Because faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God (Romans 10:17 KJV), I can't help but to stress over and over the importance women of God have to raise the bar and not settle for anything less than what God has prepared for us.
I woke this morning and had an epiphany. Why would I want to take care of a man? Why should a man date a potential wife to make sure she knows how to cook and clean? That just sounds more like a job interview for a maid. Does a woman come into a marriage with the preconceived notion that the dynamics of her marriage is based on her physical ability to do household maintenance?
What can a man do? What does he have issues with? He can't do laundry and that's why he needs a wife? If she marries him for that, she deserves what she gets? Can he cook? If he can't, get a cookbook!!! That is still not a reason to get married.
What does he need a wife for? The bible doesn't state that she needs a husband until after the fall of man. So if you are crying about,"when oh when, Lawd!" You need to check that flesh!
There is a confidence and an assurance in righteousness (Isaiah 32:17 KJV). As much as men talk about being attracted to the outward appearance, to us (women), the outward appearance is the affects of the overflow. The Word states that bodily exercise profits little (1 Timothy 4:8 KJV) and speaks of the skill, much more often, one has in walking in love (Ephesians 5:2 KJV), crucifying the affections of the flesh (Galatians 5:24 KJV), and the fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:21-23 KJV). So why then do we dress the barn when all that is stored in it is rotten
A man needs a wife for all of the things he cannot do himself:
1. Sex: One might think he can have sex by himself for relief - the adults know otherwise.
2. Procreation: Women thought they could have babies by themselves in the 80's and then the babies grew looking for answers and why there is a void that shouldn't be there.
3. Companionship: Dogs (man's best friend) are limited. He will eventually desire to get an answer back.
Now when some get to a certain age, procreating is the farthest thing from their minds - biologically speaking. Honestly, by that age, some no longer have the desire to marry. According to Paul, this is good. However for sons of God, we focus on what God has called us to do. Study and keep the bar high.
I just don't believe people marrying and it being inevitable that the couple should struggle, financially, socially, with time management and other aspects of their lives. They say, its the newlyweds getting use to each other. I say its a living condition without preparation (i.e., no plan).
Jesus returned to heaven to prepare a place for His bride (the church) and we are to be following Jesus in our everyday lives; then we should be at the ready for His return. To make that a little more myopic: seeing that man should love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25 KJV), he should also leave for a time before marriage and have a place prepared for her. There is no struggle of the two trying to create a life together. Where is the joy in that? Where is it written that one should lose a measure of Kingdom Living until he can get it together (Romans 14:17 KJV)?
Be delivered. A virtuous woman doesn't struggle but tells her servants what they should do (Proverbs 31:15 AMP). If we look at the matter as a peculiar people (1 Peter 2:9 KJV), then we will see it different fromt he world's reasoning. "In my Father's house there are many mansions (John 14:2 KJV)." That sounds as if it is already DONE; but then again, isn't that what Jesus said (John 19:30 KJV)?