For a practicing born again believer, there is no place for any regrets. We have to see them as lessons that will not be repeated. The experience has taught us that given the same opportunity, we will react differently. Emotion will take a back seat to Christian principles, love, and wisdom. These are the things we have practiced to the point of them being habits. This is what we renewed our minds for.
Honestly, having that understanding is half the battle in that spiritual warfare we call the evil nature. Its what used to be our rationality basing on what we see, rather then our faith in God. That justifying in using our emotions for reacting in anger rather then believing to receive our reward because of humility and kindness. That born into desire of being number one rather then being considerate of others. This is the building blocks of those Christian principles. Its the "baby steps" in walking out that faith and allowing God to do His good pleasure which will be for our good.
Placing this in Christian Dating is something that we as single Christians have to do. From women believing men are all dogs because of broken past relationships to men thinking that they are God's gift to women rather then the other way around. Its those asinine, stupid things that have been thought of and said based on asinine stupid experiences. The anger that has been fed when thinking about what you could have said has got to go somewhere. You entertained the thought. The beast was fed. Unless it is rebuked, it will speak and there it will be another regret that was supposed to be for someone else but misplaced due to that blasted evil nature.
It is the only reason there are regrets in the first place. It is the flesh. Its nature is to be fed by any means necessary. Our spiritual battle is walking by faith. We can see the economy going into a recession, but it will not come nigh here because of our faith in Jehovah Jireh (Psalm 91:1-7 AMP). We can see the years pass without a date or seemingly no prospects to be asked on one; nevertheless, God said He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4 AMP). We can see that she has an hourglass figure and looks as if she is really interested in you, but we know that only God sees the true heart of a person (1 Samuel 16:7 AMP). The regret in all three of these statements come when we speak contrary of the faith. Such as:
"Look at this economy! Why did I leave my job to start a business! If I don't start making money soon, I will be living in an old refrigerator box under a bridge somewhere!"
or"I only have a few years left before I can have a child! That biological clock is bonging at me morning, noon, and night! When is this going to happen? I don't even care if he is a prince anymore. Just let him be employed and not living with his mother!"
"Yeah, that hourglass shape can all go South in a matter of a few months. Have you seen how she can pack that food away? Really, do you think she is interested in me? I think she's happy that I can pay for her meals!"
As a believer, you have to know the words you speak are action packed power. I believe the verse, be angry and sin not has much to do with it (Ephesians 4:6 AMP). Emotion will have us saying all of the wrong things that we have to ask God for forgiveness and repent for. Look at it from this perspective, God spoke the world into existence. We are made in his image. The angels asked God why He is so mindful of us (Psalm 8:4 AMP). It is because we speak words just like Him to make things happen (Psalm 19:14 AMP). What if the person was very interested in you but because you said something derogatory about yourself (whether it be alone in a mirror or to someone else), for some reason, the person no longer is attracted to you. Could it be the fact that God made you fearfully and wonderfully and you said that you were fat, stupid, dumb, confused, out of sorts, having a senior moment, brain freeze, an idiot, absent minded, clumsy, awkward, weird, or any of the other adjectives that has been regretfully used?
This new year, instead of making all of those point less resolutions, why not make another life style change. My mother used to tell me, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Who knew those were words taken from the bible and with good reason (Matthew 12:33-35 KJV)? When God finished creating the world and all that was in it, He said it was good and then He rested from all of His good works. Being created in His image, we need to reflect those things. Its what He is looking for. Its what is needed in the church. Not just on Sundays but every single day of our lives. It is what the spouse of your dreams is looking for. It is what you need in a spouse. Its about to be a New Year. Today is a new day. You don't have to wait for 3 more days to make this work for you.