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Do You Love Yourself?

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I try not to watch too much of Maury Povich because of all of the tears that come from obtaining what is perceived as being the truth. However, as much as I try, I find there are one or two that says something out from their emotion that inspires me to write an entry to this blog. Yesterday, I watched a rerun of the aforementioned program. Normally, I just don't like reruns much, but there wasn't anything else on. Anyway, this woman knew that her live in boyfriend was cheating on her (don't they all?). He has done it before, but this time if the tests come back that he's  into his old ways, she really and truly is going to leave him. I have found in these last 5 years or so, the women have learned to ask pertinent questions on that lie detector that is more revealing then if he has cheated or not. They ask if he is still interested in marriage or if he really does love her. Its funny when it is found that he is cheating on her again but the test also reveals that he lov...

Was This In Your Plans?

A couple of months ago, I recall enjoying a message during Sunday morning services. The pastor has been teaching on a series about What Kind of a Christian Are You? It does make us all think about the lives we have been living and why matters are the way they are without anyone to blame but ourselves. There was one scripture that he referred the congregation to that I know I have read before but this time it stuck with me in such a way that I had to write about it.The scripture was Deuteronomy 24:5 KJV . In raising my family (4 boys and 1 girl), I was so concerned about what my children were going to hear while not being in my presence, especially my sons. I figured my daughter was around me all of the time and I had some control over guiding her in the right direction. Every chance I got, I had to reiterate the verses from the scriptures and make sure they understood the practical application of the Word. I wish I had what I was giving them when I was their age. It was like a head ...

The Marriage Bed Is Undefiled

The marriage bed is the point of a sort of Utopia in which the Christian couple can partake thereof free from any sort of guilt (that is, if they didn't wait prior to getting married - just being real). It is where the consummation of the blessed union takes place. It is the reason many young people rush into things without checking for all of the other priorities first. It is the place where the couple begins their life together in bliss or the beginnings of constant turmoil. I wrote a number of entries about the troubles a couple can receive if marrying on an impulse. This is not what I am writing for now. The thoughts of my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ not having a full scope of  how necessary maturity in Christ must be in order to marry was bothering me. You see, when dating for the purposes of marriage comes about, there are two different people with thoughts and ideas of what they want in a marriage.  Those two people lived lives in a household, more then...

How Much Love Do You Have In You?

The Word tells us to walk by faith and not by sight and for us to walk in the Spirit so not to fulfill the lust of the flesh. With this understanding, do we then have clear insight of the things that we see and desire afterwards? I know I have seen somethings and made a declaration that the thing that I saw will be mine or such and such I will have... you know, something along that nature. I didn't take the time to ask God if that would be good for me to have, I just declared and went on about my business thinking that eventually I will receive that ( 1 Corinthians 6:12 AMP ). Once mature in Christ, one might read that first paragraph and congratulate me in creating my world just as God did. We are made in His image and it is what He expects for all of us to do. God has reminded me of this when I have gotten myself in all sorts of mess thinking that I could work it out but the more declaration I was making, the worse it was getting. Consequently in all of the power that has bee...

The Influence of Change

My mother used to tell me when I left the house to go to school, that I and my siblings are representing the family and for us to behave accordingly; reason being, we don't know who is watching us and lives can be changed by the way we conduct ourselves. As children this didn't mean as much to me as it did when I became a young adult and saw one of my high school friends recognize me while I was in church. We had not seen each other for a few years. When she saw me, she hugged me and began telling me her horrific story when we were both attending the same school. When she finished all that she said, she concluded with, "it was the conversations we had that got me through it." Personally, it freaked me out a little. The responsibility of what my mother repeated over and over again just became real. That's the changing we all do as children. Thinking that we are so cool until something hits you like a Mack (c) truck, then all of the teaching we have had over the y...

Chubby Chasers

This might sting for some believers but read through it anyway; I don't like writing fluff pieces. The purpose for this blog is for edification, exhortation, and comfort. Having to be one of many needing to lose a few pounds, when I heard that there were men who liked women with something they could hold on to, I actually took a sigh of relief. So much pressure to be a certain size had left and for awhile I could concentrate on other matters that got me from point A to point B ( Matthew 6:25-34 AMP ). But then, I got deeper in the Word of God, gained some knowledge, and received an education. Because of my career choice coupled with the anointing, I observed more then I ever could before. I then wondered if I could speak to a handful of those Chubby Chasers individually, what would I find? First, I understood how I felt when approached by an interested man. There was something he liked that allowed  him to be confident in coming toward me and asking my name. Eventually, I had t...

What About the Second Time Around?

Alright he/she has been married before and now has learned a few things about relationships he/she didn't know before. They have seen the so called marital bliss light and decided to give it another go. However, he/she has done this, you are convinced (if you aren't the one that did the convincing) and now you have decided to propose or you said yes. You know there is a whole plethora of things you, as a believer, have to ask and do before actually walking down that aisle - right? First, I can't believe you think this is a made in the shade deal when the other person has done this before. What are you thinking? And if the other person has children, whether in that person's physical custody or not, its another load of drama because there is another adult with feelings and a history you have to acknowledge that he/she does really exist. Then those children, those tiny little reminders of a life before he/she knew you. A life with another person who looks like one or  tw...