Ah tests, remember you were given tests in school to prove to your teacher (as well as her supervisor) that she was doing her job and you were actually retaining the information. God does the same thing. You learn something new from Him, whether it is applying the Word to the problem or Him telling you something is being stirred up, how you handle it determines whether you proceed to the next level or ready to go back around that mountain.
In the dating scene the tests are given to potential mates by the other just to see what the temperment, attitude, problem solving skills, discipline to temptation, or if there are any impulsive tendencies. These tests are not isolated to women administering them to men; whichever the case, it's a universal no-no.
Yup, there are entirely too many people that believe it is the norm to give such an exam to see the potential the individual has to be a mate. Who taught this lesson to do and why did it take? To answer both of those questions all we have to do is go to church. Not only can we see it happen, it has been preached about over and over. Funny thing is, in those sermons there wasn't one verse of scripture mentioned - not one. Because it is just not in there.
God is not a man that He should lie. Therefore, He would not tell us to do anything opposite to His Word. The Word is the truth. It is the truth that sets you free. So how then would He oppose what He has for you and me to be free?
Tests given to each other is a cry for help. The test giver doesn't trust God, doesn't walk by faith, nor will he/she ever be satisfied with who he/she is dating.
If God tells you this is the one, why would he/she need your kind of test? Didn't God already do that? If you need to see what the other would do in your created problem, situation, or specific issue, then you have put your faith at risk by seeing results that you created. Not believing what God has done by saying otherwise puts you in an indecisive category of whom will receive nothing from God (James 1:6-8 AMP). For one who is not content has already opposed God's Word.
Simply stated, if God tempts no man to evil and He is the greater one on the inside of you, why would you? Why would you deliberately pick a fight with someone just because you never had a fight with him/her before and you needed to see what he/she would do? The Word says, "surely the churning of milk bring forth butter, and the wringing of the nose brings forth blood; so forcing wrath bring forth strife (Proverbs 30:33 AMP)."
When my now ex-husband and I were dating, I noticed how easy going and agreeable he was with me. I don't know whether I heard it on T.V. or read it in a book or magazine but I had it in my mind that it was healthy for a relationship to argue. So I asked him about it and he chuckled. He knew more Word (at the time) than me back then so his levity at my topic of discussion gave me all the juice I needed to pick a fight with him. No matter how much I tried, he wouldn't argue. Later, when we married, I don't think we had a full two weeks of being newlyweds before all he could do was pick, pick, pick and nag, nag, nag! Vows were already spoken then. I felt trapped.
It is a testimony. Take it and use for the Wisdom that is; just remember when you start stirring stuff up that you forgot you put in, don't be surprised with what you get. The Word tells us how can two walk together unless they agree (Amos 3:3 KJV). God doesn't mismatch. Let Him be the test giver and examine the results for He is the one who can see the heart of man (1 Samuel 16:7 KJV).