Making It Plain

It is astounding when hearing people say why they would like to be married. There is a myriad of reasons that sound good but upon interrogation, one will see the real root and the true intent. It is rare that I hear a man say that he needs help and just as rare to hear a woman say that she is willing to sacrifice whatever she has to in order to be pleasing to God ( Romans 14;17-19 AMP ). Just do a selah right there for a moment. There was this man, years ago, that I thought God presented me to him as his good thing. I had already been through a marriage and promised to God that I would never put myself through anything like that again. I consented that I would be satisfied in whatever state that I am in thereafter. When I saw this man, I said to myself, "I wasn't looking to get married - but let God's will be done." The fact that he was easy on the eyes, helped - heaps! So I got busy and started praying using Stormie O'Martin's book, The Power of a P...

Way back when I was a teenager, I would listen to the older women talk about how minimal the choices were when they were in their twenties. They would say, "if the men aren't already married or gay, they're in prison." Then they would look at me and continue, "What are the men going to be like when you get ready to marry?" I wasn't really interested in marrying at the time, but what they were saying stuck, especially when I would hear World News Statistics about the ratio of men to women. Slim pick'ns indeed! What was the last generation of women thinking about when they decided to accept the proposals of marriage? If they thought there wasn't much to choose from then, they had to compromise what their perfect man was ( Philippians 4:6 AMP ). If they compromised then how great was marital life to them and how wonderful were the lives of the children with two people who had to be miserable? In my current place of employment, I work with t...

There comes a time in a relationship (before marriage) where one has to be true to oneself. God tells us what we should and shouldn't do. Whether we hear Him or even listen to His voice is a matter we will contend with sooner or later. The Word tells us that the Holy Spirit will lead us into all truth and show us things that are to come ( John 16:13 KJV ). Some call those things, red flags. How many do you have to see before calling the whole thing off? Seriously, I get it. Its been a long time between relationships and that nagging thought that this one could be your last chance, is like carrying a boulder on your back. Nevertheless, would God do that to you? Would He have you worried or anxious over such silly matters as this one being the last chance with over 6 billion people on the planet ( Luke 12:24-26 AMP )? Of course not. And why are you worrying over such things when you have so many other matters to contend with. What about your assignment and that career that you ar...

The complacency of such a statement as if there is nothing to it, often happens when caught in the act. I know with the seasoned believer there wouldn't be such a phrase in the mind of one who knows that he/she is housing the Holy Spirit within ( 1 Corinthians 6:19 AMP ). In trying to make it a cliche is what the baby Christian might still be struggling to contend with. How to decipher what is old and what is new is why I write this entry. You must understand that its not as simple as it just being sex. Sex is more complicated then people have coined it to be over the last 30 years. Once there is an understanding that sex is meant to be monogamous, there will also be a clear perception of the new. The old has passed away ( 2 Corinthians 5:17 AMP ). I heard this phrase when a man was trying to convince his wife that what he had with another woman while still married to her didn't mean anything. Of course he didn't believe this and the feeble attempts to explain this to hi...

A term that is more commonly known, to me, as flatulence is also a point in any relationship that kind of defines it. Pause and think about that (selah). If casually farting defines a relationship, it would be interesting what the feedback is without finishing the remainder of this entry. Alright, how can the relationship be defined with passing gas? If a person has become so relaxed around the other that ripping one is acceptable, a discussion would also be on the agenda. Do you know enough about this person for him/her to inhale that foul odor stream in a gas from your hind quarters? Sometimes it just slips out! Does it or is it a means to force the relationship out of the impressing mode to a casual level? Will the lack of bathing and wearing sweat clothes all the live long day be next? If that's acceptable, why not have hairy arm pits and add bad breath too? Fine, let's put the matter in the perspective of the Word by which this entire blog is founded. I recent...

Alright that makes as much sense as saying, the devil made me do it. Do what? What was it that you did that you have now placed blame on the devil? What is a cheating demon anyway? Aside from playing the blame game, someone who thinks that this is a good enough defense for wrong doing is deluding himself. The purpose of saying this sort of thing is to appeal to those of the faith. We know what it is to be delivered from something that has been entertained for years; however, we also know that the entertaining of that something kept us from the abundant life is due mostly from ignorance and not a decision to do wrong no matter what. Is this a judgement and can we be sympathetic to those that are going through something? Sympathetic - of course. Judging someone for falling short of God's glory - of course not ( Romans 3:23 KJV ). We have all been there, it's just that there is a difference between passing judgement and not being naïve of the devices of the enemy. Know it ...

I was thinking about those wonderful couples that seem absolutely precious. She is hanging on his every word and he looks at her as if there is no other woman on the face of the planet. How did they get that way and how is it that those sorts of couples that can work out their differences and stay together for actually the rest of their lives? Its effortless for them to resist the temptation of others and divorce was never an option. What did they do that the rest didn't get? Can we get it now? Would you like a marriage that can last forever? Can you see yourself with the same person FOREVER ? I suppose if you aren't actually infatuated with someone right now as you are reading this, it just doesn't seem plausible. Even if you did entertain the idea, who could you see yourself with? A better question, who could see themselves with you? While you ponder through that, I had to get real with myself. I thought about the possibility of being married to someone for the rest of...