself for the one God created just for you, then you get what you get. Stop expecting perfection when you are far from it! If you are raising the bar to have the best of this and that, make sure you can meet that bar. She will be of no help to you if she doesn't understand the principles of Christianity. He will be a thorn in your side if all he can do is spew the kind of words that makes your flesh tingle. You need for your heartt to be in the right place for God to see you in the body. If your heart is not right, He will ask the same question He asked Adam: where are you?