Sunday, April 17, 2016

If It Wasn't For That Woman...

Earlier this week I was driving to work and listening to some Christian talk radio, as I often do. I love listening to God's Word and receiving revelation knowledge. In this particular show I was listening to, the topic was relationship and in specific, it was the family. I did agree that the break down of the nuclear family means the break down of communities and society as we know it. It was so poignant and profound. The two men who were hosting had a female speaker. They were getting along all so well..and then one of the men asked her a question about the wife and if it were anyone else's responsibility for her happiness but her own. The female speaker hesitated slightly and then said some annoying cliche instead of the Word.
Why? Why? Freaking why?

She was doing so well before that. She had them eating out of the palm of her hand. It was pleasant and peaceful. Then she says, "I know the old adage is a happy wife, a happy life but it not how we live. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness." Before I turned the radio off and had my own rant with the Lord, I waited to see what the two male hosts had to say. They also paused briefly before giving a sigh of relief and asking for her to repeat herself (2 Timothy 4:1-5 AMP). By that time, I was seething and wondering why no one called in (because it wasn't a call in show), why no one clicked them off the air (because there was no "dead air"), or why God didn't correct them right then and there with a fourth party (because I wouldn't have had this entry to write).

Let's begin where it first all began...its not like we haven't been here before. Adam and Eve, yeah the real beginning of families and relationships. Where the real ruin of relationships got its roots and continues on even this day. Its when Adam...Adam...Adam disobeyed God (Genesis 3:17-19 AMP). I just don't get why no one preaches about that. Its not like anyone on the pulpit represents Adam. we all are representing Christ. So call a duck a duck!!! Adam was created first. He was the head of Eve. He had rule over EVERYTHING!!!  (Genesis 1:26-31 AMP)How come this is not incorporated in understanding relationships. With Jesus, man resumes his position and with benefits. Seriously, get this!!!

If Adam guarded the garden and protected it like he was supposed to, the serpent would have never spoken to Eve. If Adam named everything that God brought to him, Eve would have had her name before the "fall of man"(Genesis 2:19-20 AMP). Adam's first offense allowed the serpent in. Adam's second offense allowed for the woman to be beguiled by the serpent.

Image result for sigh of reliefNow, let's understand relationship. God said, if you meditate on the Word day and night, then you will have good success (Joshua 1:8 AMP). Why would you have to meditate on the Word day and night. Isn't that being too excessive? No one really studies that much  - does anyone? It's ridiculous, right? But in order for you to get good grades in school, you studied. In order to finish college to get a good job, you studied. In order to do well to get a promotion, you studied. What's the issue here? In order to have good success, you need God. How else are you going to get that? You are NOTHING without Him (John 15:5 AMP). Jesus studied for more than 18 years. Didn't He have good success?

So now, let's connect the dots. God gave everything to Adam to have dominion. He gave him a woman to be his help. She was created for man (get over yourself ladies and stop trying to get around that one). She cannot help him unless he has told her of his vision...the one God gave him. You know, He told Adam to protect the garden. He told Adam to name all of the animals in the garden. He told Adam to till the garden. We know he did not do that. But what about you, gentlemen? Do you know what you are called to do so the woman that God has created just for you knows how she can bring all of her skills and talents in to make the vision a reality (Proverbs 29:18 AMP)? No? Then why are you pursuing her?

Getting back to the dots...if she is unhappy in the relationship, would you not care? If she has become flesh of your flesh and bone of your bone, would you not ask what the matter is? If she is one with you, why would you not have a concern of her well being? This is what made me so angry about the radio show. You cannot flip back and forth in and out of the Spirit. You either are walking in it or your aren't (James 1:5-8 AMP). How can any ministry teach other wise? We cannot please God without faith (Hebrews 11:6 AMP). There is no other way to have faith but in the Spirit. So why? Why? WHY?

If you, gentlemen stubbed your toe, would you not take a moment to see if it is bleeding? Wouldn't you stop walking until the throbbing stopped? When you get out the shower, do you not take the time to dry yourself off? Would you not protect your skin with some sort of moisturizer? Do you use aftershave after you shave? When you nick yourself with the razor, don't you use a band aid or those little pieces of tissue to blot the blood? Why do you do that? Because you care for yourself - right? Shall I pause and allow you to think of that calmly (selah)?

Together, as man and woman, you are 1 (Genesis 2:24 AMP). Just one. God sees it that way. The laws of the land see it that way and you should be offended if anyone sees it any other way but that way. Correct? Soooooo, if she is unhappy, who is responsible for her happiness? Is it all on her? Dude...really? If you truly believe that, you need to be single. Seriously.

