Making It Plain

I recall listening to a sermon about getting a man interested by wearing his favorite color. Because this was a minister and what I recall in the bible, I listened to the instruction, went to the store and bought all of these clothes of this particular color. Every time I went to church, I had this color on that I would not normally wear. Then I thought about it, is this disrupting my peace? Do I like wearing this color? How much money did I spend buying all of these clothes? Who am I trying to impress and even after I get his attention, will I like what he has to say and what he is about? How long will he be staring at the color I have on before finding out what is in my heart? In making an assessment of the person you are dating for the purposes of marriage, there has to come a time where you have some pertinent questions to ask. These questions cannot be superficial and it would give some insight to the person's intentions and exactly what is in his/her heart. Again, as unrom...

I think it was one of the games I least liked playing when I was a child. The boys never wanted to play it and so the girls in the neighborhood had to be the man in the family too. It seemed so silly and I suppose we all felt a little weird in playing the role by which we truly had no clue... not even in pretending how to be something that none of us had a desire to be -men. Of all of the games we played, house didn't seem too long to get started and be over with just as quick. Lately, I've been watching a lot of reality shows and court t.v. where Judge Judy Sheinlin says that people in making asinine mistakes and playing house without the benefit of marriage keeps her in business. Though she seems annoyed at having to resolve the mess of others, she says she has been doing it for the past 16 years. Joint accounts, mortgages, taking a break from one another, having a protection order out for one but a week or two later he is welcome to the shared bed, dating and then...

You think you have "the one" and all seems well, but you woke up this morning and thoughts of doubt have been pestering you about the relationship. Why now? Why when all has been going so well? Was it something you said or did that would cause these thoughts? Did he/she do something that changed the relationship and the lack of peace is proof of it ( Isaiah 26:3 KJV )? Is God talking to you? I ask these questions because it has happened to me and those that I have spoken to. There would be clear warning signs that the relationship isn't at all what one would think and because of the disregard to the warning signs we (meaning, I and those I spoke to) proceeded on and wished otherwise. I detest living my life in regret. It isn't really living the life that God promised at all ( John 10:10 KJV ). Therefore, I am writing this piece so you can have a clear path when taking the next step in the relationship; whether that be exclusivity or saying good bye. Last night aft...

The title of this post was a direct quote from a woman who decided to do something different because she was tired of waiting and reconciled with herself that he needed her help even with being proposed to. Well, how long is a woman suppose to wait when her desires are on a handsome single guy, but he is too shy to come over and say, hello? There is nothing wrong with her going over and breaking the ice, as long as he realizes that is all it was; afterwards, he can be the aggressor. Better yet, what is the matter with the woman taking the bull by the reigns? At the very least the job is getting done. I was looking at the animal kingdom, simply for entertainment. I know people are on a much higher heirarchy than animals, its just that God created them first before He created man and then He saw that all of the animals had a partner but man didn't. He then stated that it was not good for a man to be alone (Genesis 2:18 NIV). So, why did God pause, though momentarily, and look at t...

It is no wonder that the polygraph is inadmissible in court. It has been deemed as not a direct use of determining whether someone is telling the truth or not. In fact those who have agreed to be under the rule of such a test and know they have lied, can google the ways to fool it. If it has been thought of to use to detect lying, the liars would find a way to either refute it or make others believe that it doesn't work. By means of the purpose of dating and Christianity, the polygraph's use is to let others see what God already knew - you don't have faith and are not trusting Him. The subject matter of this blog came when I was watching a well known talk show whose fame came about with paternity tests and using the polygraph. In the last season, after keeping from the show for more than a year, I have seen them use different questions on the person suspect of cheating, lying, or just being the same person as he/she was when they first met. The ...