Making It Plain

We all have them. What used to be called "the black sheep" (the rebel) has now turned into a freaking herd! Are you the only normal one and is it something that should be introduced to your intended right from the gate? Think this one through - seriously! Its like that sitcom from the 1960's, The Munsters. They had that one regular looking niece, yet she never saw what everyone else did. I wrote an entry to this blog a few years ago entitled, Slim Pickin's . In it, I described for the one hoping to be married, not to feel desperate but encouraged because God is doing what only He can do. He moves the mooches, gold diggers, slackers, hood rats, hoochie-mamas, clowns, and freaks out of the way for you to see the true one that is equally yoked with you. Its a wonderful thing - that is, unless you realize that you have a moocher or a freak because it is your equivalence ( 2 Corinthians 6:14 AMP ). Its something to work on if you don't wish to spend the rest of your...

It is astounding when hearing people say why they would like to be married. There is a myriad of reasons that sound good but upon interrogation, one will see the real root and the true intent. It is rare that I hear a man say that he needs help and just as rare to hear a woman say that she is willing to sacrifice whatever she has to in order to be pleasing to God ( Romans 14;17-19 AMP ). Just do a selah right there for a moment. There was this man, years ago, that I thought God presented me to him as his good thing. I had already been through a marriage and promised to God that I would never put myself through anything like that again. I consented that I would be satisfied in whatever state that I am in thereafter. When I saw this man, I said to myself, "I wasn't looking to get married - but let God's will be done." The fact that he was easy on the eyes, helped - heaps! So I got busy and started praying using Stormie O'Martin's book, The Power of a P...

For some it is because of choice. Paul thought it good to be single as well. He wrote if you are without a wife don't look to be married (1 Corinthians 7:27-28 AMP). Is it that Paul didn't understand the concept of marriage, the necessity of the institution, or would you believe that he contradicted the very Word he was teaching? God said it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18 NIV). We know that 1 puts 1,000 to flight but 2 puts 10,000 (Deuteronomy 32:30 AMP). Wouldn't this be solidified with two people in constant agreement with each other and has become one to boot? So what was Paul referring to being a Christian and a disciple? More about him later. It could be a test of patience to endure the pressures, frustrations, the lonliness until you come to an understanding where the root of those issues come from? The pressure to settle down before all of the good ones are gone, the sexual frustrations especially at night and the isolation from companionship will...

Of course we don't think of ourselves as ever being stuipid. It's always the other guy... and yet without telling anyone some of our actions makes the other guy feel better. I cannot count how many times I have heard the most selfish, arrogant, foolish, things people say and do in  regular conversation. Not the clients I've counseled; not really television; everyday lives of people calling themselves Christian with justifications (sounds like excuses) for doing and believing such nonsense. And then when you ask them to give you scripture (our guide for living) and they get angry at you - like you asked for something crazy! Just because it might sound cool or it makes you feel better when you are angry does not mean we let those words come out of our mouths. We think good things and speak good things. You know, God being good and the greater one on the inside of you or should I just remind you of what your mother use to say: if you don't have anything nice to say, don...