Making It Plain

Knowing that dating has the purpose for marriage, should she assume that you are looking for a wife or would you make that known to her at the onset of the invitation? Do you think if you were forthcoming to her about your purpose it would scare her? Do you believe by not telling her right away you are  being gentle or deceitful? I write to sons of God who know who they are and what they seek. Sons of God know the importance of the anointing and they don't take what they see as precedence to what the voice of God tells them. Anyone else would dispute what they are about to read and with good reason. It is too much. But to those ready for the journey, let's go. The journey is to find what you are looking for - a wife (Proverbs 18:22 AMP). You know that in order for you to do what you've done thus far, took the anointing of God (Philippians 4:13 AMP) , right? The ability that you now have as opposed to the life you were once living, you can see the hand of God, right? So t...

Hindsight is an outward manifestation of direct disobedience. Though it is made into something that is good to tell the next generation not to repeat the same mistakes for the purpose of their prosperity, but only if they don't envelope seducing opposition; that which happened to the previous generation. With that understanding, it is a reason to pray before embarking on said hindsight lesson. I have come to the realization in these last 15-20 years that there aren't many who are willing to tell the younger generation of their hindsight. It is too embarrassing or is the attitude, "I got mine, you got to get yours the best way you can" stronger than to do what is right? No one likes to live in dread or regret, but isn't it just worth knowing that you changed someone else's life completely for the better to put yourself through that temporary embarrassment? More about this later. The scripture that comes to mind for the purpose of making the topic clear is E...

First, understand that the soul is made up of the will, mind, and emotions. Now you know that God wishes above all things that your soul is healthy ( 3 John 2 AMP ). With these two things in mind also add that confessions of the past cleanses that soul with a renewed mind and making those old things to pass away ( 2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV ). As Christians we tend to say things with our emotions that seem to sound good but it actually isn't good  at all. Let's recall being so in love to the point of this person being your whole world . You actually believed you were soul mates . Her eyes captivated your heart . Let's not forget the ever popular, you are my whole life . Saying these things didn't make the experience of being together anymore fulfilling. Those words only kept emotions ignited to the point of sexual temptation. Some held on until vows were spoken at the court house while others succumbed to those very words spoken. The sexual experience temporarily enhan...

It is a statement children say to comfort their egos; and yet, grown adults have scampered trying to recover from rejection and in their vast vocabulary and social prowess, when pride was the guide instead of God, the same words come to mind allowing the fall to be as painful as it should be. Rejection can be a long walk back to the bar stool hearing the snickers behind one's back at the lame rap or waiting by the phone for that call one should get when the conversation seemed great and the physical attraction was electrifying. Sometimes it is expected but most of the time it isn't. And while we could (and have) moped in a small room listening to sad songs with the most fattening empty calorie food item that could be found, none of which will make you more accepted, more comforted, or more loved. The usual thing that the world does is a waste of time, money and the investment God put in you to do better because you know better. Those revenge statements like, "I didn...

It is no wonder that the polygraph is inadmissible in court. It has been deemed as not a direct use of determining whether someone is telling the truth or not. In fact those who have agreed to be under the rule of such a test and know they have lied, can google the ways to fool it. If it has been thought of to use to detect lying, the liars would find a way to either refute it or make others believe that it doesn't work. By means of the purpose of dating and Christianity, the polygraph's use is to let others see what God already knew - you don't have faith and are not trusting Him. The subject matter of this blog came when I was watching a well known talk show whose fame came about with paternity tests and using the polygraph. In the last season, after keeping from the show for more than a year, I have seen them use different questions on the person suspect of cheating, lying, or just being the same person as he/she was when they first met. The ...

Before Michael Jackson used that word (history) for one of his CD sleeves, my mother was given that word by God in a manner that was a message in of itself. History is His story. His; meaning Jesus. We know His history for it is what we have built our faith. He hid nothing yet the mystery The Word speaks of is the search for the Kingdom Life at the ready for those who believe (Mark 4:11 KJV). I have to refer to that pastor I mentioned in previous posts who was teaching on his rules to Christian dating because he couldn't find such things in the scriptures. He said that those who are purposed in their heart to marry (paraphrasing) should be able to talk about their relationship history. Reason being, the intended should never be confronted  and shocked by someone stating intimate details of the past to make it seem as though it is current. Meaning, people get jealous and they tell one another. If these tales gets back to an ex (one that's been sexual) and it breaks up the cur...

What caused you to invite that specific woman for a date? Why did he ask you out? If asked, would you have an acceptable answer? I have asked my date what was he thinking when asking me out. I have a number of answers; however, knowing now what I do as opposed to then, none of those answers would be acceptable for a 2nd or 3rd date much less a conversation over the phone. They were charming, smooth and well rehearsed with every intention on getting one thing. I know what you are thinking, " yeah, but you did go out with them ." Again, I know better and much to your chagrin - no I didn't, but that's a completely different post all in of itself . This topic is about recognizing someone who likes to take advantage. Probably a wolf in the making, though not entirely; just as exhausting to deal with. At my job, there is a woman who is legally blind (this means she can see images though not clearly enough to correct with prescriptive glasses). I answer emergency calls ...