The Beau Versus Your Boo

The title of this entry came to me while I was on the couch really watching the sitcom, Mike and Molly for the first time. It was the first season and episode 17; the character of Mike is a police officer. He was sitting in a diner and said the strangest thing to his partner about his new girlfriend, Molly, "I already showed her my A-game when we were dating, now that we are a couple, I don't have the stamina. What does she expect from me?"

 Wow!

What else is there to say about this? I have had men tell me that I am bashing them and women get all quiet when poignant topics are needed for conversation before the relationship goes too far. Understand the title of this entry goes for both male and female. It is treacherous out there and too many young people get all tangled up in the emotions of it all (Galatians 5:17-25 AMP). You see, there is no value in emotion when you walk by faith. Guilt, obligation, desperation, fear, insecurity, jealousy and the like have no place when you have allowed God to have control.

What do you expect in a relationship? What do you expect when you are dating? It would seem that such questions wouldn't be necessary. Dating was an obvious act of getting to know one another and in the perspective of Christianity it was for the purpose of marriage. Both males and females these days have diluted the importance of marriage because they accepted the so called report that divorce is higher in the church than anywhere else. If there is divorce at all in the church, of course it would be higher because the number of marriages in the secular world is low. Don't get bamboozled by so called statistics. Stay focused and on the right path. Remember just because everyone is doing it and it has become common place, doesn't mean it is the right thing to do (Mathew 7:13 AMP).

In the example used above: the sitcom, Mike and Molly, the character used the term, A-game. What would that be for you? Trying to make sense of the definition of the term, I would think it is a means by which a person is putting his best food forward. Trying to be impressive. How hard would that be to keep up if it is not your character to be that good, that articulate, that affectionate, considerate, kind, responsible, attentive, and so forth and so on? It would have to become annoying, irritating, frustrating, and expensive if he/she expected for you to keep doing what you claim to be "keeping it 100". Now that you are in the relationship, how are you going to keep up the pretense (Matthew 12:33 AMP)?

There is another popular 90's sitcom entitled, F*R*I*E*N*D*S. In an episode, Ross gets a job teaching

a college course in Paleontology. He said he was so nervous that when he spoke, he broke into a British accent and couldn't stop. When he told his friends what he had done, they asked what he was going to do. He said he was going to keep it up until the temporary position is over. Ross said it was for a few weeks - no big deal. Until they offered him a more permanent position and his friends asked so will you keep the accent. Ross forgot about that when he accepted the position. He said he will have to go in the class and slowly fade it out. It will be fine. When the class was in session, Ross spoke in his British accent and then tried to stammer his way through back to speaking in his regular voice. It was a whole 5 seconds before one of the students asked, "hey, what happened to your accent?" Ross was so embarrassed. But that's a sitcom.  

In real life, isn't that what we ask after the novelty of the relationship wears off? What happened... to the romance, to the gifts and other niceties, to asking about my day, to fixing a home cooked meal and so forth and so on? What used to be unresolved questions in your mind turn into complaints and eventually arguments. Some think it's normal. It isn't. It's a harvest from tainted seed or fallow ground (James 5:7-8 AMP). (Luke 8:15 AMP)

There was this video cam of the police being called to a residential area due to a suspected domestic dispute. A young couple were having a heated argument. The police separated the couple asking what was the issue. The man said he was leaving and packed his car with some of his belongings. He has a dog that he was trying to take with him. She refused for him to take his dog, according to him while the woman has her own dog. The officer asked how long have the 2 known each other. The man answered 3 years. The officer asked how long have you lived together. The man answered 2 1/2 years. The man was shirtless with scratches all over his body. She had bumps on top of her head and a bruise on her neck. He said he went to grab the leash to get his dog and she, his girlfriend bit the inside of his arm. She told the officers that her boyfriend was combative and she had to bite him because he was trying to choke her out. The police believed the young man and arrested the woman based on how many injuries he had, his belongings were in his car, all he wanted was his dog to leave. The officers believed that the young woman was angry because she accused her boyfriend of cheating on her with no substantiated evidence; however, thinking of the information given, it made more sense that she bit that young man with his arm around her neck giving her a half Nelson rather than for her to bite any other part of his arm but the inside. She did not fight what the police surmised and was led away in handcuffs. If assuming this couple believes Jesus is Lord, do you see where the real issue began? Ask the person you are dating that

same question. Was it the answer you expected? Do you see any red flags (John 16:13-15 AMP)?

Back in the day, where this generation thinks those views are archaic and obsolete for the here and now, women referred to their person of interest as her beau. He presented himself in a certain kind of way as did she. The time spent with each other were to see if the interests were in common, were the roles clearly defined, and not to leave any stone unturned so that when going through the path called life, there are no jagged mountains to climb. This would ensure the vital scripture to be what it is (Amos 3:3 KJV). These days, she calls him her boo. He looked at her and she looked at him and said, "you're cute." Passion pursued and being in a relationship was an assumption rather than a question. Exclusivity has become a relative term rather than a point of discussion. Actually, if one repeats that term of endearment (boo) twice you will discover what it really is - a word that children use when they have soiled their diaper or made a mistake or the jeers of a bad performance. Selah.