Exclusivity

Really? When two Christian people decide to date, does this subject come up? How? Why? Isn't it already understood that one doesn't date just to fill time or to comfort one's loins? Isn't it already established that Christians date for the purposes of marriage? Have I been wasting my time for the last 4 years with this blog?

These questions must show the frustration that ministers go through saying the same things over and over again in hopes that the listeners have done just that. Yet Paul experienced the same aggravation when asking if one has to go back to the milk of the Word because you have become dull in your spiritual walk (Hebrews 5:11-14 AMP). And yet teen pregnancy is on the rise.

My son and cousin said to me, "...well, you know, people are people." Its not all that profound and I don't think either of them were trying to be. Even in context, its just as simple as it is. However, as I said to them, as true as that might be, there is a certain standard...an expectation remains for those that have accepted the responsibility of being a Christian and are diligent with being loyal to the rudimentary principles. I expect it of them and myself with what I know about the Word. How much more so would our Heavenly Father?

God expects exclusivity. He tells us, to be a friend of the world, is being His enemy (James 4:4 AMP). He tells us that you cannot serve Him and mammon (Luke 16:13 AMP). Adam, Jonah, Samuel, Solomon, and the children of Israel didn't get an "atta boy" when they decided to disobey God and follow after their own fears and lusts. So what makes any of us think we will get that pat on the back when we don't wait on Him and begin the dating process of several people just to get one really good ___________ (you fill in the blank). What won't be a true statement is filling the blank with such words as blessing, spouse, satisfied feeling, thing, or problem solved.

Nevertheless, we have a responsibility to watch and pray (Matthew 26:41, Mark 13:33, Mark 14:38, Ephesians 6:18 AMP). So while going through the interviewing process of dating, ask the question if the other person is being exclusive with you right now. Just get that pesky thing out of the way. But note the expression, the raised brow and high pitched voice (if any). You see, that person is of a different sort and more then likely is surprised that you even bothered to ask. They hoped that the devotion they displayed spoke for itself and exclusivity was obvious. Course, I was thinking that too of all single Christians before I wrote this blog. Oh well, you know people.

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