Wisdom gives such poignant lessons throughout the Word and especially in the book of Proverbs. In studying this book, it should convince those who are marrying for the soul purpose of self gratification to step back and take a good look at who is leading and to where (Proverbs 11:3 AMP).
The personalities of people are well disguised in making a good first impression (and months afterward). The signs of the true character cannot help but to peep out now and again. When those traits are disregarded and the relationship is pursued, regardless of the instruction, then it is difficult to find Wisdom when the contentious woman is in covenant partnership with a man believed to be the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus (Proverbs 21:19; 27:15-16 AMP). Wisdom cannot be heard when the despair of living with an unfaithful man is screaming daily (Proverbs 20:6 KJV).
So what does a man/woman of God trying to live holy do?
Shack up and let the chips fall where they may?
Uh-oh there goes stupidity again.
What about going ahead and marrying knowing that divorce is always an option when there are no children involved? There's stupidity doing overtime!
Would the other option be to stay single and have "fun" dating as much as you can?
Stupid would have you believe this and then 20 years later have nothing to show for it but a skill to reject others and the pain of being rejected.
When would Wisdom be in any of those 3 scenarios? Yet we have heard these suggestion over and over again.
Wisdom speaks clearly and succinctly. Instruction along with correction work hand in hand; much like faith and patience (Proverbs 10:17 AMP). It may not feel good initially but when you realize it is for the betterment of your future and for generations to come, embrace her. This pleases God.