If its not there when do you expect it to be there (John 16:13 KJV)?
I was just thinking about people getting together because they believe they would have beautiful children. Honestly, while having gorgeous children sounds like everyone's dream - WAKE UP! The two beautiful people will have to raise those children and in order to do that conversation will have to come about. Why have this epiphany after the wedding?
It stems from the May/ December relationships as well as those who set the goals of being the perfect Barbie (c)/ Ken (c) couple. Though we can see the stem, where is the root of this mess? The root is from being carnal (Romans 8:6 KJV). It is walking in the flesh rather then the Spirit of God. I know, those who have those kinds of romances would like to disprove what I am writing about and that's fine. I would like to challenge those ready to debate for them to be honest with themselves and ask if there have been issues with their marriage. Their answer would then be, "of course, every relationships has their problems." If that is what you believe then instead of debating, I would leave them with that. For everyone else, we walk by faith and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7 KJV). We follow after Jesus who is called the Prince of Peace. I can't see trouble if I am following after Peace.
Usually after a statement like that there would a lot of, "But....but...but." Why wouldn't those reactions be completed. Because the statements come from the Word of God and any believer really hearing will also hear the Holy Spirit with more Word to strengthen what was heard. You know we are a peculiar nation. You already know that the habits we have are not of the world. So why reiterate what they believe?
Now, the topic is conversation. If in the first few words, the person is not listening or show signs of boredom, because they have a tight six pack or a nice rack does not give enough reason to maintain the relationship. Signs of boredom in what you find interesting is the red flag warning you that this person will continue to see that you are as deary as they believed you to be when they were dating you. Will this person that is still holding on and find you boring be loyal to you? Why would he/she if they are not loyal in listening to what you have to say? Will you always be appeasing to do as the other person wants to do just to keep him/her interested? Does that sound like joy or do you believe you will eventually dread it?
Conversation is how we communicate. It allows us to hear how people really are whether they intended to say it or not. We can even hear what a person doesn't say which would give us reason to make crucial decisions. Such as: if you were having a conversation with a person and used the applicable Word of God in the given topic with every issue that was brought up, with the last topic the person you were talking to rolled their eyes and didn't have much to say afterward (Matthew 7:6 KJV). Would you bask in the fact that you were right, having scripture at the ready, and ignoring that eye roll or would you address the expression using the Word of God. The reaction of the other person was a point of communication. It tells you something about that person. Not reacting to what you clearly saw, also says much about you (1 Corinthians 12 :11-13 MSG). Because you saw the exasperation in that eye roll, would you discontinue using the Word as much? Read this.
Conversation can cause a relationship to flourish. These couples have common interests and can talk to each other about a number of different topics. These people can be the best of friends because they understand one another without having to get a self help book in coping with the opposite sex. It isn't trying to cope with the opposite sex that is the problem, its trying to make yourself equal with someone who is clearly not. This is why I cannot relate with opposites attracting one another (2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV). What would you talk about? How could you come into agreement with anything always opposing the other? You say white he says black. You say light she says heavy or dark. You say lets vacation in Palm Springs she wants to stay at home and in bed. Why would two sane individuals do this to each other?
Have you ever been on the phone with someone and the time just flew by? There you are in the wee hours of the morning and you aren't the least bit tired because you finally can talk to someone who gets it. You aren't all that weird or you are and there is someone else who is as weird as you are. It is one of the best feelings to have. Why compromise that with something that looks pretty/handsome?
God answered you when you asked for a mate (1 Peter 3:12 KJV). He knows what is best for you. Can you hear Him?