This subject one would think to be obvious because we have heard this scripture since Sunday School; nevertheless, the point of repetition is so that we never forget, apply it our own lives, and then be a blessing to someone else.
Is it a wonder why God would have us walk in Love in all that we do so that we can live that abundant life... seeing that it never fails. Just think if we truly had the mind set of what would Jesus do in every aspect of our lives, then once having the answer and carry it out, I think we would finally have all that we could ever hope to desire in our lives and in the next generation to come. The problem is, crap happens!
There are too many things that would influence us or tempt us to do something other then walking in Love. For instance, our everyday language is actually obscene if we were to grade it on a Love scale. Just think about it for a moment and forgive me for stepping on anyone's toes, but I am going have to start with ministers and work my way down. I was listening to a message this morning and understood exactly what he was referring to, only he was stating what we see and what we see is not always uplifting or anything to rejoice about. We can look at 10 minutes of the daily news and become so depressed if we allowed ourselves to be. So why then would ministers say what we would rather not happen. Recall the Old Testament when God created the world. He said...He said...He said... then He saw (Genesis 1 AMP). If we then are made in His image why would a preacher, a teacher, an apostle, a prophet, or anyone believing that Jesus is Lord say such things that we all would rather not be? I question, in those lessons, is that Love and is God pleased when we know to speak to those things that be not as though they were (Romans 4:17 GNT)? Are we going to be held accountable with the words of our mouths (Psalm 19:14 KJV). Do we speak with loving kindest, positive and uplifting (Matthew 12:34 KJV)?
Understanding that we learn when we assemble ourselves together to do better then what we were doing before, but then it seems once we reach a certain level of maturity, we start to plateau and ask, is that all there is? What I am wondering is, its up to us to seek that which we are called to do outside of the messages we hear every Sunday. I have found what seems to be thought provoking for one could be error for another. How can this be when we belong to one body? Just like soft cereal and milk is a joy to a toddler to eat but to a man he may be looking for a steak and cheese omelette. Soft cereal would not sustain him for the tasks that he has to do throughout the day. Wouldn't spiritual food be even more sustaining given the right portions to those who can eat strong meat and to those on the milk of the Word (Hebrews 5:11-15 AMP)?
Bishop T.D. Jakes said at one time when he heard a congregant state that he wanted to have what Bishop Jakes has. Dr. Creflo Dollar claimed a man saying the same thing to him. I thought it funny that their answers were identical. "You don't know what I have been through to get what I have. If you want this, then you have to go through something to get it." I contemplated ever having said that again, but then thought, I am not them and I wouldn't have the same issues they had. In fact, what God has for me could be so much better then what they have. Yet how would I know this if I am ever looking to see if what the Jones' have? In recalling Elijah and Elisha in wanting the mantle Elijah had before being taken home, how could this apply today (2 Kings 2 AMP)? Would we desire the anointing of another person after receiving Christ as our Lord and Savior? Would we ask for a well known minister to lay hands on us to receive the blessing before he goes home to be with the Lord or would this be error? It all being in Christ and having each of our own tasks to do in life, why would I wish for what someone else has if that person doesn't have the skills and talents that I have and I not having theirs?
What does this have to do with being single? I suppose everything. I can understand the mistakes I made in relationships and I truly wish for the next generation not to go through what I been through; therefore writing serves this purpose. I recall listening to sermons that had nothing to do with Christ but I based all that I knew on them and had obstacles to face because of that decision. It took my own studies to find out otherwise. There are people that prey on those who are sold out to Christ and if you are not watchful, it will be years before you realize what has happened. It is said, what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. Find it in the Word. If you don't know why there is something trying to kill you because of who you are in Christ, then you can become incapacitated to do what you are assigned to do. Succumbing to temptation only to result in disease and/or addiction, and ultimately regret takes time to get back on the course before temptation showed up (James 1:12 KJV). It is why God has us to walk in Love and it being what we can hang all of the prophets and the law on. Nothing else is more important then this (Matthew 22:36-40 KJV).
So while you intend to embark on dating for the purposes of marriage, keep in mind the relationship with God that you diligently drew nigh to (Hebrews 7:19 KJV). Know that there is no man or woman who can take the place of who He is in your life. For the person you intend to marry should agree with you in this respect (and with Him, in all others). Both of you will recognize Him in the other. This is how you know he/she is the one. It is also a precursor for you to understand why there is divorce. Divorce is an undisputed record of a failed relationship. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 AMP). God is love (1 John 4:8 AMP). Love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8 AMP).