Making It Plain

Why would there be pressure to get married in the Christian sect? I don't just mean any sort of Christian. I mean the born again believer, professing that Jesus Christ is Lord and walking in love in all that you do sort of Christian. Can that sort - our sort, be pressured into getting married when he/she is perfectly happy being single ( Hebrews 13:5 AMP )? What is the matter with being single? Is every believer the type to marry? Would your life truly be better and more fulfilling as a married person? Seeing that each and every one of us have our own finger prints, that is how many of us are different and treated as individuals in the sight of God. If you didn't know, try doing the same thing someone else did to be blessed. Don't you hear it all of the time, I did that why did he get a new car for what he did (or an award, or a pat on the back, etc)? The answer is because he did what God told him and you did what you saw him doing. God told him to do this or that because...

Ladies, what if the Holy Spirit, Who shows us things to come (John 16:13 KJV), allowed you to see who your spouse is. He showed you and without a doubt you know it is him because of how you feel on the inside and you like what you see. Now, what is it that you need to do at that instant? Is there any instruction that the Holy Spirit is giving you? Would there be? If He is showing you who he is, would He be telling you anything else? You already know what the Word says about the matter. Should you wait to see if he (the guy) gets the same information and has the same reaction as you? Should you tell your friends hoping they can give you more insight than what the Holy Spirit gave you? Wisdom states to find her early while you can (Proverbs 8:1-17 KJV). Where would she be in all of this? While you selah on that, the men have their own situation. Gentlemen, what if the Holy Spirit made the presentation of her (Genesis 2:22 MSG)? You can tell it is the Holy Spirit as you always have a...

It is the question the world has which reasonably makes sense when marriage is the factor as opposed to having pre-marital sex. Reasonably? Yes, we can reason to do whatever and when found in trouble still in complete ignorance and destainable foolishness, justify the reason for doing it. Also notice that past tense was used for having the question because the use of the cow and milk analogy is archaic along with the one about purchasing a car without test driving it or buying a house without having the walk through and the like. Why? Because it isn't difficult to find sex as it once was. Men use to enjoy the chase  and while still running he comes to the realization of his own foolishness. One use to believe this realization was his manhood. Why use to? Well, manhood is defined in different ways now and because in 7 years he will wonder if he still "has it." The "it" is called the "itch" and these days, women have it too. There is no need in definin...

I haven't quite figured out yet why people stay in a place where they are no longer needed, wanted or loved. It is a conundrum and must be dealt with so that each and everyone of us in Christ can be redirected to those relationships that do us the most good and stayed on the plain path of righteousness. I worked in a place where the owner of the business finds that in order for me to remain I would have to take additional classes for him to keep his license and keep operational. I resented his request for me to go back to school being an excellent employee of a complete year and upon hire, it seemed my degree and experience was more than enough. Once I graduated (2 years prior from obtaining this job) I wasn't all that eager to go back. He said nothing else about it and neither did I. A month later my administrative assistant tells me that the owner is interviewing for my job. I confronted him and he confirmed the rumor. He said that because I didn't give him a clear ind...

There used to be a generation where dates were orchestrated through parents having invested much time in their children and viewed as a precious commodities. Parents spoke to other insightful parents to see what were the values of the family before even considering the children to meet each other much less date. If the parents didn't agree instead of feuding they did not speak at all. This would have been the civil thing to do; however many did feud hence the story of Romeo and Juliet, the Hatfields and the McCoys, and so forth and so on. Times have since changed with the scripture stating there will be mothers against daughters and fathers against sons ( Luke 12:53 AMP ); children do as they please without wise counsel. Dating has become a prelude to sex rather than prospects to marriage; which, for a Christian, is the purpose for dating. When going to a movie, play, or show, we tend to look to be entertained. Our concentration is on what the tickets were purcha...

Hi, this will be the first of many entries to this blog. The topic of Christian Dating came about looking at the younger generation as a mother,  former Youth Specialist, and eventually Social Worker repeating oneself in the Human Professional field is inevitable. Remembering a childhood who parents were of the generation, "do what I say and don't ask any questions," or recollecting personal instruction (or lack thereof), in my generation - I couldn't be alone. In gathering information and playing around with a manuscript while in the library, a woman passed by the sketches and material seeing the title. She oohed and asked if there was going to be a chapter on co-habitating. Pausing for a moment, where would that fit in Christian dating? This is the question that precipitated the purpose for the blog.  Know that everything you will be reading, you might not like (it might even make you angry). That's okay. There is no way this is trying to spiritually feed you d...