There are some things you would think is obvious not to do (Exodus 22:19 AMP). What I forget about is that there is a new generation that has sprouted out from being children into adulthood and have been taught from a media and social network that just weren't there when I was growing up. So some of the things I write, I direct towards them. Everything isn't common sense anymore and some have to pick up the rudimentary basics to realize the do's and don't in Christian dating have been written for our own good .
For instance, it has been told and some older men will let the young girls know today, if you advertise your
body by wearing scantily clad clothes, or taking pictures and posting them on social networks, you cannot be surprised with what sort of guy you get (Galatians 6:7 AMP). He will expect for you to put out the moment he sees you. Why? Because in his mind, he knows he was not the first to answer the advertisement. What ad? The picture you posted on Insta-gram, Facebook, and Twitter. Everything else read after that picture was a commercial. So there he is! Now what are you going to do with him? He is eager to see the goods in person. Why are you displeased with his behavior? Acting like an animal, is he? Yeah, they sort of do that when enticed and there is no conversation, boundaries or commitment established. You see, he has no reason to be disciplined because you have shown that you aren't either. You are equally yoked. Have fun!
I know it doesn't sound pretty. That's the point. You have to see things as practical life skills and use what God has given you for your benefit - His Word (Psalm 146:3 AMP)! Magazines sell because there are marketing geniuses that have established what the public would like to see more of. Smaller businesses have copied that sort of thinking to establish a miniature version of success. Vogue will not put a bum on the front cover of their magazine because they aren't trying to appeal to social workers and human service professionals. They use the biggest icon they can that has the look for a certain style of clothing. When the younger sect sees that cover, they buy the magazine and are sold on all of the ads to purchase the clothing (2 Timothy 3:6 AMP). The strategy worked and the industry is booming because of it. The industry crosses their fingers hoping that the younger generation never loses their ability to be easily manipulated by flashy colors and a famous name.
Look at the advertising in the bible. One of the biggest commercials of the Old Testament, and I have written about it before, is with David and Goliath. David was doing what he was called to do. He was out in the field tending to the sheep. Everyone else was in society listening to the gossip and reading the fliers that would be posted on every tree and door. They knew who Goliath was. He was described in great detail. The children of Israel hoped to never come against the Philistines because they knew they would be wiped out because of what they read on the flier and believed it was the truth. The army didn't have to fight with such a giant as their ally. All he had to do was roar; every other group that the Philistines had come against were turned into slaves or killed.
The time came. Saul knew what he had to do. He stood head and shoulders above all of the people in the village (1 Samuel 9:2;10:23 AMP). He was the king...and still with all of his experience, he didn't want to fight a giant either (1 Samuel 17:11 AMP). Enters David: he was coming to deliver his brothers their lunch and saw there was an uproar in the camp (1 Samuel 17:17-18 AMP). Notice that he inquired as to what was happening. He didn't know about the advertisement. He never knew there was a giant. What did David know about? He knew that he was serving an all powerful God that called Israel His own. Understanding that someone was opposing God is all David heard and he was ready for battle based on that small piece of information (1 Samuel 17:26 AMP). Trying to give David more then that served as waste. He spent time understanding who God is rather then entertaining the fear in a description of a giant who has never did anything for him, whom he has never seen fight, and has called God's children, dogs. David had righteous indignation and rightfully so (1 Samuel 17:34-36 AMP).
Here's the interesting thing about the ad. Goliath never fought anyone. He couldn't. He was not physically nor ergonomically able to wrestle much less battle. His height coupled with his weight made it impossible for him to stay on his feet for any long length of time. His armor only made him all the more heavier (1 Samuel 17:4-6 AMP). He couldn't carry his own shield and sword (1 Samuel 17:7 AMP). They were also huge and needed someone else to carry it for him. He was a walking billboard of fear and those that read the fliers believed it.
In terms of Christian dating, you have to consider the source. If you are all googlie-eyed for what you see in a selfie taken in a bathroom, then you deserve what you get (1 Corinthians 10:13 AMP). A selfie doesn't tell you if this person is kind, considerate, loves the Lord, or even knows who the Lord is. Why take those chances? Posting pictures of your butt, you must be advertising for booty-calls. Pouted lips and cleavage, what would a guy be thinking you are posting that ad for? Shots in your undies, what is he thinking now? You are advertising impatience and someone who is just as impatient will be trying to meet you. You won't like the out come of that. Do you think his mind is on Jesus after seeing your bathroom shot? Was yours? Really (2 Timothy 3:1-5 AMP)?!!