Saturday, April 9, 2016

Heart Surgery

Its been awhile since my last entry. For a moment, I believed I exhausted all of the major topics for the Christian single life. Then I heard a program on the radio about living the lie of  the Christian life style for whatever the purpose and I thought of you...the readers of this blog. Not that it describes you, only information so you will know what to keep watch for. Which of us are perpetrating to get what we can from the other? Do you know? Would you recognize the traits in yourself?

The heart of a true believer is easy to see if you are really interested. I was sitting in a restaurant with my son who just finished his boot camp training. In those short 6 weeks, he could tell from his surroundings, who was in the military and who was a civilian. He even got up and spoke to one of them having never met him before. My father being in the military, never told us that it was an automatic training that one could spot at a glance. In the bible, when Jesus was being convicted for absolutely nothing, the people looked around to catch all that were around Jesus for any length of time. They accused Peter because he dressed and spoke like Jesus. Peter cursed so the people would think otherwise. It must have been the worst day in Peter's life (Matthew 26: 69-75 AMP). Point being, in both instances, it was easy to detect a person trained in the military as well as someone who is committed to the faith in Christ.

It is written, a tree is known by the fruit it bears (Luke 6:44 AMP). Its just that simple. Do you or the person you consider a friend, the potential for a business partner, or a spouse has the fruit you would like to partake of? The fruit of the Holy Spirit is clearly listed. It takes time for the process of developing such fruit and sowing seed for this to be a on a continuum. Yes sowing seed is necessary for God to receive the harvest we have heard preached for all of those Sunday sermons. I hope you knew you are a part of that process. If not...grow up already!!!

Its funny when you think of all that we have asked God for ourselves yet if we asked Him what He
sees when He looks at us, many of us would not want to hear the answer. I often think of when God asked Adam after he sinned, where he was. It is the same question that answers itself, when the coming of Christ is over and those left wonder why when he/she considered themselves as born again believers too. Would God recognize who you are? Will He see you in that day? Will the bridegroom come and we are still not prepared (Matthew 25: 1-13 AMP)? Examining yourself consists of all of the tests we go through with God. We learn some thing new, whether in service or daily living, and we are expected to use that new thing and not resort back to that which has been declared old and passed away. Every single time we use the "old thing" we take steps back to the grave. What do I mean? In using the "old thing" is using the flesh (2 Corinthians 5:17 AMP). It has its own reward which absolutely has nothing to do with life. How exasperating for Jesus must it be to look at the state of the church using the same "old thing" and justifying it with stupid cliche's that have been reiterated over the years with no Word to back it. I wonder if He saw these days when He took the stick and started writing in the sand? I get annoyed just thinking about it knowing I still have matters to clean up too.

So you wanna get married and think you have been waiting way too long; even to the point of saying to yourself, "I am at such and such age and being single all of this time makes no sense." Well, it sure doesn't (James 1:4 KJV). Think for a moment what Jesus must be feeling like having waited all of this time for His bride. He up there with God looking at His bride getting ready for His return; only, just when she is almost complete with all of the body parts in the right places so she doesn't look disabled, a test comes. Not a new test, something that has been tried over and over again. Only there was this pastor, minister, evangelist type that thinks if he/she had to get it on his/her own, why should they do any favors for anyone else that wasn't birthed from them. Yeah, and the disabled body goes through all sorts of crap all over again. All it takes is one person to mess everything up. Don't believe me? Remember Adam? How about Joseph? Esther had a huge role. Oh and then there is Jesus. Yup, just one person. Seriously.

But, there are those who are still in those stages of maturation believing that he/she cannot keep one's self disciplined so marriage is your answer and according to the Word - you are not sinning if this is what you need to do. But, and I mean take that "but" seriously, you WILL have trouble (1 Corinthians 7:28 AMP). It is written...trouble! Who goes into something knowing there is going to be a long hard stretch of torture along the way? Is that why the marriage rate is down in the church? Do you really think you are saving yourselves by playing house without a commitment? If you didn't know, God sees you. You cannot be one way in front of the congregation and someone else behind closed doors. Your sin will find you. It is why preacher's kids have their own label (PK's). Paul writes that he hopes those who believe will continue to do so in his absence...and as they do, do so with fear and trembling (Philippians 2:12 KJV). Why would he write that? I think he was allowing for those to rely on God instead of watching to see if this man would do what he taught. It is up to you to be the mature man/woman to walk this life out. You cannot rely on the past nor on anyone else but God.

When you date, he/she must be the mirror image in what you have discovered or desire for yourself. If you decided not to discipline yourself for the one God created just for you, then you get what you get. Stop expecting perfection when you are far from it! If you are raising the bar to have the best of this and that, make sure you can meet that bar. She will be of no help to you if she doesn't understand the principles of Christianity. He will be a thorn in your side if all he can do is spew the kind of words that makes your flesh tingle. You need for your heartt to be in the right place for God to see you in the body. If your heart is not right, He will ask the same question He asked Adam: where are you?