Making It Plain

In Biblical times a deal was made by exchanging livestock, one's children, or parcels of land. Breaking deals were unheard of because it was a question of integrity and character not just for the one breaking the deal but for the whole family. Breaking a deal was the makings of a full fledged feud...well, that was back then. Breaking deals have now been done so casually as if expected. Character isn't in question unless large sums of money, land, or any other luxurious possession is attached. With those attachments comes papers to be sued and long court battles until the only ones pleased with the outcome are the attorneys. The plaintiff or the defendant's consolation is the principle of the matter. Last time I checked, principles don't pay bills. What about relationships? Having the Christian principles in place and knowing that the bending (or eliminating) of the rules has its own consequences (1 John 1:9 AMP), what must happen in order for the deal to be broken?...

Ladies, what if the Holy Spirit, Who shows us things to come (John 16:13 KJV), allowed you to see who your spouse is. He showed you and without a doubt you know it is him because of how you feel on the inside and you like what you see. Now, what is it that you need to do at that instant? Is there any instruction that the Holy Spirit is giving you? Would there be? If He is showing you who he is, would He be telling you anything else? You already know what the Word says about the matter. Should you wait to see if he (the guy) gets the same information and has the same reaction as you? Should you tell your friends hoping they can give you more insight than what the Holy Spirit gave you? Wisdom states to find her early while you can (Proverbs 8:1-17 KJV). Where would she be in all of this? While you selah on that, the men have their own situation. Gentlemen, what if the Holy Spirit made the presentation of her (Genesis 2:22 MSG)? You can tell it is the Holy Spirit as you always have a...

For some it is because of choice. Paul thought it good to be single as well. He wrote if you are without a wife don't look to be married (1 Corinthians 7:27-28 AMP). Is it that Paul didn't understand the concept of marriage, the necessity of the institution, or would you believe that he contradicted the very Word he was teaching? God said it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18 NIV). We know that 1 puts 1,000 to flight but 2 puts 10,000 (Deuteronomy 32:30 AMP). Wouldn't this be solidified with two people in constant agreement with each other and has become one to boot? So what was Paul referring to being a Christian and a disciple? More about him later. It could be a test of patience to endure the pressures, frustrations, the lonliness until you come to an understanding where the root of those issues come from? The pressure to settle down before all of the good ones are gone, the sexual frustrations especially at night and the isolation from companionship will...

The title of this post was a direct quote from a woman who decided to do something different because she was tired of waiting and reconciled with herself that he needed her help even with being proposed to. Well, how long is a woman suppose to wait when her desires are on a handsome single guy, but he is too shy to come over and say, hello? There is nothing wrong with her going over and breaking the ice, as long as he realizes that is all it was; afterwards, he can be the aggressor. Better yet, what is the matter with the woman taking the bull by the reigns? At the very least the job is getting done. I was looking at the animal kingdom, simply for entertainment. I know people are on a much higher heirarchy than animals, its just that God created them first before He created man and then He saw that all of the animals had a partner but man didn't. He then stated that it was not good for a man to be alone (Genesis 2:18 NIV). So, why did God pause, though momentarily, and look at t...

Hm, I thought about this and actually believed I had written a post about it sometime ago... but that must have been the manuscript I was thinking about. It had to do with what one delicately puts as the May/December relationship. There may be snow on the roof but plenty of fire in the furnace... to not put it as delicately. In either analogy, you must be able to see the fallacies in that sort of thinking. Would that God put such a pair together? If we look at this in its most practical form without negating the Word, you will see the mistakes that people have made and realize that there aren't any follow up stories with those relationships. Whether it be a man with a little kitten or a cougar with a boy toy, in that perspective we can clearly see that it is the flesh being fed and satisfied. But we are peculiar and know that the flesh has been crucified with its lusts and affections so if it be the older woman and younger man or the older man and younger woman, it would not be...

In grade school I couldn't understand the purpose of history. Was it going to make the present better or make a bleak future exciting? Do we decide not to repeat it or find ways better for the next generation? Those questions weren't answered. It was just a barrage of facts or false documents for a group of children to believe who would rather still be playing at recess. Is the attitude still there when we hear the past life of the person we are dating? How interesting is it? Does it change the present for the both of you? Will it make the future better or are you ready to get through it so you can go and "play"? Actually, it should be fascinating to know if there is mental illness, alcohol or drug abuse, and a past of chronic smokers. Doctors ask these questions and more because they can determine the mortality of an individual. What they don't teach (well, not any doctors I have seen) is that family pre-determines the behavior of an indicvidual. If the behav...

It isn't a cultural thing that has been done over the years with women and the relationships we have with men, but there is a difference with one ethnicity that isn't vocal with what they do to keep their men happy and two others ethnicities, that I know about, practically teach classes on it. I tried to do it and bottom line, its just too hard to keep it up. The more you do it the more you have to and then you have to find out all different kinds of ways so he won't know what you are doing. I was physically exhausted and just stopped. What happened? He expected me to keep doing it. Infact, his montage was, "no matter how I am treating you, you just keeping giving the honey." I am talking about a man's ego - what did you think I was talking about? The use of trying to cope with a man by massaging his ego is too much to do especially when you have a child who needs the nurturing of a parent. Why isn't this man well enough to cope with life issues on his...