Knowing that arguing doesn't promote righteousness and it is necessary to have righteousness for Kingdom Living, what would the differences be between a man and a woman to the point of not speaking to one another and worse, the reason for a divorce? This blog entry is placed here for Christian singles to realize that at least the last two generations have messed up with relationships and you must get it right to regain the strength of the family again. I know, it seems a long way around the mulberry bush to get to the point; but just bare with me so you can see where I am going with this.
There is a verse in the scriptures where the first relationship with man and woman have been misinterpreted for years and clarity has to begin somewhere for the seed to grow, harvest to be gathered and productivity to continue (Genesis 3:16 KJV).
Remember in Genesis at the fall of man, the disobedience of Adam led to the curse where God was specific about the punishment. I found it interesting where He said to the woman how she will feel about her husband. It was as if she wasn't supposed to fawn over him. When I first read that, I thought, "what kind of punishment is that? Aren't we supposed to do that anyway?" And then I went back to the beginning and read how God created the earth. After He finished the majority of His creations, He looked at it and saw, "it is good."(Gensis 1:12, 18, 21, 25, 31 KJV) But the thing was He paused for a moment and looked over what He had done thus far. When He did, then He decided that it was not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18 KJV). Selah.
I did the same thing. I was looking at nature programs and actually seeing what God created. It was like I had never seen all of this before and then I got it!!! Have you really looked at the way animals behave? Have you seen that which God has called clean and their behavior? The females are oblivious to the males. The males have to go through such acrobatics just to get her attention and still if there is another that is bigger and has a better environment, then she considers him. If he has a better dance or his colors are more vibrant, if he sings the loudest or smells the strongest then he wins. But his performance better be up to par in order to win her over. Then he continues to do for her making sure that the offspring is cared for, the home is to her liking and for certain species, they are mates for life.
When God looked over this, and said that it is not good for man to be alone, would He have the woman to do the exact opposite of what the female animals do? The curse was punishment for direct disobedience in believing a stranger rather than the what the Creator had done and given so freely. The stranger had done nothing but make suggestions for the sole (pun intended) purpose of the fall.
These days women have changed the roles and do back flips to keep a man who has no intentions of staying. He doesn't ask her hand in marriage because he gets all without doing anything to get it. He looks for someone to care for him and then when he is tired, he can leave. There are no strings nor laws that is keeping him. When she realizes this, the courts don't agree. There is no laws to keep him - it is a free country and he doesn't have to stay. There are some women that create ties with "palimony" but you have to have the money and a lawyer who has the patience to fight for that unworthy cause. What can she do to keep her man when he has no desire to marry but has strung her along all of this time? She gets pregnant!!! Now the string is a rope and he feels trapped as if a noose is around his neck. The courts are all involved now and he gets his checks garnished. He wasn't going to do what is right and she reciprocated. Seed sown. After some years, she realizes that he wasn't all that she thought he was, but its too late. She created a bond that needs his participation for the next 18 years. So she can reconciles herself to the journey or creates a means to cause him never to return. She says things to emasculate him - either to his face, on the phone, or directly to the child (Proverbs 14:1 AMP). He no longer desires to be around her not even for the sake of the child. She wins that battle by not ever having to see him again but she also loses because she doesn't see the destruction she caused in her child until it is too late. How can she win and lose? Sounds like confusion and God is not the author of that (1 Corinthians 14:33 KJV)! It is one of the reasons why He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 AMP).
There is a time where the skill of patience is not being used as much as it should. Women must re-educate themselves of the generations past. Yes, it does seem archaic to be sitting at a spool spinning yarn or doing needle point to pass the time, but at least the men knew where to find the women and were confident that she wasn't looking around for someone else. I know men have been doing this for years (wild oat sowing) and consequently - it is their harvest as to what has been happening for decades, but it doesn't mean that we all must remain in the state of disobedience like Adam. Jesus did come. He has overcame the world. Women are not suppose to fawn over the men. It is the other way around. Oh, and FYI ladies, if he doesn't keep fawning over you even years after the wedding bells have chimed, it is because he is fawning over someone else. Remember what Jesus told the husbands to do because of what He had already done (Ephesians 5:25 AMP)? Paul remembered and then repeated it (Colossians 3:19 NIV). Jesus is still caring for the church....so, who are we following?