Making It Plain

The title of this entry came when thinking of the failed relationships that claimed heard the Lord’s voice tell him/her that she/ he is the one. It is what we all wish to hear because in our minds we have waited so long and it seems everyone else found their someone while we are still waiting.  How come they got theirs and I’m still waiting for mine. What is taking so long?  There was a woman, Emily who told a younger woman, Ann that if she did not go to her husband and tell him that she is ready to be married, she would have never been married. But Emily failed to tell Ann of all of the hurdles Emily has to jump over and through when she gets home to be her husband's help mete. Yet, Ann pondered what was told to her even when the Word says otherwise for women ( Proverbs 18:22 AMP ). There was a young man, Malachi having a vision and a plan for his life. It included the young lady, Annette whom he has known since he was a child. They were both excited about the future. Having ...

Driving in the February chill of Michigan the roads looked as they always had, as with the trees, the smell of the frost, and the children walking bookbag bound to the destination one presumably believes to be school; but there is no telling these days. It would either seem I had been trapped indoors for so long, I never saw the change happen or could it have been distraction that kept me from seeing what everyone else saw and took for being normal. Am I so far out of the regime that the mere mention of what I know would never have been cause for an uproar? I am believing that I was somehow distracted and never noticed that a woman showing her pregnant stomach would somehow be fashionable. No one asked for the woman to cover herself out of respect of being a mother if nothing else. I sort of wished I did, but I was so surprised at her display,  I wouldn't of had the words.  Then again, they may have not said anything for fear of repercussion of what this woman would have done ...

There is this wonderful, exuberant time in every relationship where the tingles and butterflies pale in comparison with what goes on within you when you see that special person you have agreed to be a major factor in your life.  Don't mistake how great the feeling is when you have a liking for someone and they don't know you even exist - that's cool too especially when you are a child. It's the agreement of two people believing and knowing that the compatibility is everything you could ever think it would be. Having like interests, conversations that aren't difficult, family values are equally treasured, and the roles that each have are obvious and not debatable. Eventually, the conversation changes because you both question where the relationship is going. Is this long term or something to do over the Summer? It's a scary thing to approach if you are immature. Grown folks have had discussions like this before. The sooner you find what the other person is lookin...

 In my profession, I have the responsibility to make sure my clients receive all of the services offered for their optimum physical and emotional well being. In so doing, the services require for the clients to listen to sound advise. Whether they adhere to the advise is their prerogative. The title of this entry came to me after speaking to one of those clients. She had divulged that she was going through a number of procedures that require invasive surgery. I asked if she had exhausted all other possibilities. She responded, "well, it's what the doctor recommended, so..." She had made up her mind. But what was the last pebble on the balance causing her to relinquish the power to seek a second opinion ( Luke 11-21-23 AMP ). What hold did this one doctor have on her? Why couldn't she see that there were simpler ways to resolve the problem, that this was the only body she was going to get, that once her life was gone under the knife, there were not going to be anymore ...

The title of this entry came to me while I was on the couch really watching the sitcom, Mike and Molly for the first time. It was the first season and episode 17; the character of Mike is a police officer. He was sitting in a diner and said the strangest thing to his partner about his new girlfriend, Molly, "I already showed her my A-game when we were dating, now that we are a couple, I don't have the stamina. What does she expect from me?"  Wow! What else is there to say about this? I have had men tell me that I am bashing them and women get all quiet when poignant topics are needed for conversation before the relationship goes too far. Understand the title of this entry goes for both male and female. It is treacherous out there and too many young people get all tangled up in the emotions of it all ( Galatians 5:17-25 AMP ). You see, there is no value in emotion when you walk by faith. Guilt, obligation, desperation, fear, insecurity, jealousy and the like have no plac...

For some its the moment you wake up and for others it's in the middle of the day. It's a childhood memory on a Sunday morning, when food wasn't a thought until the smell of coffee and/or sizzling bacon wafting through the air made you get up and get ready for breakfast. It was an automatic reaction. When that feeling comes across your stomach or a warm inviting aroma comes across your nose, it's like a Pavlov experiment.  In fact, marketing strategists uses that lack of discipline to their advantage. There is this since torn down bakery from a large food corporation in Detroit, Michigan that used to make sure the ventilation system had a fan. The fan blew that baked good aroma out toward the neighborhoods in order to get more customers. There was no denying that fresh smell of bread to make you want some. It's that drive that causes the industry to be the booming business that it is. Children ask why their stomachs rumble at various times and the parents ask, when w...

First impressions…it’s the thing we learn to do when going on a job interview, getting a loan from a bank, meeting his/her parents for the first time, and yes, when we are going on that first date. The things we go through just so the person seeing us initially will believe that you are honest, forthcoming, having integrity, loyalty, with a focused plan for the future. It puts the other person receiving you at ease….well, that’s what we intended, right? But what if…just envision for a moment, the boss from the job interview, the loan officer, the parent of your love interest, or the love interest were in the car with you right in the middle of rush hour and you had 5 minutes to make it to work on time? Or if anyone of the aforementioned were coming to your home unannounced? Or on a day off and your idea of relaxing around the house is to be in your pajamas all day long eating junk food and marinating in your own ilk? Would it matter what impression you made on them then? If so, what’s ...