Making It Plain

  This blog grew from an idea for a book that was being mulled around after attending a number of Christian Single conventions and seeing the wonderful ideas people had for Christians to meet one another. It was all so exciting and interesting, at first. But then, there I was in the public library because I wasn’t able to afford a computer of my own yet, and a woman saw the title of that book that I was mulling around for Christian singles. She asked if I would have a chapter on cohabitating. I stared at the title because I didn’t know what to say. Why ask something that had nothing to do with the title of the book? Did she not understand? It’s for Christian singles. There is no cohabitating when your focus is on God. There is no shacking up and calling it common law marriage. There is no oops and making your faux pas seem alright because God sees your heart and real intentions. What was she asking of me? Am I supposed to compromise what I believe the book should be about because s...

There is a time in everyone's life where you constantly hear the complaints of relationships. Either you hope it never happens to you or not to become so cynical or you begin to wonder if the good ones your age have all gone. The idea of being so jaded as to think that men are all the same or that the good ones are already married, gone home to be with the Lord or about to be has to be a recipe to cringe. I allow patience to have her perfect work ( James 1:4 KJV ); because the alternative is listed above. When coming to the understanding that you can't trust anyone but God , I thought it was such an epiphany. Wisdom would continue to give me more nuggets and I would have the handle on finally being in a successful relationship. However, what happens is that while wisdom does what she does, life doesn't stop. People continue to change and one day you're hit in the face, like a brick hurled at full force. Those that had potential to be what you thought they would be, has ...