Thursday, August 14, 2014

Party Of One?

If you have never done it before, its not an undaunted feeling one has coming into an establishment just to have a quiet meal and then the hostess asks how many are with you. There are people in front of you, those behind you and are all listening to the answer that you more then likely don't wish to say, "Just one." Walking with a straight back to follow the hostess to a table with 4 chairs or to a large booth where you are the only one that will be taking up all of that space. If it is the first time, you are less likely to look around for a table that isn't in the middle of everything. But once you begin to enjoy your own company, getting a table next to the window won't be so difficult to do.

Which is the reason for this entry. I have written so much about the single person liking who he/she is without being engaged in a relationship first. I have asked the question several times, if it were you, would you like to be with you for the rest of your life? As crazy as that may sound, you are the only one to answer that question before you go off and make it someone else's trap or heaven on earth. Joyce Meyer, a well known evangelist, asks that question. She says, when God was letting her know that she needed to make some changes within herself. She replied that she makes declarations for change to get along with everyone and then they come home and all of those declarations are tossed out the window (paraphrasing). She finishes with, "you can never get away from you. Where ever you go, there you are." My question, so why not like who you are?

Have you ever been on a date and was seated in a nice restaurant, begin having a conversation with your date only to find that he/she is as boring as a gray wall? You try to find a topic that might peak the interest of the other and when there is nothing, you are left to wonder why are you even out with this person? What was it that attracted you to ask/accept the date? If you have ever been on one of those dates asking yourself such questions, try doing the same thing about yourself. Go on a date by yourself. Take the time to make the reservation and a plan as to what you are going to do. Get dressed as if you are trying to be impressive. Get to the restaurant on time. Feeling a little silly? Are you uncomfortable? Do you feel self conscious? If your answer is yes to any of those questions, then its you that hopes the other person will anchor the date on something for it to be interesting.

Society is full of those who try to get something for nothing. Some people have gotten away with their good looks for so long, they never had a reason to attempt with getting the inside together. A conversation on world events would be a hardship for them. Asking what was the last book they read would lead off in a direction of hems, haws, and inappropriate jokes. Anything to get your mind off of something of any intellectual value and back onto the physically attraction you both share. Its when Christians find the scripture, beauty fades. Its unfortunate that the enlightenment comes after vows have taken place. How could that happen? When did the listening of the good Shepherd stop (John 10:27 AMP)? Why would a believer be sucked into such an old scheme (2 Corinthians 5:17 AMP)?

The answers to those questions might come when you can figure out if you felt silly, uncomfortable, or self-conscious when going on a date by yourself. Why not see it as a faith test (1 Corinthians 9:27 AMP)? Do you really believe Jesus is Lord (Romans 10:9 AMP)? Do you really believe that greater is He that is in you then He that is in the world (1 John 4:4 AMP)? Do you really believe that He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6 AMP)? Do you really believe that He created you fearfully and wonderfully (Psalm 139:14 KJV)? You see, if you really believed all of these things, you would enjoy your own company. If you really believed then what others are thinking about you sitting alone wouldn't bother you. Its time out in thinking that there is a better half of you somewhere out there. You are whole, sound, and complete, even before the other person comes to find you or you finding her.

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