Making It Plain

In grade school I couldn't understand the purpose of history. Was it going to make the present better or make a bleak future exciting? Do we decide not to repeat it or find ways better for the next generation? Those questions weren't answered. It was just a barrage of facts or false documents for a group of children to believe who would rather still be playing at recess. Is the attitude still there when we hear the past life of the person we are dating? How interesting is it? Does it change the present for the both of you? Will it make the future better or are you ready to get through it so you can go and "play"? Actually, it should be fascinating to know if there is mental illness, alcohol or drug abuse, and a past of chronic smokers. Doctors ask these questions and more because they can determine the mortality of an individual. What they don't teach (well, not any doctors I have seen) is that family pre-determines the behavior of an indicvidual. If the behav...

It isn't a cultural thing that has been done over the years with women and the relationships we have with men, but there is a difference with one ethnicity that isn't vocal with what they do to keep their men happy and two others ethnicities, that I know about, practically teach classes on it. I tried to do it and bottom line, its just too hard to keep it up. The more you do it the more you have to and then you have to find out all different kinds of ways so he won't know what you are doing. I was physically exhausted and just stopped. What happened? He expected me to keep doing it. Infact, his montage was, "no matter how I am treating you, you just keeping giving the honey." I am talking about a man's ego - what did you think I was talking about? The use of trying to cope with a man by massaging his ego is too much to do especially when you have a child who needs the nurturing of a parent. Why isn't this man well enough to cope with life issues on his...