Chemistry, butterfly feelings, what you think is the move of the Holy Spirit, and all of else that floats your boat, isn't at all what this post is about. The entire blog is about being real when all of the tulle and satin bow-ties have been put away. No one is talking about the reception anymore and the flash mob scene for the proposal has been done to the point of it being a cliche. This blog is about all that must be in the plan during the process of dating. From the right questions to the course of action for the two becoming one years later after walking down the aisle and everything in between.
Finances are a colossal part of the in between. That secular song with the lyrics, its not about the money, is a bunch of hooey. Salvation and the love of God we already know has to be there before allowing phone numbers to be exchanged. That's a no-brainer. Careers are a discussion. Who will have one? Who will be the major bread winner and why? What sort of security do you have with medical, dental, home, auto, and life insurance? Do you have an IRA? Do you have any long term assets? When will they reach maturity? Do you have any land, property, jewelry, bonds, MMA accounts, etc? Do you have a will and who is the beneficiary (Proverbs 27:23 AMP)?
Is all of that too personal? So is sex but it seems not enough questions are asked before that's been given up. Is there a problem joining everything together? Would there be an issue with her having a separate account?
Usually this is where one hears the proverbial scratch in the record and the entire universe stands still. It is where the rubber hits the road. A carnal mind will go tilt and answers will start stammering forth like a tsunami (Romans 8:7 AMP). Why? Because all that is impressive becomes quite ugly when money is the discussion. If ever wondering where the heart of someone is while dating, discuss money (Matthew 6:21 AMP). The idea of saying anything just to get on with the relationship will come to the mind of the "pretender". When it starts sounding too good to be true, ask for it to be put in writing. With that request out there, watch who will feel uncomfortable first. If love rules and reins, both of you will smile without a hitch because you mean more then the money. If the smile fades when the agreement is signed then there should be a new song for the title of another post: "The Love I Lost".
Note: Watch for the Pre-Nuptials Entry Coming Soon!
This is it...the Pre-Nuptial Entry I was telling you about. It comes in 3 parts. Be patient and go through each part so it will make sense. There is a reason it had to be written this way. Take your time, enjoy :)