Trust, A Weapon Formed Against You (part 2)?

 

Attending a Christian College to obtain a graduate degree, I was eager to begin the new semester. There were assignments, as usual, but my favorite part of any class was the essays. The essay we were to compose had to do with the subject matter of trust and where we learned this valuable lesson using scripture to substantiate the point of view. I don’t recall the content of the paper but I do remember some of the comments the professor had in the margins. He thought that it was funny. Still, at the end, he disagreed with my point of view and wrote, “you have to trust someone.” 

His comment perplexed me for several reasons. One it’s a Christian institution and I assumed those teaching are Christian as well. The other thing was that I used scripture to make my point valid and it didn’t matter to him. Finally, I wondered why I was allowing this man to teach me anything if he was going to oppose the basics of trust? The remainder of that semester became difficult for me to concentrate and as a result, I discontinued my course work there. The idea of incorporating error in my life was disturbing and separating myself from the inevitable (1 John 4:6 AMP).

Though this was school, it still had a red flag waving for me to address. I couldn’t ignore the blatant disregard to the scriptures. Even if  he had a point, he should have substantiated it with verse. He didn’t do that. He used his opinion, something that would not have helped me when the time comes to extinguish fiery darts (Ephesians 6:16 KJV).

There is another matter about trust and it’s about being gullible. Frankly, that word is bothersome

because it describes the considerate things people do in a negative connotation; nevertheless, it is necessary for you to be aware for the purposes of allowing the other party to have the last word, the finagled item, or the last laugh (Matthew 5:44 KJV). 

There was an episode of Judge Judy where an Uber driver was suing a blind patron. Immediately without knowing what’s going on, the sympathy goes to the patron because of the disability; however, the Uber driver explains picking up the patron and his girlfriend, dropped the girlfriend off and proceeded to take the patron home. On the way, the driver stopped at a fast food restaurant where the driver ordered after the patron made his order. When it came time to pay the bill, the patron discovered he didn’t have the right credit card and asked the driver to pay for both bills. He will be sure to pay the driver back once he returned home. The driver did. When the driver dropped the patron off at his residence, he went inside and did not come back out. The driver left the vehicle and walked to the door to see if there was an issue. The patron refused to answer. He had no intention of paying the driver. When Judge Judy asked the patron what was the problem? The patron replied, he said he was going to pay the driver back but there wasn’t a definitive time line on when that would be. The driver continued to testify that the patron gave the driver a bad review and posted the review on Facebook. It was one of the few times that I saw Judge Judy gob smacked. Me too! 

Was the driver being gullible and if the driver allowed the incident to pass without taking him to court, would that be gullible too? Had the driver done this before? Would he continue using his disability as a crutch knowing that people would feel sorry for him?  Isn’t it just common courtesy to believe if someone says they will do something that you can expect it to be done? Well, as much as it used to be a point of integrity and a person’s word is their bond, it is also the reason why contractual law is big business. If there is an agreement, put it on paper. If one of the parties says that isn’t necessary, walk away assuring that no deal was made. Guard your heart means just that and in every aspect (Luke 21:34 AMP). There is only One you can trust (Proverbs 3:5 AMP). He changes not.

If you need this in the most basic rudimentary building blocks of dating and relationships, know that even in a marriage, the license signed is a contract. How’s that for trust?

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