Making It Plain

 Back when cartoons were hilarious, the villainous character would be leaning against a building just inside a dark alley watching for unsuspecting people. Once he found that "patsy", (as they would call them), he'd take the tooth pick out of his mouth and with a throaty voice speak the title of this entry then a head wag for the said "patsy" to come toward his direction to get the something he doesn't want anyone else to hear and for the "patsy" not to miss out on. It is always an item that would benefit the skulking character for the "patsy" to purchase it. It is why it has to be a secret so no one would be the wiser and convince the "patsy" when it is almost always a scam. From insider trading to purchasing a prime piece of land a stone's throw away from swamp territory and everything in between. It is up to the buyer to do his/her due diligence with a proper investigation in order to make a quality decision to invest or ...

Long before I knew what the word meant, people used to say, "chivalry is dead." No one exclaimed otherwise, so it was assumed to be fine. Let it go. When understanding that it is a good attribute for men to have, there would have been some opposition; but it was too late, People were fine with it being dead...that is, until they need it. As you know, if you have read any of these blog entries, I do people watching and am usually surprised at some of the things seen. At the parking lot of a grocery store, a young man got out of the car and came to the other side to open the door for a young lady. He seemed to be making fun of a mannerism that has fallen by the way side. But then he held out his bent elbow. It was in wonderment, what was he doing that for? The young lady looked at him as if something was wrong until she noticed his elbow held out for her. She smiled, put her hand through the opening and held fast to his arm. My immediate reaction was, "aww!" Not sar...

 There has always been a social status and the class divide where boundaries are made crystal clear whether blatant or not. You see, dividing parties based on how much money one makes in a year, the car he/she drives, and or where one resides was the basis of friendships, business partners, and including arranged marriages. The families would be pleased not based on cultural beliefs or spiritual commonalities but the outcome financially if anything happened to a family member, the surviving individual would be taken care of. It seems like good planning and very practical right until it spills over into one's personality and day to day living. To stir up the dust of a topic that rarely gets mentioned will also stir up emotions. Check yourself especially after reading  the Word in correlation with the assessment. There is this program entitled Love Is Blind (UK version). In it, there are couples who have exhausted all social possibilities of meeting lasting partners and they cho...

Once upon a time there were a generation of parents strung out on their version of peace and love laced with some psychedelic value system that stemmed from a doctor's theory on how to raise a family and another doctor trying to teach you to make your self feel good with self love. Through all of that, we are here today. How do you like it so far? Feel good? Look good? Anything to be pleased about? How does your value system look? Do good and bad have cleared lines of definition? Have you waffled with the bible in maintaining what has been deemed as right for all of these years? How are your long term relationships? How are you living? This entry came from listening to a divorced father talk about how he and his grown son don't get along and the son blames his father for the divorce. The father has distanced himself from his son's views. The divorced father might not feel it's all his fault, but he knows that his son's lack of self control has caused his son much ...

There comes a time for everyone where the best idea is to share your life that you have framed, disciplined, and structured with someone else. The values, ethics, and morals you have studied and believe you have been steadfast, trusting that God is pleased and so will your intended. It is a personal conviction you have determined to maintain and know it will be reciprocated in the person you will either propose to or accept the proposal. There are just a few little matters that must be cleared up for the purpose of no misunderstandings later ( 1 Corinthians 14:33 AMP ). It’s those 3 pesky little questions that can assist in determining if the household will be in harmony or turmoil. Also, if you have ever read any of these entries, you will know that just like a job interview, questions and answers can be memorized. Therefore, it would behoove you to make sure you study the scriptures day and night for good success ( Joshua 1:8 KJV ). It is also the very reason it took this long to g...

There are some people you may consider to be absolutely wonderful. You have never seen him/her speaking a harsh word to anyone and has managed difficult situations masterfully. In school, he/she has prioritized to the point of you being envious with how well they have done throughout their academic career and as an adult, there has been no difference only more improvements. Everyone agrees, if you don't make this person your intended, you have lost the good sense God gave you. Have you met such people? When I was a child, the adults would tell me to watch out for those quiet ones. It was a warning I adhered to until I read in the scriptures to remain quiet shows wisdom ( Proverbs 17:27-28 AMP ). Are both pieces of advise good? Can people show good fruit because they have sown good seed? Why be apprehensive? See, if that question can be answered in part 2 of this dating inquiry:  2. You are so devoted and in love with your intended. This person is everything and more that you've...

The purpose of asking these questions during courtship is solidifying the decision whether to take the relationship to the next level. The interview process is non-committal and there should not be any emotions involved ( Proverbs 4:23 AMP ). The answers will give the other party time to reflect and the one answering the question may also do some self assessing. My son tells me that people are people. My answer, well of course they are. What else can they be? He was trying to make me not expect too much from people. They are who they are. I disagree because the parable of talents tell us otherwise. I can have expectations from those who are adults as opposed to those who are adolescents ( Hebrews 5:12-13 AMP ). God has expectations of those who are maintaining the faith, fighting the good fight, and speaking truth by giving Him the glory. If you expect to be His, then you should be doing the same. The Word tells us, if you are ashamed of Him while on the earth, He will be ashamed of y...