Not Good Enough?

 There has always been a social status and the class divide where boundaries are made crystal clear whether blatant or not. You see, dividing parties based on how much money one makes in a year, the car he/she drives, and or where one resides was the basis of friendships, business partners, and including arranged marriages. The families would be pleased not based on cultural beliefs or spiritual commonalities but the outcome financially if anything happened to a family member, the surviving individual would be taken care of. It seems like good planning and very practical right until it spills over into one's personality and day to day living.

To stir up the dust of a topic that rarely gets mentioned will also stir up emotions. Check yourself especially after reading  the Word in correlation with the assessment. There is this program entitled Love Is Blind (UK version). In it, there are couples who have exhausted all social possibilities of meeting lasting partners and they choose this social experiment to see if they can get to know one another without seeing what the other looks like. It makes both parties listen to each other and actually focus on the reason as to why they joined the experiment in the first place. At the same time it forces the individual to look inward and discovery somethings as to why they couldn't find anyone in the first place. 

The hard pill to swallow, it never was the other person in the failed relationship before the experiment. One of the women discovered her insecurities while another finds that he wasn't hiding his mental health issues as well as he thought. After a few weeks, each person tells the other how they are feeling and whether they believe compatibility could be a factor. When both agree, they think it is love and therefore can resume a relationship without the wall that kept them from seeing each other through the dating process.  For the first time, they see what they have been enjoying in conversation only and find if what they were feeling is genuine. Out of the possible 12 couples, 5 move on to being engaged (this is after seeing each other and only the flattering words are fresh on their minds). One of the 5 says

something that is off putting to the woman he chose. He finds, being a marketing executive coupled with a make up artist would not be appropriate with his family. He said he kept picturing company and family gatherings where she would feel out of place. She asks how would he introduce her to his friends at special events? He looked at her as if he had finished sucking a lemon and she could not ignore his reaction. It was more than likely a topic he was never planning to discuss because outside of that experiment, he would be going back to his life none the wiser and without her. She, on the other hand, was taking the experiment seriously. Now there was no denying where his heart really was; nevertheless, she sucked it up trying not to see "the journey" as clearly as everyone else.

There was another couple. They were adorable. They both had the same personal and professional interests. The difference was he worked for a large company and she was self employed doing well for herself. Outside of the experiment where they had to manage the time to be together on their own, it became increasingly difficult (Proverbs 28:26 AMP). He said it is because of working constraints. She answered the question clearly by stating once he found how much she made than him and having her own company, the flattering words fell by the wayside and he did not find it difficult at all to continually live a life without her. He did not dispute her answer. She looked at him in disgust...a man she had described as her perfect half and whom she had been waiting for.

This entry seemed apropos because the name of the television program is Love is Blind. Knowing that God is the definition of Love, it was difficult to fathom (1 John 4:16 AMP). Nevertheless, secular people do secular things while stating that it is in the name of love. God has nothing to do with this. However, if its difficult to do this same thing in our daily practices while looking at the other directly and coming up with the conclusion whether this person will be fit to be a spouse or not, then you know you have some growing up to do. We walk by faith and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7 AMP). We love  God with all of our heart, mind, and strength (Matthew 22:37 AMP). We know the voice of the good Shepherd and the voice of the stranger we will not follow (John 10:27-28 AMP). This is why we are more than conquerors (Romans 8:37 AMP). This is why what God has given is more than enough (2 Corinthians 12:9 AMP).