Monday, September 7, 2009

The Foundation

In the dating basics what should already be laid before building of anything is a sure foundation. The Word tells us that if a house is built on sand it will fold at the first gust of wind but built on a rock will cause the house to stand in the midst of a storm (Luke 6:47-49 AMP).

In Christianity, the rock to which I am referring is Love. Without love there is no Christianity. All of the works, thoughts, and gestures mean nothing. The Word tells us this (1 John 2:5-6AMP).

There must be some sort of practice set for this walk of love by which we can hang all of the commandments and the prophets on: to love the Lord with all of our heart, mind, and strength; also to love our neighbor as we would love ourselves (Matthew 22:37-40 AMP). This constant practice makes life so much easier. It is a little rocky at first much like a baby trying to take his first steps but just like the baby enduring those toddling years eventually walking is a habit and soon to be on his way running where stumbling isn't as often as it once was. This is what God looks for in each of us. Without this practice and still wailing  for a spouse, you get the yoke of what you are equal to (2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV). Look at yourself, your life and attitude - especially when praying to God. Would you like to be married to you? Why would you put anyone else through that?

I raised my children to have some things in place before seeking a spouse. I taught them these things early so they would not make the same mistakes. Though they didn't understand  it when I first taught them, they do understand now and also know who not to date. They listen closely to what people say because they know people will tell you about themselves if you know how to listen.

Wolves come to prey on sheep. Yet if never taught to know what a wolf looks like, the innocence of the individual can be fooled and devoured. I don't wish that for my children or anyone. Would you know what a wolf says or are you him?

A wolf doesn't know how to love but himself. He seeks his own gratification, satisfaction, and manipulates anyone who can give him that which he seeks. Addiction, obsession, oppression, and domestic violence is the sum total of a wolf finding innocence. Wolves, when dating, will speak of change and it is always the other that should change and not himself. If he can get the other to change he knows he has been allowed access to the emotions and eventually the heart.

I dated a man who was in the military. He didn't like it  when mail was called (before the internet) and everyone else got a letter except him. When he came back on leave he was upset with me for not sending him at least a card. We talked on the phone a few times and went to the movies once; I didn't know I was then obligated to write to him (Romans 13:8 AMP). I said nothing but allowed him to express himself. When he went back on duty, he sent me a poem on a display board written in his style of calligraphy. I still didn't write him back. He soon got the message (pun intended).

Some may have seen what I did as being mean. Those views is what wolves prey one. It is called being vulnerable; wolves call it sympathy. For men it is the intensity of a make out session. She gets him all riled up to the point of yearning and then she pulls away for her to get her own type of gratification. She asks for things you would not normally give. Then she pounces. If you indulge in sex before marriage, it will be phenomenal for that first time and then she will have you. Either it is with a pregnancy, a disease, financial obligation, or she could just be the kind who likes to stalk a man. Yes, wolves come in both sexes.

If you know nothing else about the pitfalls of dating, know that the practice of love covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8 AMP). If you can remain calm while trusting in God with everything - the wolf cannot touch you. In fact, he won't see you. The practice of love keeps you covered in the shadow of His wings (Psalms 91:1-4 AMP).

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