They (not the bible) say that women like "bad boys" for the purpose of reforming them. I don't know of any woman who willingly gets into a relationship so she can be a mother to a man that she sleeps with. In a word, ew!
What I know women will gravitate toward a man she knows will protect her. "Bad boys" usually come packing and are territorial. Of course, you do run into those that are really bad to the point of drive-bys, sting operations needed, prison, and eventually if not ultimately death; which then comes with the woman grieving and regretting. If there are children, then you contend with rebellion, revenge, and repeating the cycle of being "bad".
The bible has a completely different slant on the appeal of a "bad boy".
Proverbs 24:1-2 (AMP) states
be not envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them; for their minds plot oppression and devise violence, and their lips talk of causing trouble and vexation. That scripture first addresses a man that sees a "bad boy" seemingly with everything including a trophy wife. Then it continues to tell the righteous man why. To the woman, the scripture tells there is no reformation she can do with a "bad boy". If she entangles herself with him in spite of the instruction not to, there will be consequences to face for her and her children.
In a nutshell, when recognizing a "bad boy", pray that God break the
fallow ground for
good seed to be sown so he may see the error of his ways to turn around and do better. Eventually he grows and matures
into
righteousness. He then is stable to receive and be the
good investment that God intends for us to be. You cannot rush the process because of your own impatience, desperation, or lack of self assessment. We come into the knowledge of the truth once we relinquish what we thought was normal. The "new" normal becomes our habits and in this way, we grow and mature into Christ. This didn't happen overnight for you, now will it be for them. Step back and allow God to do what He does best with His own creation.
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