Making It Plain

The years continue to press on after a divorce. Bills still have to be paid and children have to be fed ( 1Timothy 5:8 AMP ). Time can be your friend or foe. Your priorities change from keeping yourself "tight" to making sure the lights will be on another month along with running water. I recall looking at my broken nails after washing the dishes and contemplating if I could go another week without cleaning the refrigerator. I knew at one point in my life not having a manicure every 3 weeks was unheard of yet there I was with my hair pulled back in a pony tail, wearing an over sized sweatshirt, with jenky nails. Two other things I promised myself I wouldn't do. What has happened? It's a question that is unnecessary to ask as maturity finds there are much more important things to do. Disregarding the condition of my manicure I delved head first into a career. It was as if all of the work, schooling, and sacrifice I did were for nothing. Why hadn't things happened...

There is a time in everyone's life where you constantly hear the complaints of relationships. Either you hope it never happens to you or not to become so cynical or you begin to wonder if the good ones your age have all gone. The idea of being so jaded as to think that men are all the same or that the good ones are already married, gone home to be with the Lord or about to be has to be a recipe to cringe. I allow patience to have her perfect work ( James 1:4 KJV ); because the alternative is listed above. When coming to the understanding that you can't trust anyone but God , I thought it was such an epiphany. Wisdom would continue to give me more nuggets and I would have the handle on finally being in a successful relationship. However, what happens is that while wisdom does what she does, life doesn't stop. People continue to change and one day you're hit in the face, like a brick hurled at full force. Those that had potential to be what you thought they would be, has ...

Way back when I was a teenager, I would listen to the older women talk about how minimal the choices were when they were in their twenties. They would say, "if the men aren't already married or gay, they're in prison." Then they would look at me and continue, "What are the men going to be like when you get ready to marry?" I wasn't really interested in marrying at the time, but what they were saying stuck, especially when I would hear World News Statistics about the ratio of men to women. Slim pick'ns indeed! What was the last generation of women thinking about when they decided to accept the proposals of marriage? If they thought there wasn't much to choose from then, they had to compromise what their perfect man was ( Philippians 4:6 AMP ). If they compromised then how great was marital life to them and how wonderful were the lives of the children with two people who had to be miserable? In my current place of employment, I work with t...