Making It Plain

There used to be a generation where dates were orchestrated through parents having invested much time in their children and viewed as a precious commodities. Parents spoke to other insightful parents to see what were the values of the family before even considering the children to meet each other much less date. If the parents didn't agree instead of feuding they did not speak at all. This would have been the civil thing to do; however many did feud hence the story of Romeo and Juliet, the Hatfields and the McCoys, and so forth and so on. Times have since changed with the scripture stating there will be mothers against daughters and fathers against sons ( Luke 12:53 AMP ); children do as they please without wise counsel. Dating has become a prelude to sex rather than prospects to marriage; which, for a Christian, is the purpose for dating. When going to a movie, play, or show, we tend to look to be entertained. Our concentration is on what the tickets were purcha...

Ah tests, remember you were given tests in school to prove to your teacher (as well as her supervisor) that she was doing her job and you were actually retaining the information. God does the same thing. Where do you think they learned it from - lol? You learn something new from Him; whether it is applying the Word to the problem or Him telling you something is being stirred up, how you handle it determines whether you proceed to the next level or ready to go back around that mountain. In the dating scene the tests are given to potential mates by the other just to see what the temperament, attitude, problem solving skills, discipline to temptation, or if  there are any impulsive tendencies. These tests are not isolated to women administering them to men; whichever the case, it's a universal no-no. Yup, there are entirely too many people that believe it is the norm to give such an exam to see the potential the individual has to be a mate. Who taught this lesson to do and wh...

In the dating basics what should already be laid before building of anything is a sure foundation. The Word tells us that if a house is built on sand it will fold at the first gust of wind but built on a rock will cause the house to stand in the midst of a storm ( Luke 6:47-49 AMP ). In Christianity, the rock to which I am referring is Love. Without love there is no Christianity. All of the works, thoughts, and gestures mean nothing. The Word tells us this ( 1 John 2:5-6 AMP). There must be some sort of practice set for this walk of love by which we can hang all of the commandments and the prophets on: to love the Lord with all of our heart, mind, and strength; also to love our neighbor as we would love ourselves ( Matthew 22:37-40 AMP ). This constant practice makes life so much easier. It is a little rocky at first much like a baby trying to take his first steps but just like the baby enduring those toddling years eventually walking is a habit and soon to be on his way runnin...

Hi, this will be the first of many entries to this blog. The topic of Christian Dating came about looking at the younger generation as a mother,  former Youth Specialist, and eventually Social Worker repeating oneself in the Human Professional field is inevitable. Remembering a childhood who parents were of the generation, "do what I say and don't ask any questions," or recollecting personal instruction (or lack thereof), in my generation - I couldn't be alone. In gathering information and playing around with a manuscript while in the library, a woman passed by the sketches and material seeing the title. She oohed and asked if there was going to be a chapter on co-habitating. Pausing for a moment, where would that fit in Christian dating? This is the question that precipitated the purpose for the blog.  Know that everything you will be reading, you might not like (it might even make you angry). That's okay. There is no way this is trying to spiritually feed you d...