Knowing that dating has the purpose for marriage, should she assume that you are looking for a wife or would you make that known to her at the onset of the invitation? Do you think if you were forthcoming to her about your purpose it would scare her? Do you believe by not telling her right away you are being gentle or deceitful?
I write to sons of God who know who they are and what they seek. Sons of God know the importance of the anointing and they don't take what they see as precedence to what the voice of God tells them. Anyone else would dispute what they are about to read and with good reason. It is too much. But to those ready for the journey, let's go. The journey is to find what you are looking for - a wife (Proverbs 18:22 AMP). You know that in order for you to do what you've done thus far, took the anointing of God (Philippians 4:13 AMP), right? The ability that you now have as opposed to the life you were once living, you can see the hand of God,right? So then you know she must have an anointing as well as to enhance what God developed in you (2 Corinthians 6:14 AMP), right? It is like making a main course. You have a recipe to follow in order for this main dish to taste as good as you remembered. If you try to add something more to it unless you know the chemistry of certain ingredients you can enhance the flavor or destroy the whole meal. It is the same with finding a wife. God has given you gifts and talents to hear His voice (John 10:4; 27 AMP). Hear what she tells you. Is all she is saying enhancing material (Romans 14:19 AMP) or did she say anything (even the smallest element) that you are not familiar with (Song of Solomon 2:15 AMP).
Being a good wife and mother takes an anointing to do. Though the world minimizes the importance of both, each has its own tasks of ministry. Each has its varying levels of ministry. Each has its varying levels of Wisdom to do well. Each needs the skills of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 12:27-31 AMP). All women don't have these skills to do these tasks. Some believe keeping their bodies in shape is important then ruining their figure with a pregnancy. Some are in love with the experience of creating a wedding with her being the star attraction rather than the life after the gown is put back in the box. The sparkle of a diamond can move good sense to the corners of her mind believing that the stone is her bff. How else would you know that she is this way or what would you like to believe?
If your emotions have taken over your good sense, you must test yourself (1 Thessalonians 5:21 AMP). Walk away from the relationship. Tell her you need time to think for a few weeks. Is that thought too much for you to think about doing? Are you rationalizing, then you know you have become emotionally involved and aren't thinking clearly. If she reacts in that way, trying to convince you different then what you said, know you have given her too much control and she will continually try to make you do as she would like.
You see if you are trying to obtain favor from the Lord, you have to hear from Him (and so does she). Peace is the determining factor and not anxiety (1 Peter 3:4 AMP). If she is calm with what you decide to do - it is good. If she has something to add, it has to be from the Word to change your mind. Understand?