Friday, September 18, 2009

Calling a Spade a Spade

Having established that there is a difference in dating the way the world does it and God's way, we (us, ladies) must also realize and be determined to live by that women were made for men and not the other way around. I know what was taught that women can do it all; however, out of that change, the Word continues to remain the same. Can we still do all that we have discovered and remain holy and acceptable unto God? Of course, God wishes above all things that His beloved (us) be in health and prosper even as our soul prospers (3 John 2 KJV). It is that abundant life. Having read that, continue to have that frame of mind when finishing this post.

We have also come to terms that desperation is for fools and God did not raise us to be that way. So leave those thoughts of no more good men or women left (for men), that biological clock, and if you don't have sex soon you will die, to those who are without. Fulfilling those fears will only lead you to having to answer to others and there is no prosperity in that.

Dating, as it has been noted earlier, is for the purpose of marriage. Men have the responsibility to interview the female of his desire for him to know that he found a good thing (Proverbs 18:22 KJV). It is how he obtains favor from the Lord. This takes time and is a process. That time must be void of trying to impress each other. He must look passed the shape of her body, length of her hair, color of her eyes, what she is wearing, how she smells, and what her lips must taste like. This is a lot to overcome, gentlemen but it is what sons of God can do. Children give into temptation everytime. Can you now see why dating is not for babes in Christ or children of God? You, men (sons of God) must have the frame of mind to ask pertinent questions before emotions and the heart gets all involved. Once emotions are attached, clear thinking doesn't return until the first argument usually about 6 weeks into the marriage. Vows have been made by then and it is not possible to turn back the clock to when you were single again.

The bottom line is dating initially isn't at all romantic. It is more business than anything else. It is one of the reasons why you must hear the voice of God. You must be able to know what it is you are looking for in a wife. She must have some idea what she won't put up with in a marriage. None of that sounds warm, fuzzy, and at the ready to do again. Yeah it is strange and takes the fun right out of what you thought dating should be. But here is the long and short of it, you aren't out thousands of dollars with dinners, movies, paying for her hair and nails and other baubles to win the heart of someone who was planning on lying, stealing, cheating, and/or leaving you in the end.

And ladies before thinking that this post was only for men, start getting a little more practical with the idea of dating. You know all of those dinners and gifts aren't going to be an on-going thing in a long term relationship. Understand that expensive gifts can cause you not to see how big the wolf's teeth really are. Why not turn down the glitz and sparkle and see if the man has any substance that is worth your time. The saying use to be "well, a girl's got to eat" but that's when she didn't know any better about Jehovah Jireh. God has provided for you. You don't have to sell yourself so cheap just to get a meal.

Now that all of that stuff is out of the way, all there is, is just the two of you. Take a good look. Would that person be worth your entire life? If you can answer that, you are ready to proceed for the next date.

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