Making It Plain

There is a  recent entry to this blog entitled, The Glue To A Marriage . In it is described the mistakes that were made when the original message was heard  and then I read the Word for myself. By that time, my marriage had failed. Things done would have been different if the lessons came from the real truth . It is why I continue to write for my brothers and sisters in Christ to learn for themselves so not to fall in the same error. This entry is from the reaction I hear women talk about dealing with their marital duties ( 1 Corinthians 7:4 AMP ). I see the look on their faces as they describe sex as being such the chore like laundry and washing dishes. The euphoric look in their eyes as they use to have when they were dating is gone. What happened to that mystique that we all wish would never go away? Those tingles and the butterflies in our stomachs at the sight of the intended when they are close by, what happened to that? Do we get use to the other person and eventual...

It is not something that is thoroughly discussed because a new couple never factors in hobbies and other interests as being a problem in a marriage. Nevertheless, when a man gets to be an enthusiast in a sport that he will never play in but keeps scores of all of his favorite players, ladies need to realize that this seemingly innocent interest could become the mistress that no woman counts on. He will spend every weekend with her and some week days. He will eat with her and laugh in a manner that he will never have with you. He will share her with his other friends and when she isn't there, it is all he and his friends can talk about until she returns again. And just when you think the season is over and you have at least 4 months to be with your new boyfriend, fiance, or husband without interruption, it is time for a new season of a different sport. Its like he turned in the blonde for a redhead. He will try to pacify you with some kind words and a bauble or two, but you know...

There are a number of things I try to do in this blog to assist people in gaining better insight in the Word of God. If nothing else, I hope people would try to pick up their bibles again and find the scripture to refute what I have been writing. Not for the purpose of arguing , rather to start enjoying the love God has set before you in those wonderful pages. There are also some entries in this blog written especially for the pastors, preachers, evangelists, prophets, and apostles where they received a Word from God to minister to His people but instead of the entire message, the congregation received a number of "rabbit trails" that misconstrued the true intent of the sermon and caused the members to be in error venturing off the given path ( Psalm 119:105 AMP ). The error I recall here was while I was dating for the purposes of marriage and after we failed in the marriage. While dating, there was a pastor that preached over and over again that the glue to a marriage...

It is astounding when hearing people say why they would like to be married. There is a myriad of reasons that sound good but upon interrogation, one will see the real root and the true intent. It is rare that I hear a man say that he needs help and just as rare to hear a woman say that she is willing to sacrifice whatever she has to in order to be pleasing to God ( Romans 14;17-19 AMP ). Just do a selah right there for a moment. There was this man, years ago, that I thought God presented me to him as his good thing. I had already been through a marriage and promised to God that I would never put myself through anything like that again. I consented that I would be satisfied in whatever state that I am in thereafter. When I saw this man, I said to myself, "I wasn't looking to get married - but let God's will be done." The fact that he was easy on the eyes, helped - heaps! So I got busy and started praying using Stormie O'Martin's book, The Power of a P...

Way back when I was a teenager, I would listen to the older women talk about how minimal the choices were when they were in their twenties. They would say, "if the men aren't already married or gay, they're in prison." Then they would look at me and continue, "What are the men going to be like when you get ready to marry?" I wasn't really interested in marrying at the time, but what they were saying stuck, especially when I would hear World News Statistics about the ratio of men to women. Slim pick'ns indeed! What was the last generation of women thinking about when they decided to accept the proposals of marriage? If they thought there wasn't much to choose from then, they had to compromise what their perfect man was ( Philippians 4:6 AMP ). If they compromised then how great was marital life to them and how wonderful were the lives of the children with two people who had to be miserable? In my current place of employment, I work with t...

There comes a time in a relationship (before marriage) where one has to be true to oneself. God tells us what we should and shouldn't do. Whether we hear Him or even listen to His voice is a matter we will contend with sooner or later. The Word tells us that the Holy Spirit will lead us into all truth and show us things that are to come ( John 16:13 KJV ). Some call those things, red flags. How many do you have to see before calling the whole thing off? Seriously, I get it. Its been a long time between relationships and that nagging thought that this one could be your last chance, is like carrying a boulder on your back. Nevertheless, would God do that to you? Would He have you worried or anxious over such silly matters as this one being the last chance with over 6 billion people on the planet ( Luke 12:24-26 AMP )? Of course not. And why are you worrying over such things when you have so many other matters to contend with. What about your assignment and that career that you ar...

The complacency of such a statement as if there is nothing to it, often happens when caught in the act. I know with the seasoned believer there wouldn't be such a phrase in the mind of one who knows that he/she is housing the Holy Spirit within ( 1 Corinthians 6:19 AMP ). In trying to make it a cliche is what the baby Christian might still be struggling to contend with. How to decipher what is old and what is new is why I write this entry. You must understand that its not as simple as it just being sex. Sex is more complicated then people have coined it to be over the last 30 years. Once there is an understanding that sex is meant to be monogamous, there will also be a clear perception of the new. The old has passed away ( 2 Corinthians 5:17 AMP ). I heard this phrase when a man was trying to convince his wife that what he had with another woman while still married to her didn't mean anything. Of course he didn't believe this and the feeble attempts to explain this to hi...