Sunday, June 30, 2013

The Birds and The Bees

Would a teenager today know what an adult is referring to if asked, "let's talk about the birds and the bees?" More then likely the two would be on different journeys. The topic of sex was brought on through this subject matter for the purposes of discretion, respect, keeping private matters private, and knowing that intimacy is only between those two people. At the same time, going about the subject in the nature genre was an open door for asking a barrage of questions, confusion, and complete frustration for the female because menstruation, in particular, is no where near a bird, bee, flower, or tree.

I recall when I had the "talk". My Dad told my Mom that it was time. I think it was around when they were teaching me about the finer things in life - like the ballet. As we watched the dancers, I asked, "why didn't someone tell that man that he's all bunched up in the front? See how nice and smooth all of the ladies are? Why didn't he tuck better?" I was referring to  his private parts not realizing that was the problem. I asked a lot of questions. When my mother was given that task, a day she was apparently dreading from the moment the doctor said, "Mrs. Brown, you have a daughter." She looked at me as if I was going to be punished. "Come here", she said. To wit my reply, "what did I do?" When I found out that it was to talk, the time it took for me to be relieved, half of it was over. The part I heard....well...yeah, I had questions. Scores of them. But Mom was gritting her teeth and I knew better. Mom is a do-as-I-say-because-I-told-you-to kind of parent. You don't have to know why. She did what Dad told her, but I had no clue what she was talking about.

These days parents have to guard that their children don't hear too much too soon (Proverbs 22:6 KJV). Just when you think the controls on the cable, internet, and phone ought to do it, a teacher decides to show the very movie you said your child can't watch. Think it won't happen? It happened to me and my 8 year old son. Where was the permission slip? Where was the rule of the PG-13 rating? What happened to common sense? What happened to the educator/parent partnership agreement (Psalm 146:3 KJV)? The parent can over ride the educator but the educator can't over ride the parent! Who is in control here?

Alright, it is a memory best served in the Kingdom Living blog and not here. For this entry, the topic of nature is necessary to remember when dating. I implore you to watch a few nature shows. When you do, keep in mind what seemed to be a pause when God created woman. Not a hesitation. Just a knowing that something else is needed. God looked at all He created: the heavens, the earth, the provision of trees, herbs, a garden, and water. The animals had all they needed. Man had a place to lie down to rest, something to do, food, and....one other thing he needs.

Now before we get there, recall all that man already has. Now look at the nature shows again. Here, I will help you with a few pictures: See the male lion. Most of the animals fear him. He is the king of the jungle. Large with a muscular build. Elaborate mane and a roar that sends chills down the spines of all mammals. Now check out the female lion. Smaller, not as muscular. No mane. The color of her fur is sort of a diluted version of the male's in comparison. Interesting?

See the birds. The cardinal is a large bright red bird preparing a nest. The tremendous eagle with the contrasting black and white plumage with a bright yellow beak. His nest is high into the cliffs of the mountains and nearly weighing a ton. That had to be a lot of work to put together. What about the peacock? The vibrant colors and enormous fan of display; his assets to be used to woo the hen of his desire. Did you catch that? I described males. Large, vibrant colors, and doing all that is necessary to attract the weaker, less colorful, and seemingly pitiful in comparison. This should absolutely tell you something.

Now see where Adam was living again. Read the description (Genesis 2:8-14 AMP). Notice the surplus and the strength he needed to do all that God told him to do. Doesn't that sound familiar to what was described with all of the animals? So why are women then working so hard to get his attention? Why do we need to have so much makeup and so many new clothes to get the attention of a man who has no more interest if you wore a burlap bag?


Oh sorry, you thought this would be about sex, didn't you? How can you even think about that when you don't have the rudimentary principles together? Get the relationship with God through Christ first and then prioritize everything else. He has so much to do before meeting you - so stop rushing it. Go smell a rose or something.

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Everything That Shines Isn't Always Pure

Writing in these blogs have been therapeutic. As things happen and I react to them (or not), I tend to replay the matter later in my mind thinking whether I could have done or said it in a better way. If so, I write about it. Suffice to state, I have done a lot of writing!

Recently, I was thinking about Christians and the things that some have have written as we wait or prepare for the Lord (Matthew 25:1-13 AMP). Well, it is what we are supposed to be doing as singles. Yet, instead I read things like: " I am tired of the dating scene. If Mr. Right comes along, he'll have to find me." And the reply to that comment was, "you can't just stay at home. You can't quit. You have to get out there so he can find you." Then the other conceded her comment and agreed with the reply.

You'd think that response is exclusive to women? You would be mistaken. Another Christian site that
was launched April of this year, began by posting attractive pictures of single men in the area. The response was almost immediate. Women were commenting in droves hoping that the gorgeous toothy grins would IM them. Instead, this one guy, rather plain looking fellow from some third world country, is asking the ladies who made the comments to quickly make friends with him. Where is the pictured owner? Why haven't any of the attractive single men that posted pictures of themselves responded to any of the number of women that were obviously interested in them? What is the matter with the plain guy? Why is he responding to all of these women as if he was the one who posted a picture and described himself ( 2 Timothy 3:6 AMP)? Oh, its a scam and he is the owner and the only guy on the page. Talk about desperate - yeesh!

Its interesting in Proverbs that the Lord takes the time to describe what it takes for silver to be made pure (Proverbs 25:4-5 AMP). First the raw material is discovered before being excavated. Then it must be put under intense heat. Once it reaches its boiling point, all of the impurities rises to the surface. This is called the dross. The dross is used for cheaper products. But the pure material isn't finished. It continues in this intense heat until nothing else floats to the top. Then it is formed into the planned item, whether that be a sword, pot, or piece of jewelry. Because of the process and purity the value of the product is already determined. 

