The question is when has one exceeded the overflow? There just comes a time where we have to stop and assess our lives and ask ourselves some practical questions. Is it what God called you to do? Are you doing more than what He said to do? Granted, sometimes we just can't help ourselves being made in His image and He being more than enough; however, after His work, the Word states that He saw and said it is good. There was a moment where He canvased all. When do we see what we have done and can call it good? Was it in God? Was it in ourselves whose agenda is subject to change?
God has told us to plan and write it down. He tells us to make it plain. Why would such simple instruction be note worthy? Could it be that we could lose focus, be discouraged by others, be influenced by some other idea, or be predisposed to be a man-pleaser?
I believe I wrote about this before; however, I have received new insight on the matter. It was about that ministry where the pastor taught that single female congregants so well that the single men had to make a decision. They either had to raise the bar of their provision for their perspective mates or seek for a spouse outside of that ministry. The women saw that some men choose the latter. The men stated that the women had too much attitude for them. The women became angry not understanding who would be to blame as they waited to be found. I spoke to one woman who was so angry I began to wonder if I had done something to her. Another believed she came so close to her perspective husband but with no results. She had an emotional breakdown.
There isn't a scripture stating that one is so heavenly minded that you are no earthly good. We look up because it is where we get our help. Our help comes from the Lord (Psalms 121:1-2 KJV). Yet, we are here on earth for a reason by which we cannot lose sight of.
Men, as us women learn more of God and what we need to do to improve ourselves, our obedience is coupled with Wisdom and revelation knowledge. We advance and become mature. Because of the maturation in Him, blessings come more speedily. That which we understand is less likely to be rejected but handled with care. Don't you see, God has raised the bar so that she could be even more of a blessing to her perspective husband. The favor he receives is overwhelming because of it. It is like a treasure you couldn't fathom. She knows this, but when she sees that whom she believed was that prospect, sets his sights elsewhere, she gets discouraged, emotional, and starts saying things (whether in prayer, to herself, or venting to a girlfriend) that depletes her faith, gives the enemy place, and that which she has overcome comes faces to face with her again.
Ladies, why fear? Alright, it has been a long wait and you already know that patience must have her perfect work in its entirety wanting nothing (James 1:4 KJV). Know that when he didn't pursue you and went after another, it is because he refused to meet God's expectations for you. He refused sonship. He refused what he needed to provide for you. It could have been so simple, just understand and remember that the Spirit wars against flesh and the flesh against the Spirit (Galatians 5:16-18 KJV). If he didn't take heed to what the Spirit was telling him, you dodged a household of turmoil. That would have been a raging inferno coming from a single fiery dart. Instead of losing all that you have gained, give thanks. God is good all of the time.
Now know that which I have referred to the men could also be for the ladies and that which I wrote for the ladies could be for the men.
If he is a king among men, God would not have him with a bar fly. If she is truely a virtuous woman, God would not match her with someone always trying and producing nothing. You see being heavenly minded is not a bad thing. Make assessments of your progress. Be still for a time (Psalms 46:10 KJV) to know that God is pleased with you; and be content in whatever state that you are in (Philippians 4:11 KJV). Trust that God is still in control ordering the steps of a righteous man and guiding you with His eye (Psalm 32:8 NKJ). The righteous path has been made plain (Psalm 27:11 KJV) and that rough side of the mountain has been cast into the sea (Mark 11:23 KJV). With those things completed you know that you have been and are earthly good as well (Romans 8:6 KJV).