Saturday, November 5, 2011

Playing House

I think it was one of the games I least liked playing when I was a child. The boys never wanted to play it and so the girls in the neighborhood had to be the man in the family too. It seemed so silly and I suppose we all felt a little weird in playing the role by which we truly had no clue... not even in pretending how to be something that none of us had a desire to be -men. Of all of the games we played, house didn't seem too long to get started and be over with just as quick.

Lately, I've been watching a lot of reality shows and court t.v. where Judge Judy Sheinlin says that people in making asinine mistakes and playing house without the benefit of marriage keeps her in business. Though she seems annoyed at having to resolve the mess of others, she says she has been doing it for the past 16 years. Joint accounts, mortgages, taking a break from one another, having a protection order out for one but a week or two later he is welcome to the shared bed, dating and then dating his best friend, having a child by one and then his brother, giving money to each other when the relationship is good but when it isn't it turns into a loan, battling it out online in the social networks and then calling it slander...I see why Judge Judy can keep a job. Still, putting it in the perspective of Christianity, can you see why the entertainment industry is doing so well? Trouble is cheap and people like to watch. Its like a continual car accident. But who likes to be in one? Who plans to be in an accident over and over again? If the answer is no one, then how come Judge Judy isn't in the unemployment line? Is everyone with domestic problems secular?

I was just noticing case after case when the two people living together break up and want to separate assets, the judge asks for some history as to why the couple is no longer together. One almost always says that the other one was cheating. Cheating? What do they mean? Is it cheating when one expects for the other to be exclusive yet both are cheating each other of the same monogamy without the benefit of making it more permanent? The laws of attraction are still in effect. If crazy attracts crazy and quality attracts quality, wouldn't cheaters attract cheaters? Do we cheat God out of the union of two believers when we decide to live together and keep Him out of the union (Matthew 19:4-6 AMP)? Can believers apply biblical principles to practices that are not biblical (2 Corinthians 6:14 AMP)? Does the phrase, making an honest woman of her mean that she was dishonest before she got married? If this is true, why then would anyone be surprised if he or she had an extramarital affair in a monogamous relationship without marriage? And then when you made an honest woman of her, did you repent for making her a dishonest woman in the first place?

A woman saw me in the library working on a manuscript. She saw the title of it was a dating guide and seemed very interested seeing that it was bible based. She asked, "do you have something in there about living together without marriage too?" At the time, I didn't. I wasn't even thinking about it because I figured that was Christianity 101 and no one needed for me to go over some stuff that we already knew. But just like God had to have it written for us not to participate in bestiality (something you would think is obvious not to do), I suppose there has to be some basic principles in the guide that some refuse to let go of as well.

When I married, I figured it was the right thing to do and what little I knew of the scriptures, at least this thing I would have done right (1 Corinthians 7:9 KJV). Eh, not living in the wish-I-could-have-would-have-should-haves, learning more of God's Word and what we all should do is why I write. I wish that none would perish but all come into the knowledge of the truth (2 Peter 3:8-10 KJV). Gone are the days about me getting angry as to why what I am writing to you what wasn't preached. There are a myriad of things that can be said now that was taboo to say back then. Playing House for people of adult chronological age is just a means to have sex without the effort and discipline that going through the interview of dating and being engaged entails. Playing House is also a means of casting away your confidence (Hebrews 10:35 KJV). Playing House is showing that you don't believe God will do what He said He would do (Proverbs 10:24 KJV). It is an outward appearance of having such little faith.

Playing House is childish and I suppose while in the midst of a fledgling relationship, it would seem to be a good idea. After all, people do believe that you don't know a person until you live with them. Funny thing about that statement, it isn't the truth. Once you put all of your trust in God, He will direct you to where you should go and will do so with the best outcome ever. If we aren't watchful, our emotions and feelings will have us do all sorts of things that has nothing to do with our hearts at all. Because our loins are crying out to get that sex any way we can, the voice of the Good Shepherd becomes a whisper, if that at all. Then when two or three children come from that decision of playing house, wishing for a time machine with lots of regret are thoughts to be battled. Can you see why there is a need for discipline? Can you see why children don't have the skills to do that as of yet? Can you see where playing house only benefits your enemy who would have your life miserable if not snuffed out altogether? Put away with the childish things already.

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