Funny, when it comes to other expensive, rich , and flavorful things like food, there is still a process. Milk sits in order for cream to rise to the top. With the cream, the best cheese, butter, and buttermilk is produced. When cheese is made, it is placed on a shelf to age. The waiting process is determined and even then, it is tested (taste) before deciding if it is ready for packing, shipment, and to the market.

Coal is placed under pressure (as well as other stones) in order to change into a diamond. Even then the raw material must go to an experienced jeweler to be cut and buffed to be considered precious and valuable. The raw material in the wrong hands can change the outcome of the finished product. An apprentice practices on imitation pieces before being allowed to handle the real thing. He is only called a jeweler after years and years of study. The title isn't given as easy as getting a certificate from a vocational school or university.

What's the point? I would think it to be obvious. Yes, you have grown and believe to be mature. Yes, you can feel your loins speaking to you, "its time....yoo-whoo, IT'S TIME!!!" Yes, all of your friends are dating and you seem to be the only one still dealing with the questions of being single, going to events alone, and everybody having that perfect-match-for-you-blind-date situation. Its not at all the fun it use to be. Still, God is good and created you for a time such as this (Esther 4:14 AMP). Know and please understand, there is an art to this time of waiting. The pressure is on because of the purity in you that can do the most good after the pressure is off. As strange as this may sound, embrace it. Count it all joy (James 1:2-8 AMP). Minister to your spirit from the Word because of these trying times. For when it is over, you will come forth as pure gold (Job 23:10 AMP).

Compare these two men from the Word: Joseph had enormous pressure with his brothers plotting his death (Genesis 37:18-20 AMP); yet, in the end, he became Emperor. Solomon was the son of David. His humble prayer caused him to be the richest man in all of the land yet, when given a directive, he disobeyed God (1 Kings 11:1-6 AMP). Pressure is needed. The wait is necessary. Be thankful in ALL things (1 Thessalonians 5:18 AMP). Your time to shine is very near.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Mercy Date

Sympathy, empathy, passion, and compassion; these are feelings or emotions we have not only as Christians but as people. People believe, as Christians, we received an extra dose and they will try to use these emotions against us. Having the idea to do such a thing is evil. Entertaining such evil and making plans, even within one's mind, gives residence to the enemy (Proverbs 24:1-3 KJV). As true believers, you have to be aware of such devices (Proverbs 10:23 KJV).

You have taken the time to study the Word and repeat a variety of verses that would serve you in everyday application. That which you desired came about, some didn't, and created an obstacle against what you expected. You learned to do as the Word tells you and examined yourself. In so doing, you saw your spots and /or wrinkles in your armor, garment, mind, and/or spirit and did some crucial housekeeping so that you could be found blameless in that day. That process is pleasing to God. You can sense that (Haggai 1:5-7 KJV). Nevertheless; tests, temptations, and trials still come to prove your faith much like bacon being cured, cheese age, wine ferments, and silver is only pure after dross has been pulled from it. We hope to come out as fine gold. When following Jesus, He tells us that it is easy. We take comfort with this understanding.

Yet we have an enemy that is described metaphorically like a roaring lion and also keeping in mind that the serpent (representing the enemy) in the Garden of Eden was described as being crafty and subtle (Genesis 3:1 AMP). It sounds like two completely different character traits with the same goal in mind steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10 AMP).

It is imperative that when reading this entry there is a clear comprehension. I write because I understand the concept of the title to this as well as why any believer would do such a thing as so not to hurt anyone's feelings. However, if you were to picture the true intention of....let's use a pedophile, your actions would be very different. He/she is the way that he/she is not because it is the innocence of the child that the offender is attracted to. The attraction is the ignorance the child has in not recognizing the true intentions of the heart. The innocence is the end result of what is stolen. In making or accepting a mercy date, you represent the child having your compassion be manipulated so you can ask or accept a date. A mercy date can be like such the perp after a potential victim using the so called character traits of a Christian. Having asked enough questions around co-workers and friends, a woman can entice a Christian man with a frown or sob story making it his burden to turn her frown around. Her purpose is to use such tactics for a date to assist in getting her out of that mood. The date could be as innocent as a cup of coffee and a doughnut, yet it is still a date and quite possibly the beginnings of a spiritual trial. A child with understanding fools the perpetrator and he/she is caught... and so I write.

It is not the responsibility of any Christian (other then a trained Counselor upon request) to create or stimulate a positive reaction with someone who decides not to be. Being our brother's keeper can only go so far. We cannot make someone say the right words, do the right thing, or eat the proper foods to maintain optimum health. The burden is not ours. Jesus already carried it. He has to be their Savior as well. So have a conversation, go to social gatherings, witness to those without but also maintain boundaries for others not to cross.

In witnessing, the Word tells us that we will not necessarily be the one that will win the soul over right at that given moment. Someone might need to break the fallow ground (symbolizing the hard heart). Another will sow the seed (representing introduction to salvation)). Someone else waters the seed (representing administering the Word). Someone else pulls the weeds (representing checking up on the baby Christian to see if all is well). Someone else sees if enough sun has been shining on the sapling (represents the necessity of mentors) for proper growth (1 Corinthians 3:5-10 KJV). A mercy date doesn't represent any of these things. A mercy date is the manipulative maneuvers of the enemy. Recognize the device and stay clear.

If you are not watchful, an initial mercy date can turn into a proposal (Luke 21:36 AMP). Maybe it is what you were hoping for; yet, when the intention is not based from Love, will the outcome fare well (Isaiah 47:10-112 KJV)?