Saturday, August 21, 2010

Opposites Don't Attract

It is a phrase that has been said over the years by the world. As we know the world gets their influence through anyone and anything. Their perspective is very broad which is why they continue to tell all to keep and open mind.

We know that the Word says broad is the way to destruction and that minds should be more like Christ (1 Corinthians 2:15-16 AMP). God tells us to be thou holy for I am holy and whomever is a friend of the world is an enemy to God.

These are clearly two different perspectives by which people live. How then can two people having each their own completely different outlook on life be attracted to each other? This, based on the Word (which is our only means of truth) is therefore a theory come out of the pit of hell.

It makes no sense to me then why would any minister, preacher, apostle, pastor, evangelist, teacher or prophet say such foolishness to a people they are called to help. Younger Christians, not having the habit of reading the Word for themselves yet, are easily influenced. They hold men and women of God in high esteem because it is what we are taught as well. So why take that position so lightly?

If two people come together that are an absolute dichotomy to the other (whether it be the way of life or the way he/she arranges the furniture), it is a means to cause some sort of quarrel, chaos, and/or confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33 KJV). Believing that there is an attraction anyway so that there is a reason to make up and have angry sex, sounds unreasonably exhausting. That is an inevitable way to have a messy divorce or a life of dread. Where are the peace and joy (being the ingredients to a Kingdom Life) in that (Romans 14:17 KJV)?

The life by which Jesus came to give us (abundance) and what God wishes is solely based on rightly dividing the Word and believing that it is the only way for us to live (2 Timothy 2:15 KJV). When two people come to together for the purpose of marriage, they both have to believe this. Knowing that as a man thinks, so is he is a reason to ask many questions on how the other is thinking about a plethora of matters.  Issues that arise, it is necessary to ask, even hypothetically, how the other would have resolved it. What would be his or her plan? Then see if he/she would ask you or if interested in what you would have done. These questions and the interest (or lack thereof) lets you see if the relationship is of genuine sincerity or a means of convenience.

Convenience is when a man believes he has sown enough wild oats and his entire family thinks that it is time for him to settle down and have some children. He might look the way that is attractive to many women, he might have practiced the right words to say to get what he wants in any given situation, but his heart is still the player in the clubs and being settled into a house with a wife and 2.5 children will be more than enough to drive him up a stony wall. Ever heard of cabin fever? He will find a way to get back to the life that he is use to and misses. That man doesn't love his wife as himself or as Christ loved the church.

Convenience for a woman is when she sees that all of her other friends are getting married and the pickings for men in her generation is getting pretty scarce. She starts to feel that her window of opportunity in the child department is starting to close and now when she was very picky for the right man, anyone who shows the least bit of interest will do. The engagement will look as if she didn't expect it, but she did. Usually this is the time when she thinks that she is out of old maid hood then the man she was really waiting for shows some interest. She's married with the other guy. What will she do? Love her own husband or consider the life she could have with the guy she was hoping for in the first place?

Why would any believer put himself/herself through such an ordeal? Yet believing that you can be attracted to the opposite of who you are in Christ, puts you in the broad way of life where there is dread, regret, destruction and death (Matthew 7:13 KJV). Simply stated, what communion does light have with darkness (2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV)?

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